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  1. romper20 profile image85
    romper20posted 7 years ago

    Ever since I have been about 12 I have gained this stressful anxiety, in which I think people are staring at me... Its weird, I know that... But very real. Does anyone have any comments on this? Its kind of a social phobia in my opinion...

    1. nikki1 profile image60
      nikki1posted 7 years agoin reply to this

      What does your family think? Did you have an experience when you were 12?

    2. SwaggeretteMom profile image59
      SwaggeretteMomposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Maybe they are staring, do you have a certain Persona like loud and bubbly when you are comfortable such as amongst friends? Do you draw attention by your beauty? There are many things that fascinate people to staring at things. Think about men, they stare at THINGS. Women stare at other types of things, such as people who are acting peculiar, or females that we may be jealous of, or envious. We stare at other women and admire or critique, and beautiful things like rainbows and rainstorms.

    3. prettydarkhorse profile image64
      prettydarkhorseposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      you're a knock out that is why?

  2. habee profile image96
    habeeposted 7 years ago

    Maybe they think you're attractive?

    1. Fluffymetal profile image76
      Fluffymetalposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      i agree with habee smile

      1. romper20 profile image85
        romper20posted 7 years agoin reply to this

        Thanks Habee and Fluffy... Maybe you nevver know. Seems more of a brain things though. Maybe im crazy haha!

        1. SwaggeretteMom profile image59
          SwaggeretteMomposted 7 years agoin reply to this

          Social anxiety or other forms of fears and phobias can make people feel unwilling to go eat in restaurants, or walk through the mall. You may not realize how many insecurities that you have, that need to be fixed or worked on, and that leads to feeling like everyone is staring, but how do you know if you never lift your face to look, due to embarassment or shame that is invalid or stoppable.  There are mild medications that when kept at certain levels in peoples bodies, stop these feelings that are handicapping you. They will not fix themselves or it would have happened by now... as you became a women and matured, and accept ourselves.

  3. Rafini profile image88
    Rafiniposted 7 years ago

    imo it means being extremely self-conscious, and/or having a social phobia.  I felt the same when I was younger...always thought people were staring at me, watching me.  It made me uncomfortable and I really wished it would go away.  Then, sometime in my 20's, it went away.  Sometimes, though, I'll feel 'stupid' or 'out of place' doing the most normal of things such as: walking into a grocery store, mowing my lawn, bringing groceries into the house...silly huh?  lol  I don't get it, but I tell myself I'm doing normal things so there's no reason to feel 'out of place' or 'stupid'.

  4. Richieb799 profile image77
    Richieb799posted 7 years ago

    Paranoia?

    1. Rafini profile image88
      Rafiniposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      lol


      thanks, I needed that. hmm



      Nah, I had issues that I'm not going to get into here.  Simply put - socially awkward / social phobia / loner / lonely / etc....

  5. Nell Rose profile image93
    Nell Roseposted 7 years ago

    Most people that stare at you are probably either thinking they know you, or more to the point, thinking about something else completely. They tend to go of into a fugue state when thinking about what they want for dinner! The ammount of times I find myself staring at an inopropriate part of someones body when they are standing or walking somewhere, and I suddenly realise that I am staring at a blokes package! lol and I was only thinking about my chicken masala! honest this is the truth. So next time you see someone staring, it is probably something else going on in their head.

  6. Richieb799 profile image77
    Richieb799posted 7 years ago

    I stared at a receptionist in the post office Friday, well at least thats what he thought, I was actually day dreaming and happened to be glaring his direction!

    1. optimus grimlock profile image60
      optimus grimlockposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      did he deliver on time lol

  7. Beth100 profile image76
    Beth100posted 7 years ago

    Perhaps it stems from a lack of confidence within yourself or low self esteem.  Generally, people who feel this way (which is the majority of the population), think that people see what we see as inadequacies in ourselves.  But, they may not see what we see.  They may see something in you that you don't see about yourself -- good looks, striking features, warmth, openness, etc.  Just my thoughts.  smile

    1. Rafini profile image88
      Rafiniposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      where were you to explain this to me when I was a kid??  lol

      1. Beth100 profile image76
        Beth100posted 7 years agoin reply to this

        Hitting my head on the wall trying to figure this all out!  lol

        1. Rafini profile image88
          Rafiniposted 7 years agoin reply to this

          lol

          1. romper20 profile image85
            romper20posted 7 years agoin reply to this

            You guys are great smile I know it's silly! But very very real... I am slowly starting to work on it. Thanks so much too all that commented. Means alot to ask people what they think and get intelligent input!

            RomperHubber

            1. SwaggeretteMom profile image59
              SwaggeretteMomposted 7 years agoin reply to this

              Who do you trust? Ask someone that you know will be honest but not harsh and ask if there is anything awkward about you that would make someone stare? Don't get upset if they reply with something, just take it in, and think about whether it could just bother them, or maybe most and begin taking the steps you need to either accepting it, and living happy because of your accomplishments, and graciousness for such wonderful kids, or appreciating what others do for us without feeling sorry for ourselves.

 
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