How to cope with sever sense of rejection and low self-esteem?
What to do when it makes you depressed? Often past memories of traumatic events resurface and trouble you. Being with good friends and reading good books helps. What are the other ways of healing emotional scars?
Hi , This is a tough question , but I know when its rained for days or in Winter months ,people can also feel blah sorta speak . You mentioned Friends & a good book , which does take your mind off things . Things I do is go shopping for " Yourself " , rearange a room in your home or appartment the way " You" like it ,adding haapy color's ,such as reds , yellows , Light blues , Whites , No drab colors ... Sever sense of rejection & low self-esteem are usaully your own thoughts ,so to help yourself .Things you choose to do has to be for you in all cheerful ways
Well, I've never been depressed enough to use self help books or anything like that, but just remind yourself that no one has the right to make you feel inferior. And if they are, its just because of their own personal issues.
I think there's really three separate issues that you're dealing with/talking about there: 1) Sense of rejection, 2) low self-esteem, and 3) depression of one kind of another.
It seems to me that if a person has trouble figuring out ways to cope with/deal with a sense of rejection and/or with low self-esteem, there's the chance whatever has gone on in that person's life was more than he can deal with - and he really needs to seek the help of a professional.
There's a certain kind of processing of traumatic events that has to be done. Being with good friends and reading books may help get a person's mind off things (which is better than NEVER getting one's mind of things), but if the events are more than the person knows how to process himself and/or are just more than anyone could reasonably be expected to process himself; that's when getting some professional help might be the only thing that will really help.
The most appropriate answer for the question isn't necessarily possible, because a lot can depend on what happened, how many bad things happened, how long ago it was, how old the person in question is, and any number of other factors.
Not sure if I can give you the answer you are looking for - I can give you the truth!
WHY ME? Mother was killed when I was about 3-4
FIRST STEP MOTHER was real diligent about severe child abuse for ten years (slamming head into cement wall, break broom handle across back, broke wood spoons over head, ONE OF THE BEATINGS: beat with a plastic hose so there were welts on bottom of feet, in hair on head, all over front and back of torso, arms, legs, and neck. - before her hose - she used a wire coat hanger stretched out to make a long oval, thrown down cellar stairs ... and other tidbits of attention
Dad, second step mother and 2 1/2 year old baby brother were killed on a Thanksgiving Day when I was 20.
MY ANSWER TO YOU:
1 - What to do when it makes you depressed?
Go jogging, walking, help pick up trash at a local park.
Notice what you are doing when you get depressed and stop getting caught in that type space.
2 - Often past memories of traumatic events resurface and trouble you.
When they resurface - it is usually is a point when your mind is idle and has nothing interesting to do - do some fun hobby and get it off your mind.
DO NOT resort to work - because too much work is not good for your ability to relate to others.
Personally - I have done things like start a Cameras Club, co ordinate a couple classic car shows, and am involved in the activities of a local facility which has an indigenous reptile exhibit when I spend time helping kids and adults experience live snakes so they don't panic and kill things which help keep rodents under control in the native ecosystem.
FIND A PASSION AND GET PASSIONATE - I own a classic car and a few snakes which are good ambassadors for fearful people to see up close and start toward allowing them to exist.
It is all UP TO YOU to stop letting it take up your time and fill that time with constructive things to do!
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I can only speak for myself as everyones different, but i find writing a diary helps me. I have wrote a diary since i was a little girl and it is a good way of getting all your thoughts and feelings out. Reading it back also helps yoy to deal with some of the issues that you have
I do the exact opposite of what brings me down. I never dwell on the past.
Sometimes depression is related to how you feel physically. You must train the body to help shape a strong mind. Body and mind go hand in hand.
Keep your mind occupied with more meaningful things like certain hobbies. Listen to music that speaks to your heart. Play an instrument of some sort.
Build your own assets to help build your own self-esteem. Once people start to notice your hard work and art work, they will compliment you and hence bring up your self-esteem.
Read 177 mental toughness secrets of the world class by Steve Siebold.
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