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The Lonely Blogger

Updated on December 30, 2012
A hobby that is driven by engagement and interaction, can be a lonely place.
A hobby that is driven by engagement and interaction, can be a lonely place. | Source

I love writing, and I love psychology. The two have a lot in common, though at first glance- you might not see it that way. As I trot around the Internet, dabbling in book writing, blogging, copywriting, and content work, I've noticed a phenomenon I'd like to call - The Lonely Blogger.

I've hesitated to write about this topic, simply because I realize that there are very few keyword searches for lonely and blogger in the same phrase. After all, aren't bloggers just the extraverts of the writing world? Online journals broadcast for anyone to read? But despite the reality that Google may never send depressed and lonely bloggers to me, I must write about it anyway.

The blogosphere can be a lonely place. Here's why.

Blogging statistics

Wordpress currently has 55,979,832 sites around the planet. That is a lot of blogs (although I am sure many of those sites are more business-type sites rather than traditional blogs). The stats for Blogger are not as readily available, although neilsen wire says it has more blogs than Wordpress. That is a LOT of bloggers. We are talking hundreds of millions.

With that many online journals circling the Internet, the reality is that many of them are never found. With the exception of a small handful of family and friends (for each blogger), search engines like Google and Yahoo don't rank blogs as well as other more credible sites.

The bottom line: There are a lot of bloggers that will never be found by a random stranger searching on Google. For personal bloggers especially, organic traffic is hard to come by.


It is hard to stand out in a crowd that large. Bloggers must continually produce unusual, funny, inspiring posts that captivate an audience with a very short attention span. The competition is fierce, and many bloggers are lucky to see 20-30 pageviews a day. Since bloggers are motivated by views, commenters, and engagement from their readers, this leads to a quick decline in morale.

A ghost blog

Stumbling upon on a ghost blog is very sad. You look through the writings and quickly realize the author abandoned its post months ago. A few writings are there, with zeros in the comment section. No one has bothered to read or comment. The author, feeling the sting of rejection, goes off looking for other places to show his work.

Unfortunately, this is the fate of many blogs on the Internet. Writers get lonely. Day after day, post after post, no one reads or bothers to take a minute and say hello. Without the boost in motivation, the blog is abandoned, becoming another piece of digital litter in a crowded Web of media.

The number one cure for blogging loneliness? The Bloppy Bloggers!
The number one cure for blogging loneliness? The Bloppy Bloggers! | Source

The community is hard to find

With both Wordpress and Blogger, there isn't a central community spot for online interaction (it would be difficult since there are SO many of them). Unlike places like Facebook, Pinterest, and Twitter where there is a constant buzz of activity, bloggers must go digging for like-minded writers. In fact, trying to find a blogging community is almost as time consuming as the blog itself! Writers who simply want to write, get tired of the effort it takes to build an audience.

They continue to write, hoping people will stop by, and as the days go by- they get lonelier and lonelier.

Bloggers write for the people

I think the incidence of lonely bloggers is so high because the blog is meant to be an interactive piece of writing. Authors are notorious for their hermit-like habits, but bloggers are different.

If you are a blogger, how do you rate your writing? Is it by traffic views? Comments? The amount of time it was shared? Authors have this problem, but in spats and spurts. When they are neck deep in writing, there isn't a constant hum of stats rattling the brain. It isn't until the book is published that the nerves begin. While drafting their manuscript, they must deal with mainly with the inner critic- but bloggers have to face that critic (plus the world) every day.

Blogging is like the stock market. You have a good day of reading, your spirits are high. You have a bad day- your mood plummets. Loneliness loves this atmosphere.

Those who feel the sting of loneliness, usually do so in the midst of a large crowd. It is easy to think,

"There is so much happening, but I missed the wave."

Do you struggle with loneliness when you write and don't see much activity?

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Blogging is personal

Much like art, a blog is a personal project and masterpiece. Everything from the design, the writing, and the layout is planned with care and consideration. When people don't show an interest, it fosters depression and despair. Loneliness creeps in as other blogs continue to skyrocket with views and attention.

Copywriters don't feel this same sting. You write about deodorant, weight loss, or stainless steel pots. Your authorship is stripped from you, and you receive compensation. While degrading in another sense, copywriting doesn't induce that feeling of loneliness and rejection that a little-known blog can.

So should bloggers give up?

