If You Were told you had a week to live......

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   mdawson17posted 13 years ago

   I am kinda curious if you were to go to the Doctor and he/she were to tell you that you only had a week to live (at the most) Then the Doctor said to go home and do whatever you wanted what it would you do.......

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      greeneyesH1982posted 13 years agoin reply to this

      travel and visit every possible nook and cranny this world has to offer and learn as much as I could every day in other parts of the world....leave everything I own to my one and only son with a letter of being able to remember me in the most happiest of times... and request that a comedian finishes my funeral (after a priest) because anyone who knows me would know that I always find some way to make people laugh regardless the circumstance.

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      earnestshubposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      Well I had such a diagnosis. Lypo sarcoma in the back about the size of a large grapefruit. Very little chance of survival as the wound would wind up being the size of a dinner plate and 2" deep.
      I had a week at home trying to find a way around what looked like a quick death sentence. No plans, just a frantic search for a way out.
      
      They had a new procedure that was invented just before I went in for the first of 5 ops. I died on the op table in the fifth hour of the fifth op, recovered and woke up screaming in pain because I could not take any more narcotics due to my low weight after having the cancer. So I had a death experience, then an out of body experience when I left my body due to too much pain when I came out of theatre.
      I fought like hell for my life. I found I did not want to leave my grandchildren at all!
      I survived obviously!

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         Diane Corrietteposted 13 years agoin reply to this

         wow!

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            Sa Toyaposted 13 years agoin reply to this

            intense...good on ya...you are VERY strong!

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         Daniel Carterposted 13 years agoin reply to this

         Remarkable story and experience, Earnest. Thanks for sharing it. Truly.
         
         I'd finish up whatever piece of music I'm composing, grab everyone I love and make a plan to go somewhere together. Place not important. Relationships are. Not a goodbye party, a celebration that I've had such a good life with such overwhelming difficulties and remarkably wonderful experiences. A real celebration.

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         h.a.borcichposted 13 years agoin reply to this

         Hats off to you Earnest. Beating cancer is not easy. Did you do any alternative treatments or nutritional therapy? Glad you made it through - and no - it is not up for argument! Holly

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         Marisa Wrightposted 13 years agoin reply to this

         EarnestHub, I think that would be my reaction too.  A week is too short to do anything other than put your affairs in order and spend time with your loved ones - and scouring the internet for any last chance survival options. 
         
         I once went to a management course where we were asked to do some goal setting.  Before we started, the lecturer asked us to write down what we would do if we were told we had only a year to live - we'd be in good health for all that time, but there was no hope of a cure. 
         
         After we'd all written our plans, she told us to look at what we'd written and said, "for all you know, you could have that diagnosis tomorrow.  So if you're not doing what you've just written down, ask yourself, why not?"

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         Sue Adamsposted 13 years agoin reply to this

         Whao that's so tragic. Maybe that's why you have become such a nice person earnestshub.
         Maybe it's a little distasteful to ask the question:"What would you do if you only had a week to live?" When the situation is for real you don't do what you think you would do as a healthy person. For example:
         When my step dad was told he was dying, at first he bravely talked about euthenesia (this was in Holland) but as the disease progressed the literature about euthenesia ended up on the floor in the junk room.  The more sick he became the more desperately he clung onto life. He concentrated on small every-day details like which pillow to put under his aching limbs, or what he wanted to eat or drink. He suffered a slow painful death and never mentioned euthanesia again despite his suffering. What ever plans you may make as a healthy person, they go by the way side when it happens for real. A desperate yet futile instinct for survival seems to become priority in the real situation.

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         LeslieAdrienneposted 13 years agoin reply to this

         ernesthub,
         
         How blessed you are.....and even in this, you still choose not to  believe....(I am not trying to start a fight about God....)
         
         Your resolve about Him even after this harrowing experience convinces me that you sincerely reject Him, and there is no natural hope that you would change your mind.....
         
         I am happy for your recovery and pray all of the best for you....
         
         Love you

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      Diane Corrietteposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      I would spend the time with people close to me. Would pray alot and thank God for healing, knowing if it didn't come it was obviously my time to go and if a way was found to help me then I was being given a second chance.
      Mainly time with people I love the most.

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      TheGlassSpiderposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      I'd tell him that people don't have expiration dates, diseases don't book vacations, and go get a second opinion.
      
      I've seen that sort of crap from doctors become self-fulfilling prophecy, and I believe a doctor should NEVER give someone a time frame for their death. They can say "We don't know how to help you" or "The situation is dire, and all we can do is make you comfortable" or whatever...but to give someone a time to die is actually impossible and irresponsible.
      
      In my humble opinion.

