What do you do when you feel like giving up?

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   peeplesposted 10 years ago

   What do you do when you feel like giving up?
   
   (NOT SUICIDAL) What things do you do when you feel like a failure or feel like giving up that gives you strength?

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   AnniesHealthTalkposted 10 years ago

   The most important thing is to spend time talking to a close friend or family member. Humans are social creatures, so talking about things helps relieve stress. Socializing with someone you love also keeps you from feeling alone. You can find strength through support of those you love!

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      gmwilliamsposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      ++++++++++++++++++++++++ in agreement!

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   dashingscorpioposted 10 years ago

   Generally speaking people who feel this way are trapped into only thinking about (now). This keeps them from having long-term view perspective about life.
   Hypothetically imagine a 7 year old boy who is bullied by a 9 year old boy. Every time he sees the older child his heart races, he shakes, and fights the urge to pee on himself. In his (limited) view of life he can't imagine some day graduating from high school, going to college, falling in love, finding a good job, starting a business, having a family of his own, and traveling around the world. The only thing he can think about or imagine is what it's going to feel like if this 9 year old catches him and punches him in the face!
   Depression is all about "short-term thinking". It's imagining that tomorrow is going to be just like today! Whenever people (allow) themselves to have such a narrow view of life it intensifies their depression. Some reach a point of feeling there is no reason to go on living.
   The first thing I do when I'm blindsided by a disappointment of some kind is I tell myself; "A year from now you'll be laughing at this."
   This accomplishes two things immediately. The first thing is it forces me keep things in perspective. Whatever I may be going through or feeling is in fact (temporary).
   Secondly it takes me mentally to thoughts of a "future tense" scenario where I'm on the other side of the issue sharing my experience with friends and family laughing about how I felt at that moment. Success often has a way of making past struggles humorous.
   The next thing I do is try to find some quiet time and think about all my available options. This may take a few days or a week to sort out but eventually "instinct" or some sort serendipity or "aha" moment kicks in. This may happen while walking/exercising..etc
   The only actual cure I've found for depression is taking action. Simply focus on what you (can do) today and gradually step by step things get better. Another "trick" I use is I always have (something) on my calendar to "look forward to".  It doesn't have to be a "major event" just as long as it's something (you) want to see or witness. It may even have to do with your child's activity, an upcoming movie, anniversary, party, vacation destination, a play, concert, reunion, or holiday festivities.
   One of the reasons people stay depressed for long periods is because they don't have anything to "look forward to".
   Life is a personal journey. Enjoy the highs and learn from the lows. 
   One man's opinion! :-)

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      gmwilliamsposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      +1,000.000.000.000.000.000.000.000.000.000.000.000.000.000.000.000 totally!

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   Kiss andTalesposted 10 years ago

   Sorry you have been overwhelm with this feeling . If you are having these emotions it could be more then one thing, in these days there are a number of contributors of these feelings,  did you know certain medicine can cause this helpless feeling ,giving you a chemical in balance , lacking sunshine is another known fact. Mental illness trigured in genes, anxiety, foods ,Pepsi, or coke, real sugar. And many more can trigger mental spirrowing to your lowes point.
   
   You can try to change your diet, and if it social that causes mental stress then change your setting.
   You can fight these feelings that overcome you. We have so many good things to look forward to and each day holds it's own worth, but always remember tommorow will never be like yesterday . Life is still full of wonderful surprises, and we have not really started the real life . We have been promised a future of a beautiful paradise. When we can live endlessly in happiness. Yes this world we live in seems hopeless and full of problems, badness ,wickedness, not for long
   
   Reference Bible 2Pe 3:13 But there are new heavens and a new earth that we are awaiting according to his promise, and in these righteousness is to dwell.
   
   We have a promise made to us , to receive it we must hang in there , and
   Remember tommorow could be the beginning of that promise .
   
   Reference Bible Isa 66:22 “For just as the new heavens and the new earth that I am making are standing before me,” is the utterance of Jehovah, “so the offspring of YOU people and the name of YOU people will keep standing.”

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   pocono foothillsposted 10 years ago

   Watch or read some positive motivational materials, like Tony Robbins, and keep in the front of my mind that the ONLY way a person can fail at anything is to quit.

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   Sri Tposted 10 years ago

   Immediately read inspirational and motivational material, books on problem solving, quotes from search engines, scriptures etc. Understand that it is only due to the wrong thoughts that the person is thinking. Next,  go into solution mode. Write down exactly what the problem is. Know that there are many solutions. Ask the mind for the perfect solution. Then look for it in books, the internet, Amazon, magazines articles, yellow pages, call other people who solved the problem or who can help, go any place where the solution can be found. Find as much information as possible. Then make a long list of the solutions by brainstorming without judging the ideas. Keep asking the mind for the perfect solution, especially before going to sleep. Each day, sit for twenty minutes and list more solutions. At some point, the write solution will be discovered. If not, then try putting the best ones into action until the problem is solved. Never look at the problem as unsolvable. See it as already solved or that it is just a matter of time. Don't get discouraged or disappointed by people who don't want to help. Keep going until you find the right people who will help. A lot of it is based on persistence, faith, and staying positive in the face of whatever experiences happen. No matter what happens, the mind can always return to a fresh, new start if a person lets go of what did not work, or the people who won't help. Approach new people with a positive attitude. Polish your skills or get more skills. Learn how to influence people from books or courses. Ask more people for help. It is a question of will. What are you willing to do, and how many attempts will you try. Also, you are never a failure. There are simply ideas that did not work. Clear the neative thoughts and feelings out every day.  Try better ideas.

