I'm so homesick! help!!!

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  1. Super Lux profile image62
    Super Luxposted 9 years ago

    science proves that your emotions affect your body.  that's why now that i feel so so homesick, i feel a lot of pain in my body.  i cant breathe normally, i have constant chest pains.  i have splitting head ache and i just dont feel normal. my skin looks so unhealthy too and my hair fall? at it's worse!

    but i cant leave yet, i have a contract to finish. i'm so torn. i feel so devastated.

    i need something to perk me up! help!

    1. Jason Marovich profile image90
      Jason Marovichposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Let yourself dream of your favorite memories of home, and be fortified by the reality that you'll be able to enjoy them again soon.  That's the real reward at the end of the contract.  If you can get that sorted, now you can fully focus on the task at hand.

      1. Super Lux profile image62
        Super Luxposted 9 years agoin reply to this

        this is a very practical, wise and encouraging advice.  thanks Jason Marovich smile

    2. paradigmsearch profile image60
      paradigmsearchposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      I don't know if this will make it better or worse: https://maps.google.com/maps?q=singapor … k&z=14

      They do close ups. I've actually visited previous houses I've lived in. smile

      1. Super Lux profile image62
        Super Luxposted 9 years agoin reply to this

        it's a dilemma. but thanks paradigmsearch smile

    3. monicaortegamon profile image71
      monicaortegamonposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Hey there I'm not sure if this will help but I know exactly how you feel. I also accepted a position that took me out of state on a contract. I was so very homesick that I also became ill. But had to weigh out the pro's and con's of my situation. I had friends that I had made in my new area. It just wasn't the same as my friends back home. I truly also missed my family and most times cried myself to sleep. I had to make a decision was my health that was progressively getting worse worth it? I had to be honest with myself that with my health issue's had to be my priority if I wanted to continue to enjoy my dreams in life. I decided to talk to my company that I contracted with were very understanding and waived my contract. I went back home. I do not regret it because maybe that door closed, but when I got back home there were other doors that opened up for me. This is life, living and learning, most importantly learning about yourself. You need to do what is right for your self, especially when it comes to your health. Just my suggestion, Monica. Don't be discouraged, be encouraged because you may have more options, than you may think. smile

      1. Super Lux profile image62
        Super Luxposted 9 years agoin reply to this

        i'm actually searching now for a home based job because i realized being at home is more important to me than earning more but being away from people and places important to me.  i'm already thinking ways how to get out of the contract without me paying the band. lucky you to have worked with very understanding and considerate management.  mine is not like that. so i'm really really really trying to find a legal way out. thanks so much. this helped encourage me and made me feel i'm not alone in this journey. smile

    4. Trish_M profile image81
      Trish_Mposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Hi smile

      Use the phone, or e-mail, or text, or skype, or letters, or any other means of keeping in touch with family and friends ~ exchanging news, photos, love smile

      Good luck!

      1. Super Lux profile image62
        Super Luxposted 9 years agoin reply to this

        thanks Trish_M. although it's difficult for me sometimes to see them in skype or chat with them, i still do communicate with them constantly smile

  2. Stacie L profile image91
    Stacie Lposted 9 years ago

    Yes, using street view is fun. Also try using Skype to communicate with family and friends. It may make you feel like you're  with them..temporarily/

    1. paradigmsearch profile image60
      paradigmsearchposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      After I made my other post, I went and visited 2 of the houses I lived in as a kid. Both were gone!!! Both replaced by newer, bigger ones. Alas, the past is indeed the past and does not exist any more...

      1. Stacie L profile image91
        Stacie Lposted 9 years agoin reply to this

        Now that's sad,Para,but it showed that your family lived in an up and coming area!smile
        I have revisited moat of the homes we lived in.



        Getting back to the OP. this experience will make you stronger and appreciate what you had or have even more when you finish. big_smile

        1. paradigmsearch profile image60
          paradigmsearchposted 9 years agoin reply to this

          She should think of it as being paid to take a vacation. big_smile

          1. Super Lux profile image62
            Super Luxposted 9 years agoin reply to this

            hey i like this. haha. i've never looked at it in this angle. thanks paradigmsearch! thanks also Stacie L. big_smile

      2. paradigmsearch profile image60
        paradigmsearchposted 9 years agoin reply to this

        Then again, that's not necessarily a bad thing.

  3. mega1 profile image73
    mega1posted 9 years ago

    I know about homesickness - but I accidentally discovered the way to overcome it while I was at college in another state.  I joined the drama group and got involved in production of a musical and in the process met a friend who was just such a great person - we had so much fun together and I didn't have time to be homesick anymore.  It really saved my life.  So get involved in something with other people and make a friend or several and you'll see that you can feel at home wherever you are!

    1. Super Lux profile image62
      Super Luxposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      thanks mega1! i think i need to be more socially active then. a diversion of sort. thanks again smile

  4. profile image0
    RTalloniposted 9 years ago

    You did a smart thing by joining HP since this site will let you keep busy with productive reading and writing and making new friends--benefits you now and you can enjoy them when you go back home!  Welcome.  smile

    1. Super Lux profile image62
      Super Luxposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      exactly RTalloni! HP really is a good place to hang out. i can share my views and sentiments at the same time. great people are here too. very sensible comments and great hubs to read. smile

  5. couturepopcafe profile image60
    couturepopcafeposted 9 years ago

    http://s1.hubimg.com/u/6708020_f248.jpg


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    http://s4.hubimg.com/u/6708023_f248.jpg


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    A beautiful place. I don't blame you for being homesick.

    1. Super Lux profile image62
      Super Luxposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      yep. exactly.

  6. webclinician profile image60
    webclinicianposted 9 years ago

    First thing first, I do agree that you may just be homesick. But don't forget that these could be sign of actual physical problem so have yourself check for any physical problems.

    All I can say is that things do get better. Meet new people. Enjoy life. Move on and get the best of both worlds.

    I've been away with family for few years myself.

    Good luck

    1. Super Lux profile image62
      Super Luxposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      thanks webclinician. i went to a physician to have my chest checked actually. my blood pressure and heartbeat were perfectly normal despite the difficulty of breathing and stabbing pain.  hey, if you can be away for a few years and be okay with it, i think i can too. smile

    2. Laura Schneider profile image90
      Laura Schneiderposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      I agree with webclinician--make sure you get screened for possible clinical depression, too. If you have depression, an antidepressant may be all you need to get through this. It sounds like you're blaming yourself for feeling bad (just your tone) and feeling trapped and not feeling better even when good things happen (like Skype with family/friends). However, if you have depression it is the disease causing those feelings, and you are not at fault, AND you can recover from it. :-) Good luck, I wish you the best!

      1. Super Lux profile image62
        Super Luxposted 9 years agoin reply to this

        thank you Laura smile

  7. prettydarkhorse profile image61
    prettydarkhorseposted 9 years ago

    You can connect and socialize with other people there. Go out and explore the places around and schedule it.

    1. Super Lux profile image62
      Super Luxposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      i'm actually planning to take yoga classes with my friend here.  and i am currently volunteering for a community. thanks!

      1. prettydarkhorse profile image61
        prettydarkhorseposted 9 years agoin reply to this

        That is good! Go to places where there are many people who get together with same interest as yours! Always remember time always flies faster when you are busy too! Take care.

        1. Super Lux profile image62
          Super Luxposted 9 years agoin reply to this

          thank you prettydarkhorse. smile

 
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