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      Alessia Amnesiaposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      I would go to my family members and tell them I love them and thank them for everything they ever did for me. Then I would go to the town I grew up in and take one last walk from my house to the abandoned school building. I would lay on the steps of the building and look up at the sky like I used to do as a kid.
      
      I would make a reservation at that restaurant I've been wanting to go to for three years and finally go eat there. I would give everything I own to the homeless man that stands outside of the dollar store. My last day would be spent writing a letter to everyone, telling them how much I really love them.

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      Suzy McBlogposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      I'm more-or-less in that situation, although I have about 5 more years. I have COPD plus a bunch of other stuff that tends to exaserbate it. At first of course I ranted and raved and was mad as hell. Then I made a bucket list. And then I realised nearly everything on my list just didn't seem that important any more. Actually that's one of the reasons I joined Hub Places. I have some things to say and teach. That's about all I really want to do, outside of spending every available moment with my husband and family.

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      Dixie Wposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      You know this is a very good question. There is a country song by Tim Mcgraw that pretty well sums up what I would do. Live like you were dying. When time is short, hopefully we would try to correct any behavior that we were not proud of and spend as much time as possible with those who will miss us when we are gone. Try to make them understand that this would be my choice if I got one. A lingering death is not very attractive to me. I'd just as soon go quick without too much time to think about it. That would certainly be depressing.

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      pinkboxerposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      I have learned to live as though today is my last day to live. That way you will always live in the now. Automatically, I do those things which are really the most important.

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         Mike Rogersposted 13 years agoin reply to this

         That is an absolutely beautiful viewpoint. It reflects perfectly the notion that we never really know when it may be our last day on earth.
         
         The reality is that life is precious. Appreciate every minute.
         
         Mike

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         madsadsisterposted 13 years agoin reply to this

         Yes appreciate every minute because you never know when it is your turn. I know death from every age group and some were natural deaths but most were sudden deaths.  That is the sad fact of life you can never escape it.

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      tobey100posted 13 years agoin reply to this

      First off, if a Dr. told me I only had a week to live I'd pick the week starting August 7th, 2088.  I guess I'll just have to hang out till that week gets here.

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       vox vocisposted 13 years agoin reply to this

       see people I love most and then sit down and pray pray pray

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       goldenpathposted 13 years agoin reply to this

       Well on my last day I would take the entire day and sit on the porcelain throne.  I want to be well emptied out.  I couldn't bare the thought of having an accident during my autopsy. 

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       cosetteposted 13 years agoin reply to this

       oh boy a week doesn't give you a lot of time to do anything. i would either fly to Paris or stay here and rob a bank and then give the money away to passers-by under a hail of gunfire. then they would write a book about me, then turn it into a movie, rendering me immortal.

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       patspnnposted 13 years agoin reply to this

       If I was told I had a week to leave I'd go on a long vacation with my three dogs and a bottle of rum

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       LeslieAdrienneposted 13 years agoin reply to this

       One can only speculate unless you actually get that dianosis....I would like to think that I would spend it fighting for my life and sharing the love of hope that is in God with as many people as I possibly could.....

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   Sa Toyaposted 13 years ago

   I would spend it doing all that I wanted to do an with those I love
   I'm not sure if I would be able to try finding a way around it.

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   LizzyBooposted 13 years ago

   I would probably contact all my friends and try to give them all my pets I have. I wont do nothing special. I would be at home and doing all I love to do.

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   Laura Thykesonposted 13 years ago

   I would spend part of the time writing long letters to those I love and telling them just how much they really mean to me. Then I would like to make some type of video for my 2 yr. old granddaughter and any future grandchildren, so they could sort of "know" me some day. I would definitely seek alternative medical opinions and cures, all while spending as much time as possible with my family and pets, especially my husband, children and grandbabies and father. I got a small taste of this feeling when I went in for a relatively minor heart surgery and found out I was waaayyy worse than they thought and I had to have a bypass. It has changed my outlook on life forever, and I try to take nothing for granted.
   
   This caught my eye because a friend of ours just got news he had about a month left to live. I just wrote a hub about it if anyone is interested.
   
   **Earnestshub-when you had your out of body experience and died and came back, do you remember anything about it, other than the obvious pain? Just curious...

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   tequilarosemama4posted 13 years ago

   i do not fear death it's self i actually would be sad at leaving all my loved ones behind. but i have a few near death experiences. in 1999 i survived carbon monoxide posioning. the last few times were the past three years. in 2006 i survived a stroke to the right side of my face. 2008 i survived a heart attack while being nine months pregnant. and 2009 i surviveduterine cancer that almost took my life. so i don't look at life the same as i once did. i spend every day witht he ones i love. never taking our time together for granted. i have been writing letters and memory books so that when that day comes and it's my turn to go those let behind will have something to remember me by and hopefully give them peace of mind as well. so if i had one day left to live i would do everything for my kids in the eighteen yrs i would have had with them. and spend as much time possible with my family and friends.

