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Is 22 is too old for a man?

  1. tuteramanda profile image60
    tuteramandaposted 4 years ago

    Is 22 is too old for a man?

    I feels my youth memory is far away from me ,it seems too much painful memory has split my soul into pieces.

  2. definitions profile image59
    definitionsposted 4 years ago

    No way!  22 is so young!  I am in my late 30s but I feel that this is very young too.  Actually to me, 60 is young!

    1. tuteramanda profile image60
      tuteramandaposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      being a young heart forever really wonderful

  3. Candicetricks profile image59
    Candicetricksposted 4 years ago

    I am a 18 year old girl but I do have the feeling that I am just 13. 22 is NOT at all old man's mind. Yes. As year pass, your thoughts will change, you will be more cleared, Sometimes you will have the chance of acting too childish, sometimes in a teen way, sometimes so matured. In my opinion that is a age. Why are you feeling, man. 22 is like kid, enjoy yourself, don't listen to the silly bad heart, listen to your kind good destinated mind.

    1. tuteramanda profile image60
      tuteramandaposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      thanks candicetricks, my friends often says girls are mature earlier than boys ,it might ture,thanks your suggestion

  4. ChristinS profile image96
    ChristinSposted 4 years ago

    Age is a number. Plenty of young people mope around feeling sorry for themselves thinking they are "old" and many older people I know live life fully and energetically and are much more youthful than their younger counterparts.

      If you feel a pity party at 22 I hate to think how you'll feel at 30, 40 and beyond.  Life is amazing at any age - it's what you do with it.  If you stay stuck in the past you can't make the most of now.

    1. tuteramanda profile image60
      tuteramandaposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      thanks,christin,maybe i am a little sensitive and emotional

  5. Lisa HW profile image73
    Lisa HWposted 4 years ago

    At 22 your brain and skeleton aren't even completely matured, so 22 is far from old.  In fact, a lot of people over 50 or 60 will tell you that they feel as young now as they did when they were much younger. 

    If you have painful memories and/or things that are making you feel unhappy now it's has nothing to do with "old".  It has to do with "unhappy" (or "dealing with difficult memories").

    Even people who are fairly happy in life, though, may tend to feel less than happy in their early twenties because they can feel like they got to the adulthood they'd been waiting so long to get to, only to discover how many more challenges there can be in order for a person to get from "just being an adult" to being "where he really wants to be in life".  People often imagine how great it will be to get to adulthood before they're really there.  Then when they get there it can be kind of a let-down in a lot of ways - at least until someone has some more time to build his life to be more what he wants it to be.

    In this day and age, it may be even more difficult for young adults, just starting out, to get to where they feel as if they "have it all together" as far as their life and aims and happiness go.

    If you have painful memories, there's at least the chance that you haven't had enough time yet for time to do its job of making those memories feel less acute.  At only 22, there's also the chance you haven't had enough time to build up some new, nice, memories/elements in your life that can kind of "replenish" you "mental energy".

    If you could do this, it may be helpful to find a counselor who can put some of what you're dealing with in a better perspective than someone as young as you is able to do.  When particular big and painful things go on, or when too many bad things happen, when a person is young; the person is often too young to have gotten some practice with coping skills and perspective.

    Best of luck to you.  It sure seems to me that whatever has happened in your life has been a lot for someone as young as you to know how to process as well as someone older may be able to do.  Time should help some, but in the meantime try to find things that may help you get your mind off what is painful, and try to focus on happier, or least neutral, things.   (Give your mind a rest as much as you can.)  We can't make time pass more quickly, so giving your mind a mental rest whenever you can has to sometimes be the next best thing.

    1. tuteramanda profile image60
      tuteramandaposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      I dont know whether  i am mature enough,i just experience so much bad memory,maybe i am so sensitive and emotional that easily be hurt,but if i express my sensitive , others  will consider me not man enough.

    2. Abby Campbell profile image95
      Abby Campbellposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      tuteramanda - Don't live in the past. When we live in the past, we live in our suffering. We must live in the present. Each day is new and brings new things to the forefront of our lives. Focus on those. wink

  6. robhampton profile image98
    robhamptonposted 4 years ago

    Well, I am 42 and don't feel too bad. They say that 40 is the new 30! lol

    1. tuteramanda profile image60
      tuteramandaposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      that's interesting,rob

  7. duffsmom profile image59
    duffsmomposted 4 years ago

    22.   Your life is just beginning. There is so much ahead and at this point in your life you can do or be anything you want to.  You have a precious gift and that is the gift of time.  Life passes quickly but now is the time to pick a path and strive ahead.  I am 61 and many things are now closed to me, health changes, physical ability and attractiveness change.  Enjoy 22, savor every precious moment.

    1. tuteramanda profile image60
      tuteramandaposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      thanks  mom, i would preciou my young lifetime, strive ahead may be the best choice for young people