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      Sri Tposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      The negative thoughts cause the feelings of wanting to give up. Those thoughts have to be changed. And lastly, don't quit until you find the right solution or a better direction to go in.

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   lynsposted 10 years ago

   Get that thought out of my head, everyday not going to be glorious realize.
   Read positive things like post cards on facebook or positive blogs, books etc.    Thirdly realize that this to shall pass sometimes it's just emotions getting out of hand inside the mind.  Get a good night rest and pray that things get better soon.

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   Richard Gonzalezposted 10 years ago

   We are all products of our environment and we learn to adapt. In order to not feel the sense of failure you must know yourself and you're idea of Value. Understand what you value most in life (family friends love etc.) And use that to build your strength again so that you're contribution to society has meaning. That builds strength and character.

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   realtalk247posted 10 years ago

   Re-program yourself. 
   Pour into your mindset inspirational and spiritual inspiration (Joel Olsteen).
   Help others.  There is nothing more powerful to getting out of yourself and helping someone else.
   Spend time with family and friends, they accept you for who you are, they love you for you.
   Count your blessings name them 1 by one.
   If you have your mind and health then you have the ability to change your life. 
   Understand that not everything you do will be successful immediately but changes occur over time. Obstacles and set backs will occur-that's life.  Understand it is up to you if they help or defeat you. 
   
   ****I think it's important for some people to get professional psychological assistance if they need it.

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    amiebutchkoposted 10 years ago

    I go to church and apply the gospel to my life.  I pray, cry a little and I eat chocolate peanut butter cup ice cream.  Wait a day.  It always helps.

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       Oscarlitesposted 10 years agoin reply to this

       I agree!  its ok to quit for a minute, and pull over and have an ice cream. If the heart is sincere, an answer will come, "Ask what ye will and it shall be given you. "  Seek and ye shall find, Knock and it shall be opened unto you!  Ask Seek, Knock.

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    FeniqueSposted 10 years ago

    I push even harder.  Why? Because it becomes a personal challenge when those feeling start to creep in when my eyes are wide shut. 
    Go here:
     
    https://www.facebook.com/AmputeeUSA/pho … tab=photos
    https://www.facebook.com/AmputeeUSA/photos_stream
    and look at these beautiful individuals, myself being one of these.   You'll see that what ever it is that has you feeling like this.  Will kick start you into a step back and access the situation and take it head on in logical maximum over drive.  What ever it is make it or see it as a challenge, think of other things you faced and have overcome and at that time it as the same feeling of failure and wanting to give up...But you didn't and you won.  And you will again.

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    kndashy41posted 10 years ago

    My answer? When you're at the end of your rope, tie a knot and hang on.  As long as there's life, there's hope.  Each new day brings the promise of another chance to try again.  Remember, don't give up 5 seconds before the miracle!

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    Sparkleaposted 10 years ago

    I keep going, no matter what.  I talk to God and I scream at God, and I tell Him EXACTLY how I feel.  THAT way I'm safe.  I have not hurt or offended another human being.  If I am angry at someone I write a scathing letter to God.
    If I am correct, I think I have seen on HP that you do not believe in God.  You have that right and I do not dispute you at all.  We all have our personal beliefs.
    That being said, please remember you are not an accident.  You are meant to be on this planet for a reason.  Life is, and always will be, a mystery.  No matter what, everyone of us experiences emotions that change.
    I hang on to one mantra: This Too Shall Pass.  And my feelings of wanting to give up, always pass...and you are not alone.  I think everyone tends to feel this way at times because it is a normal human emotion.
    If I had a nickel for every time I felt like a failure I would be a millionaire!
    One more thing:  suggestion:  get your sleep.  When I am exhausted, I sometimes feel like the world is crashing.  A good night's sleep makes all the difference.  Blessings, hope this helps, Sparklea

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    Sayyeda Zonahposted 10 years ago

    It totally means losing your hope! Its your life not some easy pickle that you just quit from it.

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    JThomp42posted 10 years ago

    There is no rainbow without the rain... there is no "Strength" without pain. You are more than a conqueror..... You have made it through everything this life has thrown at you! Be blessed my friend!!