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   A Texanposted 13 years ago

   http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UX0azxncAEg

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      Dixie Wposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      This was great!!!!! Leave it to a Texan to have a sense of humour about death. Even your own. HaHaHa

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   theirishobserver.posted 13 years ago

   Spend some quality time with my Cock...thats him in the picture....

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   AEvansposted 13 years ago

   Spend time with my family,reminisce over memories, turn off the phone and computer and enjoy the life that I had left.

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   lyricsingrayposted 13 years ago

   I'd smoke a shit load of crack, that I promise.

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    logic,commonsenseposted 13 years ago

    I would face it with passion and ferocity.
    I would spend it with others, making sure I could help them cope with their issues and minimize my own.

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    Cagsilposted 13 years ago

    My life doesn't change, should I be given a diagnosis of death in one weeks time. I don't fear death.
    
    Death is a part of my life, for which, I cannot control, up to a point. My life will continue to go on for the next week, without a single change occurring.
    
    I have only one thing, I would leave behind and that would be a broken-hearted 62yr old mother, who will have watch your youngest child die before her.
    
    This will no doubtedly be the straw that broke the camel's back, and she will pass shortly afterward, most due to her own hand.
    
    However, since this make believe, and no such diagnosis exists. My mother will get to live to see another day.

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    The Ropeposted 13 years ago

    There are some amazing stories here.  I feel honored that they were shared with us.
    
    For myself - if I only had a week - I'd call folks and have grateful conversations with them, I'd try not to tell them and frankly...yep...I'd clean my house from top to bottom!  I don't want to leave my family with any concerns.  Just get my affairs in order (including cleaning) and leave my loved ones with a terrific memory of our last conversation.  Couldn't possibly see all of them and would be in too much shock to write them so conversation via phone would definately work.  I'd spend some time with three or four of my closest friends/relatives.  Nothing overt...
    
    Death itself doesn't scare me, leaving my family with a mess does - how strange is that?!

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    jkbensenposted 13 years ago

    I would find the most beautifulist spot and write a will of my own.. to give every thing to those who have loved me .. and roll over on to my back and say .. take me away ..

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    Denno66posted 13 years ago

    If I had a week, I'd invent thirty more days to the week; at least I'd be able to drink the Keg I just bought.

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    Valerie Fposted 13 years ago

    Barring anything illegal or immoral, what wouldn't I do?
    
    I wouldn't waste away the week feeling too sorry for myself.

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    AnythingArtzyposted 13 years ago

    well since I haven't been given a week but do have a terminal illness, I have like rope mentioned, cleaned and sorted everything in my house and have given my kids the things I want them to have already. Aside from that nothing else has changed much except my priorities and I have no wish to travel like I had priviously thought I might pondering this question pre terminal. All I want to do is just enjoy my boys and not stress over the things I can't control.

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       tobey100posted 13 years agoin reply to this

       You, my dear, are one tough little lady!

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          AnythingArtzyposted 13 years agoin reply to this

          thank ya tobey
          how are ya?

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             tobey100posted 13 years agoin reply to this

             Hangin' in there.  Freezing cold again and waiting for more snow.  If ya don't mind I think I may just shoot a prayer or two your way from time to time.

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                AnythingArtzyposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                don't mind at all tobey. Prayer definitely works.
                how much snow ya got now?

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       h.a.borcichposted 13 years agoin reply to this

         Artsy,  I have journals for my hubby, son, and Mom. On the nights I "freak out" a bit, I turn it into writing out what I want to say but haven't or haven't said enough.
         Getting my assets transferred was a big weight off my mind, too.
         And finally, I planned my funeral. Morbid maybe, but I needed to do it. I gave the decision making power with that to my best friend in hopes that my Mom, hubby and son will be more at peace about it.
         I gave up on dirt and dust Holly

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    Mamelodyposted 13 years ago

    I would leap for joy and say "finally thank you God I get to leave this f*** planet and chill with you in heaven...

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       tobey100posted 13 years agoin reply to this

       I still got a lot of stuff I want to get done.  Think I'll hang on the planet and hope I have longer than a week

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          Mamelodyposted 13 years agoin reply to this

          mmm... you've broken your nose, you've lost track of how many kids you have and you've managed to break a lot of female hubbers hearts.. what else could you possibly want to do?

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    tipperaryposted 13 years ago

    If i was told i had a week to live.....................id die!!!

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       Preethi Anushaposted 13 years agoin reply to this

       ha ha

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