How are children in small families(1-2 children per household) MORE RESPECTED, C

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   gmwilliamsposted 8 years ago

   How are children in small families(1-2 children per household) MORE RESPECTED, CHERISHED,
   
   & TREATED WITH DIGNITY by their parents than children in large/very large families(6 & more children per household) who are oftentimes DISRESPECTED, DISCARDED, UNLOVED & TREATED VERY HARSHLY, even INHUMANELY by their parents?  What are the effects of the aforementioned parental treatment on the children involved? In small family environments, children are treated w/love & dignity. In contrast, in large family environments, children are seen as.....merely numbers & are depersonalized, even seen as non-persons.
   
   

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   daydreamer13posted 8 years ago

   This is a horrible question, to suggest that all children in large families are treated inhumanely. I bid you farewell gmwilliams, as I will no longer follow you.

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      gmwilliamsposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you for your reply.  It is really not a horrible question come to think about it, it is a reasonable question.

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   gmwilliamsposted 8 years ago

   
   
   In small families, children are given individualized parental time, love, & attention.  Parents have more time to spend more child.  Parents have a span of control in small families. Children in small families do not have to raise themselves & each other.  They also are not left to their own devices.  Their parents are THERE FOR THEM.  Children in small families are viewed & treated as unique individuals.  In fact, they are encouraged & expected to be individuals.  Children in small families are seen as special.  They are loved & adored by their parents.  Children in small families have their needs met. 
   
   In contrast, in large/very large families, children are not given individualized parental time, love, & attention.  They oftentimes are left to their own devices.  It is not unusual for children in large/very large families to raise themselves & each others as their parents find it humanly impossible or near it to raise a large number of children effectively by themselves.  Children in large/very large families are viewed as numbers, never as individuals.  They are seen as part of a group & are expected to adopt a group psychology.
   
   In large/very large families, children are more disposable, especially the oldest/older ones who are expected to look after themselves.  Parents in large/very large families oftentimes give the most care & attention to the younger/youngest children.   The large/very large family environment is not a nurturing one, it is a precarious one where children must learn to sink or swim as no parent will be there for them.  In large/very large families, parents do not have a span of control so they enlist the oldest/older children to raise the younger siblings.  The large/very large family environment is stressful & parents are stretched thin, trying to raise their children.  Niceties such as affection & hugging are rare in large/very large families. Because of the sheer number of children in the family, parental interaction is harsh, no-nonsense.  It is not unusual for parents of large/very large families to use more cursory forms of discipline regarding their children.  Children in large/very large families oftentimes have unmet needs.  Many are attention deprived which causes them to seek attention, oftentimes from negative sources.

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      Say Yes To Lifeposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      This is not necessarily so. What about Laura Ingalls Wilder of Little House on the Prairie fame? Her family had 4 kids. Or the Walton's, who had 7 kids? Compare them to Sybil, the woman with 16 personalities, who was an only child.

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         gmwilliamsposted 6 years agoin reply to this

         Parents of large families(6-more children per household) oftentimes dehumanize & objectivize their children.  The Turpins are an extreme example of this phenomena.  Parents of large families see & treat their children as a collective, never as individuals.  They are also less loving to their children, particularly the oldest/older children who they treat as proverbial stepchildren. Children in large families have to fend for themselves early as their parents are overwhelmed by the sheer number of children they have.  Parents of large families don't see nor treat their children as individual.  Such tasks are way too daunting for such parents.  Children in large families are merely collections & objects, no more.  They aren't shown parental attention & love as their parents figure that is what siblings are for.  There is no close relationship between parents & children in large families.
         
         
         Parents of small families(1-2 children per household) don't objectivize nor dehumanize their children.  They make sacrifices to ensure that their children have myriad opportunities.  They also spend individualized time w/their children.  They value & nurture their children individuality.  They treat all of their children equally in terms of time, love, & attention.  Parents raise the children in small families.  Children in small families aren't left to fend for themselves.  Parents have their children's back in small families.  Parents are also more responsible towards their children.
         

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