Never. Bloggers are artists, just like musicians, painters, and potters. But as each profession has its hazards, loneliness is a big risk for the blogger. There are things you can do to help get you- the blogger- off the roller coaster.

  1. See other bloggers not as competition, but as friends.
  2. Guest post when you can, so that you and the other person can have one another's back.
  3. Write what you love. Love what you write. Your loneliness will be held at bay when you stop simply trying to cater to the audience.
  4. Comment on other blogs. Don't enter the world of blogging unless you are ready to commit to others the way you want them to commit to you.
  5. Join a blogger's group on Facebook.
  6. Blogs that receive 50 views a day are healthy! You should take pride in your work, even if you aren't seeing the traffic you'd hoped.
  7. Slow and steady. Those amazing days are great, but with every spike- comes the inevitable drop. Steady numbers are easier on the heart and mind.

Change the way you look at it

Internet readers are fickle. They are impatient. They don't always appreciate fine writing. If you are not seeing views, it may have nothing to do with your craft, your thoughts, or you.

When you come to accept the habits and quirks of the audience you write for, it will not be as hard to swallow the bad days. The blog is your palette. It is the place to try out ideas, flesh out your thoughts, and write with abandon- no deadlines, no boss, and no contract. Artists have studios, writers have blogs. When you change the way you look at, loneliness can be held at bay.


About the author

Julie DeNeen is a freelance writer, blogger, and mother of three. With a healthy blog (that took a long time to grow), she is still subject to the "lonely blogger" days, and wants other bloggers to know- they are not alone.

She is also a private blogging consultant and can be found at


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      Linda Rogers 

      5 years ago from Minnesota

      Hi Julie and thanks for the hope and inspiration on the lonely blogger. I don't get a lot of traffic on my blog but I stay because it's my special place to write whatever I want. I agree with you that you have to love what you write and write what you love. When I was younger, before the days of computer, I wrote in a journal because it was my passion and a healing, cathartic thing I did for myself. Blogging is still my journaling, albeit online. If you remember why you started writing/blogging in the first place, the loneliness will find you less and less. I hit many buttons on this useful article.

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      Pete Fanning 

      6 years ago from Virginia

      Great info Julie, and inspiring as well! Voted up!

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      6 years ago from USA

      Thanks for the inspiration Julie! Now that I've turned my full attention back to blogging (thanks in large part to Panda, which gave me a good kick in the rear and reminded me where I need to be focusing my energy), I've needed a good dose of inspiration and tips for writing some good, informative blogs.

      I particularly agree with what you said about viewing your blog as a studio. That's exactly how I view mine. I view mine as something like a "recording studio" where you can record the latest megahit or a total dud.

      Anyway, to all the beginning bloggers out there, good luck and remember to keep your blog informative and entertaining! If you do this, you should get at least some readership!

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      Chantele Cross-Jones 

      6 years ago from Cardiff

      Ive stuck at it for 3 years! I get around 200 hits a day (not a lot but enough) I finally got a little recognition recently when I won Welsh lifestyle Blog of the Year 2012 in the Welsh Blog Awards so was super excited and it made it all kinda seem worth it! I write my blog because I love it, not for any gratification really, but getting comments is really nice. I only get a tiny handfull usually and normally from long time followers. I find a lot of bloggers never actually read other peoples blogs and never comment, whereas I love to blog hop and leave little messages. This hub is great for bloggers, really shows that a lonely blog is usually the norm!

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      Shasta Matova 

      6 years ago from USA

      You're right, it can get lonely, and the way to fix it is to change your perspective. It is difficult to get a blogging audience without spending a lot of time reading other blogs.

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      6 years ago

      I find the blogging community to be extremely supportive. They are like family to me. As for giving up blogging, I say never. My blog is my voice.

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      6 years ago from India

      Timely and useful info, for me nd other beginner writers. Thanks for sharing it up. ' Success is all about applied knowledge powered by positive thinking .' Voted and shared!

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      6 years ago from the South

      Julie, thanks for this hub! It's so nice to know that others feel the same way I do. I work so hard on my blog and my websites and get lonely and depressed that they aren't getting the traffic I want! But, I also know (or maybe I'm just stubborn enough...haha) that you have to just keep going. Great hub!

