Ever find that crying really helps sometimes?

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   JenPaxtonposted 12 years ago

   Ever find that crying really helps sometimes?
   
   Ever just had a good cry?  Or have something slightly awful happen and crying helped make everything feel better for a little while?  Been doing some post-breaking up crying even though I was the one who broke up with him (obviously not because I didn't love him), and I must admit, it's quite theraputic...
   
   Anyone want to share a crying story?
   
   Also, did anyone, when they were a child, ever read the Owl At Home books?  One story in particular that I used to like was Tear-Water tea... always made me feel better about crying!

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   Inspired to writeposted 12 years ago

   Hi Jen
   
   Deep within the forests & mountain plains of internal bliss & tropical weather without western society rules & regulations there lives tribes folk & their families, each member, once a negative situation arises, their argument, disagreement family death or whatever will be put forth for the village chief to create a vote session, to decide the outcome of the individual(s) for their personal best outlook &/or ailment remedy/aid would be, to go far away, out of site & out of mind, once there, peacefully, they become human once again & SHOUT OUT, for as long as as LOUD as they possibly can until, they feel relieved of their emotional turmoil enabling them to cope once more!
   
   What do these ancient folk know what we don't? Not to bottle up emotions nothing more & nothing less.
   
   Even though you stopped your relationship obviously, you will find it difficult for a spell because things will now change it all breaks your heart for many more reasons too but, you, must know what you want therefore, you have decided for the best outcome for it is your life first, & obviously, something in your relationship is just not right for you.
   
   Be strong.
   
   Regards Dale

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   iviskeiposted 12 years ago

   It helps to cry when I am truely upset simply because it wears me out. When I'm worn out, I stop thinking about things that make me sad and the result of that makes a happier me. I don't like to cry around other people, and I'm usually always around people. If I talk about what is making me sad to other people I'm able to get it off my chest and forget about it.

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   ChitrangadaSharanposted 12 years ago

   There is hardly anyone, who did not have to cry for some reason or the other. There are people who cry and feel better when someone comforts them.  But there are people who do not want to cry before others. It is an individual nature.
   I have my full sympathies with you, as I can understand, how it feels after a broken relationship. But still, I would say, please move on and get over your past. There is so much more to life. As they say, Laugh and the world laughs with you,cry and you cry alone. I wish you to be strong and positive about LIFE-- the precious gift given to us by God.

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   Cre8torposted 12 years ago

   @ Inspired to write - Very interesting and I love the example.
   @ MickS - I disagree almost whole-heartedly.
   
   Where I do agree with Mick is that perhaps there is a time and place and that in the midst of a bad situation, it woudn't help. In order to make it through an immediate situation, staying as calm and collected as possible would be important but in the longer term, crying, hollering, etc... are great emotional releases and important to our mental health. Sadly, I haven't shed a tear in longer than I care to admit and fear I've become more calus than I'd ever wanted to.
   
   In exchange for tears, I have boxing gear so when I feel I need to release, to the "gym" I go. To each their own but I do feel that having an outlet for emotional realease is absolutely necessary for a happier life. Fact: Boxng, running, karate, and other physically agressive activities are becoming quite popular in treating depression and anger issues.

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      Inspired to writeposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you Cre8tor, self focused (inwards) workouts, & especially striking aggressively a punch bag boy, does it release tension.
      
      Regards Dale

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   whittwritesposted 12 years ago

   I hate to say this because I am a man, but there are times in certain situations when a good cry has helped me relieve the grief or stress I am feeling.

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   Good Guyposted 12 years ago

   Yes, crying is a natural therapeutic release of negative emotions be they frustration, anger, sorrow, or what have you.  It is specially so when you shed a tear or two in the quietness of being alone by yourself.

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   briars2rosesposted 12 years ago

   I don't remember the Owl At Home books.   But I do know that crying is theraputic, sometimes its the only way I can release all that has built up inside me.   And whether you ended the relationship or not, we all go through a grieving process even if it's the worst relationship on earth. 
   
   About sharing an experience... I wouldn't know where to start.   I have lived apart from my husband over a year now.   Sometimes I think I am fine, and sometimes I feel like my heart is breaking and I cannot take any more.   It's at those times that the only thing that helps is just letting it all out.   I just know that after I let it all out I have peace again.

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   jennshealthstoreposted 12 years ago

   Of course crying helps. It is a natural way to express our emotions. It is a release. The longer you hold something in, the longer it will take to start healing. Crying is a way to confront the situation. I know a lot of people just say move on, why cry about it? If you do that without healing it is sure to come up again in the future. I think crying can be a great tool!

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    edhanposted 12 years ago

    Yes. I do believe having a good cry helps the person to release the pains that felt in the heart.
    
    Rather than keeping inside, an outburst of crying will release all the uncomfortable feeling of sadness and it will be a relieve thereafter.
    
    It is better than keeping inside as the outburst at later stage will be disaster.

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