As a man, do you feel shame to cry?

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   Taleb80posted 11 years ago

   As a man, do you feel shame to cry?
   
   For me, I feel proud, as this confirm that I am a human being with a beating heart.
   
   

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   Dr Pran Ranganposted 11 years ago

   I think it is not shameful for men to cry in certain situations. It will remove or lighten the heaviness of the burden of the situation responsible for making a man cry. But spiritually speaking, if a man has a strong inner-self, he will not cry in any situation due to strong inner resolve, even though possessing a heart full of love and compassion.

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      Taleb80posted 11 years agoin reply to this

      I think that even spiritually, when you see a crying mother who has missed three of her kids due to violence,  you can cry. I respect you point of view.

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   susanzhengposted 11 years ago

   II agree with you, Taleb80.  If I were a man and got hurt or touched emotionally by some body, some event, or when I were extremely happy  I would cry because that means I am human being with a sensitive feeling.   At these moments, if people see a man crying, they will understand your feeling and know that you are a compassionate, empathetic, and sympathetic man with a loving heart. Good luck with your writing.

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      Taleb80posted 11 years agoin reply to this

      I totally I agree with you, thanks for nice wishes.

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   stars439posted 11 years ago

   Good question. I avoid crying as much as possible, but human beings usually have feelings, and hearts no matter how big they think they are. For me it just comes natural when I watch a good movie that tugs at heart strings, and many do.
   So many things can break tender hearts, and many big strong husky men have very tender hearts. Maybe that is what some women find desireable in some men. Women like to try to fix things, especially men that need a lovely arm to lean on . Ha Ha could not resist adding that.
   No harm in a man that cries. I cried many a long long sad eyes over our baby that never was able to walk. I was also a police officer so I know there is nothing wrong for a man that cries. As long as men work, and feed their families thats what matters. God Bless You.

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      Taleb80posted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Sorry for your baby, hope all the best for you & your family. Thanks for the addition.

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   zulumuscleposted 11 years ago

   I personally find it very difficult to cry even when people I love die. I feel the emotion inside but it that not produce tears. Men who cry are one with emotion, sensitive at heart and that is a good thing. I am what many describe as a cold person who does not show emotion, but it does not mean i don't feel it or express it in another form.

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      Taleb80posted 11 years agoin reply to this

      I think that we can not say that who is not crying, is a cold person.

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      Dr Pran Ranganposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      If a man doesn't cry, it doesn't mean that he is a cold person. It may mean that he has more inner stability. A cold person is psychologically different from a normal one.

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      Taleb80posted 11 years agoin reply to this

      I agree. It is a valuable hint. Thanks.

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      CertifiedHandyposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      You have too much pride. I used to be that way because I was taught by my father that men don't cry. Too much pride is not good. We all need balance in our lives

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   Jlbowdenposted 11 years ago

   Yes, I personally feel a bit shameful to have to cry. But again it is a normal expression that shows human emotion, during times of grieving, or other similar times.

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      Taleb80posted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Yes, maybe, it is a normal expression.

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   SAM ELDERposted 11 years ago

   I dont think that crying is shameful. But how many times have you seen men crying for no reason... ? ... none. How many times have you seen women crying for no reason ... ? ...hmmm  ... many times.....
   Generally all human beings cry at some point of their life.The difference is that men cry in privacy, women cry everywhere....
   Crying is considered weakness by some men, so some do not like showing it,.. even to themselves....

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   drsohelposted 11 years ago

   Actually crying is one type of expression of our emotion. It comes naturally and I do not feel shame to cry. But sometimes we had to control emotion for good and in this way we have to control crying.

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   cebutouristspotposted 11 years ago

   It depends on the situation ofcourse but given the right situation I dont feel ashame to cry.

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    mesbakhposted 11 years ago

    no. i think it is normal. i ever cry and it makes me feel much better. it is "humane" activity

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    CertifiedHandyposted 11 years ago

    Before I came to know my God the pride I felt as a man had hardened my heart. I remember the first time I had cried in years. I was in a church full of people and something happened. Earlier I had prayed for God to change my heart. But I had not planned on Him doing it publicly. I started crying. At first I was embarrassed and ashamed. But after a few more purging Sundays, suddenly I didn't care any more. You are right. A man unable to cry is a man who is incomplete. It is a human emotion and in order to be truly human we need to be able to cry, and laugh, and feel fear, courage and hosts of other emotions that define us as human... His In Service

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    Tonipetposted 11 years ago

    To me, its not a shame seeing man cry, nor must men feel shame about it. Real men also have feelings. It's the dictates of the "macho" genre that has limited men to deny themselves the all out freedom of this expression, and to which influenced our minds that crying is not of men's. When a man cries, it could stop things in a moment, meaning, the world understands what's he's into that moment is no joke. Even real men cries, but that doesn't diminish anything in him, he's still very much masculine.
    
    Asking this here shows the real man in you, Taleb80, nothing to hide. Thanks for being one. Blessings!

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       Taleb80posted 11 years agoin reply to this

       Your discussion enriches the topic. Thanks

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    nasser deepposted 11 years ago

    I think crying is good for men as much as it is for women. Crying has a cleansing effect on heart and soul. Different emotions can find resolution only in sincere tears.

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