How come miserable people enjoy thwarting others' happiness?

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   kndashy41posted 10 years ago

   How come miserable people enjoy thwarting others' happiness?
   
   I am in a situation, presently, where I am dogged by individuals who are either incredibly stupid or incredibly ignorant and hate-filled.  I am having the time of my life in my early 40's, I am in remission and in excellent health by the grace of God and I am doing what I love most...writing.  But the adversary sends its minions to try to "kill and destroy."  I don't have time for anybody's ignorant shit.  So, how do I get rid of "energy vampires" (jerks)  after I've made it crystal clear I truly don't care to be bothered by them?  Any suggestions?

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   Nicole Nichols-Smposted 10 years ago

   First I want to say, congratulations on your health, I am sure you have heard of the saying "Misery Loves Company" there are people who are only happy when others are miserable. These individuals are usually petty and jealous due to their own poor choices. They are often very negative and draining to be around. I have people like that in my life too. I have learned if I don't want my dreams squashed I do not share my dreams with that person. If I need advice on a decision I am working on I try to work it out on my own because more often than not my loved ones would not have my best interest at heart but their own selfish interest instead. Besides that I am the one that has to live with what ever results in my decision making process anyway. I also no longer seek out their approval which was something that took a while to learn. I used to run everything I did by this person looking for encouragement but mostly received negative response which left me feeling defeated. I think you need to determine who your actual allies are and what kind of feedback do you receive from them. Be selective on who you share your thoughts with and what kind of thoughts. I do believe having a positive mindset is key to ones health and prognosis of illness or disease. Lastly, it may be necessary to remove the negative individuals from your life in order for you to have peace and continued good health.

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      kndashy41posted 10 years agoin reply to this

      I totally agree with what you've shared.  Especially the part about seeking out approval. Personally, I've reached a point in my life where I am way past that.  Thanks.

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   Sri Tposted 10 years ago

   The only way is to remove the thoughts or remove them from your life. Either you move on or they must move on. Since happiness comes only from within, your vibration and maintaining it is your responsibility. Every master must guard their own mind. It is nothing new. Christ said, Mark 7:15  "There is nothing from outside a man, that entering into him can defile him: but the things which come out of him, those are they that defile the man." The Buddha said, " I am free to take it or not take it, and I don't take it." So it comes down to the thoughts one entertains.
   You are bound or free by the thoughts you are thinking every moment.  Nisargadatta said, "you have to think your way out of it, there is no other way."  Everybody must decide who they will associate with. If a person raises their vibration to mostly positive thoughts and feelings, they will live at a higher level than the society. But they must maintain poise and detachment in the face of the ignorance because the world will not vibrate at that level. You transcend the ignorance with understanding, detachment or disassociation from negative thoughts, and a sense of humor. Maharishi called it, "amused detachment". You don't take people seriously nor do you pay much attention to them. You are the priority in your life, not what others think, say or do.

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      kndashy41posted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Excellent! I agree, I agree, I agree!  Thank you for your insight.

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   Express10posted 10 years ago

   I cannot say how much I sympathize with you! Congratulations on your good health and happy life. Do whatever it takes to distance yourself from energy vampires, they aim to bring you down to their low mental state which can negatively affect you! There is some truth to the cliche, misery truly does love company. Those types are selfish and are often narrow minded, not to mention your adjectives for them. Give them the boot or avoid them like the plague.
   I encounter these people more than I'd like to and wrote a hub about people who throw themselves at you, they tend to want to take, your energy, happiness, time, attention or money but they have NOTHING to offer, they give NOTHING and have NOTHING to give. Don't give energy vampires the time of day! Surround yourself with positive people or spend some time in happy solitude. Best of luck to you.

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      kndashy41posted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Wise words indeed!  Thank you for your insight.

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   Yousif Mohammedposted 10 years ago

   Envy or (Hasad) destroys a person's faith in their Lord, The Almighty as fire consumes wood. It is a disease of the heart, caused of having a feeling of inferiority or dejection. All moral and behavioral issues are due to the absence of faith in one's heart. And a heart that is filled with moral evils and inner impurities, can't receive Divine inspiration and revelation.
   
   Everyone is bothered by the affects of Envy because it is an attack on the person on the receiving end and hurts also the person who is giving the attack. When recognizing such an event, you should remember and seek refuge in your Lord. If you have the ability to avoid such people, that is one option to use. But if you are a strong individual you may want to essentially changes someone's heart with kindness. Perhaps you are placed there to change and cure someone's heart from practicing envy. In doing so you may attain a great reward from your Creator.

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      kndashy41posted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you for your wisdom, Yousif.

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      Yousif Mohammedposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      I actually learned a lot myself from trying to give you advice. I should thank you as well kndashy41. And the remembrance of God has eased my heart. I wish you peace in this life and in the hereafter. Amen.

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      kndashy41posted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Amen and God bless!

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   Penny Gposted 10 years ago

   I guess misery loves company. They are everywhere, they follow me around as well. Lets just push the delete button on them and move on without them and leave them to their miserable selves.

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      kndashy41posted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Oh, if it were only that easy I would've had no reason to ask the question...thanks anyway!

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