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    MizBejabbersposted 10 years ago

    I’ve been there several times in my life, and you know what, I’ve discovered that life moves in cycles. I used to work with a man whose favorite saying was, “this too shall pass.” He would make me so angry and frustrated when he said that, sometimes I just wanted to throw something at him, but he was right. In the meantime, I have a good support system of metaphysical friends that I talk to. We talk to each other because we all go through life’s troubles. I find them to be more understanding and helpful than talking to family.
    Years ago I tried a professional counselor, but if I’d followed her advice, it would have made the situation worse, and I would have regretted it. Self-help and motivational materials make me want to throw up. I don’t want a rah-rah when I need a good listener and someone who lets me talk it through. I want down-to-earth advice from someone who’s been there, done that. Even if the person tells me that she handled her situation wrong, I learn not to do that.
    Sometimes when you feel that an elephant is sitting on your face – or your pocketbook -- all that can be done is to wait it out because Saturn or Mercury is in retrograde.

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    villyvackerposted 10 years ago

    Get a pen and a blank piece of paper. First of all write down three things that make you happy, no matter how small or big. Now write down three people that inspire you, whether it's a family member or a superstar celebrity. All the while you are doing this, be sure to have a smile on your face (even if you have to force it). Now write down three places in the world that make you happy and DO NOT stop smiling. Next write down three songs that make you happy, followed by three people that make you laugh. Stop a moment and look at what you have got wrote down. Remember keep smiling. Now write down three things, in life, you would like to do, no matter how unrealistic, but would make you happy. Now write down three films you enjoy watching and, yep you've guessed it, make you happy. Next make a sad face...........only kidding, start smiling again. Now write down three things you have done in your life that have made other people happy. This list will not perform miracles, but it is your list that you refer to whenever you feel down. If a million people wrote a similar list, not one of them with be the same as yours. It's not an answer to everything, but it's a start. Hope it helps.

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    M. T. Dremerposted 10 years ago

    I usually tell myself one of two things. One: you've put too much into it to give up now. I'm a writer and I often feel like whatever project I'm working on isn't good enough. But for the amount of time and work I've put into it, it is unjustifiable that I should abandon it all.
    
    And two: all that time you waste on felling like a failure could be spent doing something. I hum and haw about not getting enough work done or doing something poorly and it just gets to a point where I realize that complaining about it isn't getting me any closer to my goal. Which is why my number one piece of advice for writers is: don't be afraid to write crap. Writing ANYTHING, no matter how bad, is better than writing nothing. And I believe the same is true when thoughts of giving up are threatening to overtake you.

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    Daveadamposted 10 years ago

    You can't feel like a failure or feel like giving up, unless your at the time "thinking" about failure or giving up..The answer is to learn how to stop, then remove the thoughts which we're causing the feelings..It may seem impossible to stop negative thoughts, but it's easily done after a lot of practice over a good few months..Mindfulness distraction + emotions & feelings control practice, all free on utube by Eckhart Tolle. :-)

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    seankarlo21posted 10 years ago

    just pray to our lord,everything that is happening in this world has a reason.you should think that i was only challenges in life.

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    Yousif Mohammedposted 10 years ago

    I turn to my Lord and ask forgiveness, strength and ease.
    
    I also ignore the whisperings of Satan and tell him to stfu.

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    mikejhcaposted 10 years ago

    When I feel like giving up it is usually because I don't seem to be getting closer to accomplishing my goals. It is the lack of progress that makes me feel like quitting. I try to find ways to start making progress again. Taking small steps and keeping track of my progress helps. Sometimes I need to go backwards before I can start moving forward again.
    
    I felt like giving up on my fat loss routine. Then I came up with a better one. After starting the new routine I could tell that I was losing fat every day. That kept me motivated. Recently I started doing an exercise, that allowed me to do another, that allowed me to do another exercise, etc. Instead of not making any progress I took small steps towards my goal. I am working towards doing push ups with my legs in the air.

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    manatita44posted 10 years ago

    Go for a run or go for a swim. Going to dance classes will encourage you to meet social people and to chat. Are those your thing? Why do you feel like giving up? It may be useful to lesson your expectations and attachments. Other humans - incuding priests - do and will continue to feel like you. You are really not so alone. Talk to a positive confidante.
    
    You have a young-looking and beautiful face, Peebles. Address why you feel like giving up. What comes up? disappointment? bereavement? lack of money? relationships? illness? Environment/
    
    Finally, I am a god-lover but left this part for last. Pray! talk to God. Invoke His presence and talk to Him. Sincerely, soulfully and for a few days a.m. and before retiring. Prayer is the answer to all life's questions.

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    Raunaqueposted 10 years ago

    Hi,
    Your question is so real. The first step is just make sure you are healthy and not compromising with your well-being. Close your eyes and think why you took up that assignment in the first place. Have patience. Taking a step back does not mean retreating. It gives time to re-evaluate and re-energize yourself. Do not try to change your mood deliberately, talk to someone who takes you at your face value. A person who knows you from the time even before you started doing this assignment. A person who doesn't mind your success or failures. Your existence is the only reason that person is with you. No, I am not judging you. Then move forward in small steps and they will become leaps gradually. Talk to your inner self. Go to the Church or a place known as the landmarks of faith. Have a conversation. Cry out if you want to. Scream out if you want to. After the moment has passed, move on

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