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As a man, do you feel shame to cry?

  1. Taleb80 profile image82
    Taleb80posted 4 years ago

    As a man, do you feel shame to cry?

    For me, I feel proud, as this confirm that I am a human being with a beating heart.

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  2. Dr Pran Rangan profile image87
    Dr Pran Ranganposted 4 years ago

    I think it is not shameful for men to cry in certain situations. It will remove or lighten the heaviness of the burden of the situation responsible for making a man cry. But spiritually speaking, if a man has a strong inner-self, he will not cry in any situation due to strong inner resolve, even though possessing a heart full of love and compassion.

    1. Taleb80 profile image82
      Taleb80posted 4 years agoin reply to this

      I think that even spiritually, when you see a crying mother who has missed three of her kids due to violence,  you can cry. I respect you point of view.

  3. susanzheng profile image81
    susanzhengposted 4 years ago

    II agree with you, Taleb80.  If I were a man and got hurt or touched emotionally by some body, some event, or when I were extremely happy  I would cry because that means I am human being with a sensitive feeling.   At these moments, if people see a man crying, they will understand your feeling and know that you are a compassionate, empathetic, and sympathetic man with a loving heart. Good luck with your writing.

    1. Taleb80 profile image82
      Taleb80posted 4 years agoin reply to this

      I totally I agree with you, thanks for nice wishes.

  4. stars439 profile image74
    stars439posted 4 years ago

    Good question. I avoid crying as much as possible, but human beings usually have feelings, and hearts no matter how big they think they are. For me it just comes natural when I watch a good movie that tugs at heart strings, and many do.
    So many things can break tender hearts, and many big strong husky men have very tender hearts. Maybe that is what some women find desireable in some men. Women like to try to fix things, especially men that need a lovely arm to lean on . Ha Ha could not resist adding that.
    No harm in a man that cries. I cried many a long long sad eyes over our baby that never was able to walk. I was also a police officer so I know there is nothing wrong for a man that cries. As long as men work, and feed their families thats what matters. God Bless You.

    1. Taleb80 profile image82
      Taleb80posted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Sorry for your baby, hope all the best for you & your family. Thanks for the addition.

  5. zulumuscle profile image71
    zulumuscleposted 4 years ago

    I personally find it very difficult to cry even when people I love die. I feel the emotion inside but it that not produce tears. Men who cry are one with emotion, sensitive at heart and that is a good thing. I am what many describe as a cold person who does not show emotion, but it does not mean i don't feel it or express it in another form.

    1. Taleb80 profile image82
      Taleb80posted 4 years agoin reply to this

      I think that we can not say that who is not crying, is a cold person.

    2. Dr Pran Rangan profile image87
      Dr Pran Ranganposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      If a man doesn't cry, it doesn't mean that he is a cold person. It may mean that he has more inner stability. A cold person is psychologically different from a normal one.

    3. Taleb80 profile image82
      Taleb80posted 4 years agoin reply to this

      I agree. It is a valuable hint. Thanks.

    4. CertifiedHandy profile image80
      CertifiedHandyposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      You have too much pride. I used to be that way because I was taught by my father that men don't cry. Too much pride is not good. We all need balance in our lives

  6. Jlbowden profile image91
    Jlbowdenposted 4 years ago

    Yes, I personally feel a bit shameful to have to cry. But again it is a normal expression that shows human emotion, during times of grieving, or other similar times.

    1. Taleb80 profile image82
      Taleb80posted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Yes, maybe, it is a normal expression.

  7. SAM ELDER profile image75
    SAM ELDERposted 4 years ago

    I dont think that crying is shameful. But how many times have you seen men crying for no reason... ? ... none. How many times have you seen women crying for no reason ... ? ...hmmm  ... many times.....
    Generally all human beings cry at some point of their life.The difference is that men cry in privacy, women cry everywhere....
    Crying is considered weakness by some men, so some do not like showing it,.. even to themselves....

  8. drsohel profile image75
    drsohelposted 4 years ago

    Actually crying is one type of expression of our emotion. It comes naturally and I do not feel shame to cry. But sometimes we had to control emotion for good and in this way we have to control crying.

  9. cebutouristspot profile image76
    cebutouristspotposted 4 years ago

    It depends on the situation ofcourse but given the right situation I dont feel ashame to cry.

  10. mesbakh profile image60
    mesbakhposted 4 years ago

    no. i think it is normal. i ever cry and it makes me feel much better. it is "humane" activity

  11. CertifiedHandy profile image80
    CertifiedHandyposted 4 years ago

    Before I came to know my God the pride I felt as a man had hardened my heart. I remember the first time I had cried in years. I was in a church full of people and something happened. Earlier I had prayed for God to change my heart. But I had not planned on Him doing it publicly. I started crying. At first I was embarrassed and ashamed. But after a few more purging Sundays, suddenly I didn't care any more. You are right. A man unable to cry is a man who is incomplete. It is a human emotion and in order to be truly human we need to be able to cry, and laugh, and feel fear, courage and hosts of other emotions that define us as human... His In Service

  12. Tonipet profile image83
    Tonipetposted 4 years ago

    To me, its not a shame seeing man cry, nor must men feel shame about it. Real men also have feelings. It's the dictates of the "macho" genre that has limited men to deny themselves the all out freedom of this expression, and to which influenced our minds that crying is not of men's. When a man cries, it could stop things in a moment, meaning, the world understands what's he's into that moment is no joke. Even real men cries, but that doesn't diminish anything in him, he's still very much masculine.

    Asking this here shows the real man in you, Taleb80, nothing to hide. Thanks for being one. Blessings!

    1. Taleb80 profile image82
      Taleb80posted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Your discussion enriches the topic. Thanks

  13. nasser deep profile image75
    nasser deepposted 4 years ago

    I think crying is good for men as much as it is for women. Crying has a cleansing effect on heart and soul. Different emotions can find resolution only in sincere tears.

 
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