Why shouldn't we tell them the truth?There is no one Santa.Why we are afraid of telling them that we are the ones who fill their stockings with presents, though.we also choose and wrap the presents under the tree, the same way my mom did for me, and the same way her mom did for her. (And yes, Daddy helps, too: )? and saying to them that : I imagine you will someday do this for your children, and I know you will love seeing them run down the stairs on Christmas morning. You will love seeing them sit under the tree, their small faces lit with Christmas lights. There is no white or black lie.Lie is a lie,bigger or a small.
Well James-wolve, everything has a right time, we don't need to get completely practical with kids. Kids world are filled with neverending joy and characters, so why goof it up ? I bet today also you hold your own fantasies:) will you give them up ?
I am sorry if I say you are validating lies by making them believe in that fantasy.Have you ever thought how much they will be happy when they know that it s you who give them presents not someone else ?
I have to agree with James on this count. If I found out that my parent's were promoting a myth or fable...I would not trust them as much. I would also have to question their judgment and leadership if I found out they celebrate pagan holy days.
You mean they are easy to lie on,right ?My parents never lied to me ,so why should I break the family heritage to lie on my kids?plus, Jesus says Never lie at all and experts stress that truthfulness is crucial to a healthy parent-child relationship.
I don't know about anyone else, but when I found out there wasn't really a Santa at age 8 (by finding the presents prewrapped hidden in the closet) I felt jipped, lied to, and started to wonder what else adults lied about to kids. Trust was lost.
I felt the same way, Sarah. I think that parents do not fully understand the psychological ramifications "little white lies" have on a child's emotional development. It seems that lying to children has become America's favorite national pastime.
BesidesThe Santa lie is also used to control children: if you're "good" you'll get presents, and if you're "naughty" you won't. But really has that ever worked?has any child ever altered his behavior in any way because of this threat?It's bad tactic.
Wow, James, you created a long, interesting discussion. I guess parents pass down what was passed down to them. Another example is the Tooth fairy. When a child loses a tooth. I put my tooth under a pillow & believed the Tooth fairy put money the
Yes,Lady :)many things are passed down to us,but we shouldn t take everythin for granted.W should change th way we treat and bring up our kids.It s time t create something healthy and giv it to th forthcoming generations.Kids now need good leadership
I think Americans live for fantasies, ranging from pornography, 9-11, walking on the Moon, Santa Claus, right on down to the tooth fairy. If the world doesn't end tomorrow, perhaps I'll write a hub about Americans and their fixation for fantasies.
Well CJ, No one can prove that there is a Santa and no one can prove that there isn't. Same with aliens or magic, etc. If there's no proof, then just BELIEVE, cuz believers make the world better. And yes, this is a Christian saying all of this...
Never said anything would come true, but if you can't prove or disprove something...just believe it. Believing in something makes you a better person. You and James will never take me seriously, but I BELIEVE I can make a difference, so i tried..
I'm not trying to criticize you, Tess. In fact, I think you're onto something. Perhaps this is why so many people accept evolution as fact...although it cannot be proven and all known evidence flies in its face - they just close their eyes and hope.
Wow ! The question has now become: Do we need a world where everything needs to be prooved to be believed upon ? A totally practical world Whatever it is, I can't live in such a practical world !! ho ho ho ..here Santa comes
Oh ok, CJ. I'm sorry, i honestly can't tell a lot of people's emotions or stand points on things just by reading them through these comments with such little character space. But yes, if no proof, just believe and hope...no harm in it.
James, all i told my kid was that Santa gave her presents Christmas day. Never said how or described who he was. So by my definition, Santa is someone giving her presents Christmas day. So even if I am the one giving the presents, I'm not a liar
I honestly don't know what is SO precious about Santa Claus? Back in the 1800's he was believed to look for "bad" children with his side-kick (who was a demon) who would flog them. That's before the cute little poem "Twas the night before Christmas".
My nickname during Christmas is Santa. The guy at the mall is called Santa too. Not my fault it's such a common name. I said I believed in "A Santa", not "The Santa". If someone gives gifts on Christmas then in my definition they are Santa.
Lol, James, it was all in good fun! I haven't had such a great debate in awhile. My kid's only 2 so all we can explain to her now is that Santa gives gifts on Christmas. I honestly don't know what we'll say when she's older. Anyway, Merry Christmas!
Because they are children. Life is hard enough once they grow up that if they can live with a little hope and imagination for one period of the year, there is no harm in it. Give them a little innocence while we still can.
I'd brag about myself some how since technically I am "Santa's wife". Haha. I'd talk about how awesome I am at making cookies, etc. I'd talk about how much I do the list reading, the wrapping and preparing. Santa just does the driving because I am a horrible driver (true). (And of course Santa is married! Single men would freakout over taking care of so many children in one night!) If you really feel nervous about answering...just pick up your kids and bring them to the mall to ask Santa themselves, or write Santa. Hope I helped
Well there is Santa's wife in Mickey Mouse world. See the Mickey clubhouse video http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZB57rWKeTUM, the title is Mickey saves Santa .. I just played it for my kid two days back .. So just let your kids watch the video and decide upon themselves
Lady E your question made me giggle. I suppose it would be too liberal and even offensive to say that Santa is gay. So I'd probably say mother Christmas lives in lap land full time and we rarely see her.
I wouldn't tell them she looks sexy like that picture...she would look more like a sweet grandma, with her gray hair in a bun, she would smell like gingerbread....She lives in the Northpole so she would be wearing a red pair of hoodie footies, however, she would have white fur around the hood, but of course she would be wearing an apron and have flour on her nose, She would be doing her part in supervising the elves. She would be feeding them as well as santa with gingerbread, serving them large mugs of hot chocolate, topped with whipped cream and crushed peppermint as they get the reindeer ready for the journey. She will have to wait until at least march to put on that outfit, because when Santa returns , he will be too tired , have a headache and be ready for a long winters nap. But I won't mention that part...
I have always told my children the truth. Even if Santa was real, which he is certainly not, he would be hundreds of years old and so would his ancient wife. Perhaps she once looked as good as the above picture, but that was probably her senior picture taken sometime during the Middle-Ages.
Mrs. Claus is usually depicted as a short, stout grandmotherly figure. I don't have kids, but if I did I would describe her that way. Maybe the woman in your picture is Santa's daughter. Actually, Santa is so old that she would probably be his granddaughter. :-)
Of course I would tell them that SantaMomaClaus remained home, to prepare a hearty meal for Santa on his return. Because he would be starving from all those trips around the world and the cold temperatures of the high altitudes where he travelled. Once she was done with cooking, she would tidy the whole house well and wash Santa's sockets, in order to not contaminate the cheese flavours emanating from the set table. She would then take a bath, put on a négligé and prepare herself for Santa's arrival. I'd stop at this point.
I would tell them to imagine her however they want, because she's imaginary, just like her husband. You don't have to lie to spur on imagination, kids play pretend all the time. Children can understand the difference between fantasy and reality. Lying isn't necessary, and that way they don't get disillusioned later when they find out that Santa doesn't exist.
So, they could make up their own story about Santa and his wife, imagine what they look like, their roles, etc. (although I certainly hope they'd imagine Santa's wife more tastefully than the picture above).
I would ask them what they thought Santa's partner would be like - and let them tell me what they think. It's not about what I think, but more about what they think - because it's their childhood and imagination at play. That way they aren't forced into stereotypical imaginanations of an old Mrs Claus, or heck, even a Mrs at all. If they want to think that Santa has a male partner, or none at all, that is fine for them.
I think the idea of them thinking up their own is actually more exciting than telling them what I think.
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