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Do you think 18 is too young to have a baby?

  1. HeadInTheClouds93 profile image59
    HeadInTheClouds93posted 7 years ago

    Do you think 18 is too young to have a baby?

  2. dhaarnagaurav9 profile image59
    dhaarnagaurav9posted 7 years ago

    to have a baby...? its difficult but my view is
    first a girl have to matured for understating the responsibilities as a wife as a lover and has a mother.
    if you know how to handle a baby according to conditions and how to obey a role of mother then its not so difficult to have a baby in any age.

  3. Beberlee profile image61
    Beberleeposted 7 years ago

    I think that if you have your future in order and you have a good job that you know your not going to lose. Then I say go ahead and have fun. It's not an easy job. I am a mom I was 29 when I had my son and wow no one was kidding when they said it's a hard job. They need you all the time. They sleep less than you do in the begining they wake up like every hour on the hour to eat. Now my son is two now and it still hasn't gotten any easier. Now I am learning the tricks of potty training... I wouldn't change anything though I love being a mom.

  4. Tirzah Laughs profile image82
    Tirzah Laughsposted 7 years ago

    Not always.  For most girls, I would say 18 is too young but that's not true of everyone.

    Babies are not fun.  They are nothing but work, work and more work.  Yes they are sweet and cuddly but they are also a big responsibility.

    Do you have a steady committed relationship?  It helps to have two people working together.

    If that relationship falls apart, can you do it on your own?

    Do you have a good job and a place of your own?   If you can't afford a studio apartment, you can't afford a baby.

    Do you have good health insurance?  Babies get sick.

    How will you handle daycare when you work or go to school?

    Will you feel left out if your friends are out on a Saturday night and you are home because you can't find a sitter or can't spare the money for partying?

    And if the birth doesn't go perfectly, are you prepared for a less than perfect baby?  One that needs special help or constant care?

    Are you emotionally ready for the late nights, the emotional strain, the lack of sleep the first year gives you?

    Do you have a support system to give you the break you'll need?

    If you have a drug, alcohol problem, are you willing to fix that first before having a baby?

    There is no right answer for everyone, this is something you have to decide on your own.  At 18, you should be out of high school and are a legal adult.   Make up your own mind.  Under 18, you are not a legal adult so don't.

    And think about what the baby needs, it's more than love.  Can you provide it?

  5. nightwork4 profile image60
    nightwork4posted 7 years ago

    it depends on the person but i would wait if i were them. 18 is just the beginning of life and the person hasn't even had a chance to start a future.

  6. wychic profile image89
    wychicposted 7 years ago

    I had my son at 19, and I can tell you that, even though I had been living on my own for years and certainly didn't have an issue with adult responsibilities, there were a few things that were complicated by my age as well. However, the complications mostly came from other people who decided that they had the right to be judgmental. It could have also slowed me down in my career, but instead ended up being the inspiration for it -- I wanted a way to stay home and raise my son instead of having to work all the time to pay someone else to do it, so I became a freelance writer.

    Some of the doctors I've known and worked with in this area have also said that teen mothers tend to have a higher pregnancy complication rate, and I do know quite a few of my friends who had babies at the same time had various complications, but I never did have any. I don't know if it had anything to do with my age or if it was just variation between individual babies, but when I had my daughter at 24 (2 1/2 months ago) labor was much more difficult for me than when I had my son.

    Probably the biggest issue I ran into with having my son so early is that when the time came to go to court over custody of him, I was unable to afford a lawyer and it did not turn out well.

    Maturity levels definitely vary from person to person, and I've known people who have made great parents at 17, and others who still weren't ready for it by 30, so that part all comes down to your own personality and experiences.

  7. duffsmom profile image61
    duffsmomposted 7 years ago

    Yes, I do.  Babies are wonderful but at 18 there is so much to see and do.  Once a person has a baby, all of the focus changes to making that little life a good one.  Why not wait...plenty of time.