Why it is SMART for those who have attained very high success levels CUT OFF family members,
friends, & relatives who are unsuccessful & only associate w/those who are as highly successful as themselves? Oftentimes, unsuccessful people are a drain on successful people emotionally, mentally, psychologically, & especially socioeconomically. There is really nothing for the highly successful person to gain from associating w/unsuccessful people, so it is best to disassociate from such people.
Reaching at higher level of success, welcomes in lots of responsibilities and challenges to sustain that position in the long run. With hell lots of competitors in the market, it is important to be fully concentrated on one's job and responsibilities to tackle every situation. So, according to me this is the reason for highly successful people to cut off with their family members.
And if we talk about unsuccessful people among friends and relatives, then it is not really difficult to ignore them.
Grace it sounds as if life has been extremely good to you as it carries over in your pointed cold rudely put down tone in your questions.
I personally dont know how you can be so cocky.
With that being said yes...like minded people tend to hangout together. Yes if someone had less resources at their disposal compared to their family members they couldn't share in the same activities and therefore share common like experiences. So in terms of that I could intellectually understand how your hypothetical could arise.
You had better hope the tables don't turn on you Grace. With your arrogance you might just be left in the corner alone-never warmed to any surrounding hearts. Then lets see if you can "speak" (write) the way you do.
Of course, it is the smart thing for highly successful people to cut themselves off & disassociate from unsuccessful family members, friends, & relatives. Such people will allow drain highly successful people in more ways than one, especially socioeconomically. It is not uncommon for unsuccessful family members, friends, & relatives to expect, even demand that highly successful people support them & bring them up to a higher qualitative living level.
All of us have witnessed unsuccessful people looking at the lifestyle of their highly successful family members, friends, & relatives, oftentimes bemoaning their dire lifestyle. Such members want the lifestyle of the more successful members of their families, friends, & relatives. Not only do they want their more successful family members', friends', & relatives' lifestyle, they may even go so far to demand that the latter support them because they believe that the latter has the means to do so.
The unsuccessful family members, friends, & relatives are envious of the lifestyle of the more successful family member, friend, &/or relative but refuse to improve themselves instead contending that it is the duty of the former to support them. The highly successful family member, friend, & relative clearly aren't obligated to support unsuccessful family members, friends, & relatives although the latter believe that there is such an obligation.
Many highly successful people rightfully disassociate, even disown their unsuccessful family members, friends, & relatives once they reach a high level of success because they know that these unsuccessful family members, friends, & relatives are toxic in more ways than one. The former further realize that unsuccessful people whether they are family, friends, & relatives will drain them down emotionally, mentally, psychologically, psychically, & especially socioeconomically. One can aptly state that to the average highly successful person, the unsuccessful person is a toxic psychic vampire to be avoided at all costs.
Emotional vampires can be some of the most charming and successful people you meet. Men, women, beautiful, ugly, rich, poor, they come in many shapes and sizes. But they always create toxic relationships, both as romantic partners and as friends.
Grace in Q said "socioeconomically", as if family were employees to be discarded like dead wood.
Wow. that's cold. To put it in a better way;
"Clever or not, the intentional psychic vampire is usually arrogant. Extremely arrogant. It regards itself as being outside the constraints of normal society and sees nothing wrong in using others to achieve its goals because all that matters is its goals and the furtherance of itself and its sphere of influence" - Dr van Neümig
It is perhaps you write so mean on HP Q&A's?
"Emotional vampires exhibit three specific traits simultaneously: an excessive need for validation/attention from others, the belief that little to nothing that occurs is their fault, and the lack of self-awareness to recognize their self-defeating patterns. " - Mark Manson
I haven't seen a blanket "you're unsuccessful, go away or I'll cut you off".
I have seen successful people cut off the lazy who say "you have money, I don't, I don't want to follow your example, bail me out".
Great answer, THIS is the answer I have been looking for. Exactly, many unsuccessful people want the highly successful to financially support them & give them a BETTER lifestyle. I have seen this firsthand. THANK YOU.
"The Millionaire Next Door" talks about it as economic outpatient care, people who expect or demand financial assistance and become dependent on it.
Who is the "millionaire next door" you are referring to tamara?
When you have money, you get a lot of "friends," many of whom are insincere and want whatever they can get from you. I personally believe that if you are very rich, it's okay to help out your parents and immediate family, flaws and all, simply because you are a family. But beyond that you must be wary. Money isn't everything, it can also be a curse. Consider Doris Duke, everyone who became close to her used her for her money. A lot of celebrities end up getting older and older, and changing wives to younger and younger versions. They actually believe in their own myths. But these young women use them for their money, and they don't take care of them in the way that old people need to be cared for, because they don't really love them. That's where a lot of old men fall short. They think they are in control, then when they are old and sick, they realize their mistakes. Real love is more important and valuable than money, and if you do have money, no matter if someone in your family never worked, they are family and it's okay to be kind to them. Because if you are kind, you will receive kindness. So much better than money.
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