Why do (or don't) confidence and success go hand in hand?
Because over confidence exists. It's why the Poles thought that their horseback machine gunners could face the German Panzer tanks in the totally false flag justification (it was coming anyway) Nazi attack on Poland in 1939.
It's why people (men, mostly) get their wigs split in fights that they weren't qualified for for bumping those gums too much on subjects in which they were "high siding" or "playa hatin'."
Sometimes we build confidence to get our life going. We were inculcated with "look positive," "things would be better," "you have what it takes," etc. Sometimes we have to lie to ourselves to get where we're going; this is confidence. Part of the confidence building by family and friends who may be ignorant what the rest of the world is like helps to strengthen that definition and state. Confidence can be fleeting and when used with intelligent strategy, then success may probably follow. But having confidence alone without assessing what is on hand is delusional. I'm guilty of having one right now.
I think confidence - and I mean real confidence, not fake confidence or over confidence - precedes and succeeds success, in the sense that most often, it is a confident person who goes on to taste success. The success in turn reinforces his confidence.
I have also seen cases where the confidence is lacking or at a very low level and the person - much against his own expectations succeeds - that is the case where some external factor (luck) plays a role. But such situations are not common and in any case out of our control. But, such success also breeds it's own form of confidence.
I have heard that monks who have renounced the world develop the capacity to remain indifferent to success and failure and live a life where they remain detached from all these happenings and neither feel dejected or elated. Such a frame of mind would be very different and I wonder whether confidence is a necessary ingredient for their successes.
But for us mortals in our mundane existence, confidence and success, I would think, go hand in hand.
To reach a high level of success or even a series of small successful steps at something, a person will experience highs, lows and even failures. Deriving confidence from such a process would be extremely unstable. Instead confidence has to come not only from results but from other factors as well. Confidence should go hand and hand with your overall attitude and self assessment. I think of confidence as a skill that is mastered over time.
You have to have confidence in yourself to succeed. Tell yourself you can do it and you are more then likely to succeed. If you think to yourself you cant do it you are just setting yourself up to quit.
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