Why low self esteem affects individuals?

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  1. DDE profile image26
    DDEposted 4 years ago

    Why low self esteem affects individuals?

    Low self-esteem is a problem with many individuals  do you think children learn  from their parents and that is how their lives are affected  when older?

  2. Harishprasad profile image81
    Harishprasadposted 4 years ago

    You are quite right. Parents has a big role in how children develop their psyche to deal with themselves and the world at large. The persons suffering from low esteem have no proper guidance either from their parents, peers, society, teachers and friends. Also, they have not read good literature to learn about nicer traits and free thinking. In my view, parents should be honest about everything about them i.e. their financial position, their thoughts, their outlook and their general idea about the way of life. First of all, children should be told frankly that nothing in this world is given      on a platter. We all have to work hard to earn everything, wealth,                                honor, fame and whatever one dreams for or aspires of. The one   trait that is most important to be ingrained in children is "self-  esteem "and one trait to be discouraged is "covetousness ".   When the children are told that their talents and skills are far   more important and  to be appreciated, nurtured and polished to   the maximum with hard work and love, they refuse to be  overawed by the glitter of the world around them. Children   should also be taught to appreciate brighter traits in others with all  respect without harboring inferiority complex in their minds.  Though children learn from their outer environment later on, this  basic structure will make them foolproof from any low self esteem.  when they face onslaughts of life later on. Isn't it  interesting to note that no two individuals are alike in color,  shape, thoughts and so many things like our unique fingerprints.  This peculiar and special uniqueness is our real esteem and not  our status in life, wealth, possessions and knowledge.

    1. DDE profile image26
      DDEposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Great answer thank you.

    2. Harishprasad profile image81
      Harishprasadposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Devika, it is so kind of you to have selected my answer as the best answer. I cannot describe how delighted I am to receive this honor from you !  It is like a treasure to me. Thank you very much.

  3. Sri T profile image78
    Sri Tposted 4 years ago

    Yes, most kids are in for a beat down until they develop a thought process. Because they don't know right from wrong, some parents go overboard with rage and violence. So right out the gate most kids have to endure domination and extreme authority. Then the schools take over with reward and punishment. Although some of it is necessary, a lot of it is ego driven by teachers who enjoy attacking kids who have not developed self esteem. It's the inner bully in them. Then the job takes over. The management or the bosses continue the punishments and threats, sometimes for no reason or just to feel superior. With those type of bosses, its important to at least feel ranked above others since they are not necessarily going to make a fortune. Somewhere on this path a person has to wake up and say "enough". I love myself regardless of what "everybody" on this planet thinks of me. That is the beginning of liberation. Then they have to learn to keep feeding their mind and feelings with love, positive affirmations and encouragement. Those who really want to have the ultimate freedom must become the shot caller. Standing on their own, self employed, not working beneath anyone. Then they don't have to tolerate or play anybody's games.

    1. DDE profile image26
      DDEposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Most kids suffer from poor guidance and knowledge from their parents. Thank you for telling me more.

  4. dashingscorpio profile image86
    dashingscorpioposted 4 years ago

    During the "formative" years both the parents and peer groups have a strong influence on a child. Ideally the parent can help plant positive self-affirming beliefs into their child before they start attending school.
    Parents who do not nurture the minds of their children will have an uphill battle trying to convince the child he/she is worthwhile when their peers are mistreating them at school. It's important to praise and instill confidence early on in a child's life.
    It does very little good for parents to tell their teenage daughter she is beautiful when no boy will ask her out on date or take her to the prom. The girl will simply disbelieve what her parents say because "her reality" states otherwise.
    Self-esteem is not about lying to yourself. It's about loving yourself and being happy in your own skin. Doing what is best for you and staying true to yourself. With confidence comes self-esteem.

    1. DDE profile image26
      DDEposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you dashingscorpio your answer is very helpful.

  5. manatita44 profile image83
    manatita44posted 4 years ago

    The psychologist will have numerous reasons. Ultimately It is a question of consciousness, energy. When the energy is high, low self-esteem goes away and when we are low, it returns together with negative thoughts.

    People can destroy us yes, but only because we ourselves are insecure and not yet strong enough to resist. In other words, the consciousness or energy is low and needs to be nurtured or harvested. This can only be done by prayer, love of Him, selfless service and wholesome thoughts.

    1. DDE profile image26
      DDEposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you and a well thought of answer

 
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