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      6 years ago from Kentucky

      Julie - Perhaps blogging is not the way for everyone. I've read a few blogs where I would've felt bad with the comments I would've left, so I left silently. Uneducated in life, spouting hate and racism, pushing topics that have no interest, these are all some of the reasons for low traffic. As in life, there will always be those talking without understanding, and those that understand and not talking. Having just acquired a blogging site, I've yet to start anything there at all. Perhaps apprehension exists at being in one of the two categories just mentioned. Great Hub!

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      Melanie Chisnall 

      6 years ago from Cape Town, South Africa

      I needed to read this, especially today. You're right, blogging is a form of art, you are expressing you who are and what you think about or feel a certain way about, in a creative format. Thanks for this - excellent topic that I think all bloggers out there need to read. Great job! :)

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      Melissa Flagg COA OSC 

      6 years ago from Rural Central Florida

      This actually was quite inspirational Julie! It took me all day to read it (damn distractions) but when I finally finished it, I wanted to go and write a blog post (on what I have no idea.... lol)

      Voted up and awesome...

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      Cynthia Calhoun 

      6 years ago from Western NC

      Such sage writing from a blogging guru such as yourself. :) I love your blog, your writing and your spirit. Here's to a long life of writing, blogging and living to tell about it. :D

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      6 years ago from Sky Is The Limit Adventure

      Another great hub Julie! I love your work and how you expressed frustrations and at the same time lifting your readers (writers/bloggers) spirit up. I like your outlook of supporting each other instead of competing and that truly is the spirit of community.

      This six-month old hubber has got a lot of learning to do...thanks to people like you - I don't need to go any further to get motivated. So, I'd just do it and keep on writing.

      Up and useful.

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      Bill Holland 

      6 years ago from Olympia, WA

      The best part of this hub was the line....see other bloggers as friends and not competition....the same can be said about HubPages. I have run into myopic people on HP who seem to think we are all in competition with each other, and that is simply silly. Great hub Julie!

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      Live To Write 

      6 years ago from Phoenix, Az.

      Very nice hub Julie, and it is very funny, and a little sad that "ghost blog" section. I never thought in terms like this ; but I guess this new "tech world' has created a whole new world of situations to consider too.

      Great one Julie!


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      6 years ago from Chicago, Illinois


      Good stuff - but your making me depressed . . .

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      Kelly Umphenour 

      6 years ago from St. Louis, MO

      Thanks Julie - I always learn so much from you:). I want to check out the links above too.

      I just haven't been blogging long enough to have a reaction yet....but I know I'll be going, "so where's traffic?" soon:) lol. I love following your blog. You are entertaining and smart and REAL!

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      Girish puri 

      6 years ago from NCR , INDIA

      I agree to your view point, it is real hard and i appreciate your concern, great work.

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      Blurter of Indiscretions 

      6 years ago from Clinton CT

      Thanks Janine. I really want to build a blogger/writer community simply because I realize how hard this all can be!!

    • Julie DeNeen profile imageAUTHOR

      Blurter of Indiscretions 

      6 years ago from Clinton CT

      It really helped once I looked at my blog like it was my studio (like an artist). A place to try my ideas. It takes the pressure off!

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      Janine Huldie 

      6 years ago from New York, New York

      Julie, sometimes I swear you can read my mind. I am just starting this journey, but I very much agree with the overall message of your article. I have noticed since blogging that I get ideas for Hub articles out of some of my daily rantings. I also do find myself looking at my stats to see who is reading and where they are from. Thank you for being a bit of the voice of reason so to speak on this. I have to tell you that I truly value our friendship and very much appreciate your continued help and support too :) Have of course voted, shared, pinned, tweeted this!!!

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      Stacy Harris 

      6 years ago from Hemet, Ca

      Great hub. I can understand how lonely the writing world can get. I know I have felt that way many times, even if I was just writing on hubpages. My blog on the other hand is a different outlet. I know that it will take a while to really get a following. I even had the evil thought once wondering why I am doing this if only a few select people are really reading it. But, it is an infant yet. And frankly - I just love that I have a place to call my own where I am not restricted!

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      Cygnet Brown 

      6 years ago from Springfield, Missouri

      Some people think that the writing is all anyone needs to do to get lots of traffic on their blogs, but that's simply not the case. As you mention, the way to get comments and traffic is to visit other blogs, talk to that blogger about his or her content and gently lead them back to your blog via your signature line. (You don't want to say "read my blog". Just commenting is enough. If what you say is relevant, you will get traffic via your comments.

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      Blurter of Indiscretions 

      6 years ago from Clinton CT

      Yes. Me too.

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      Audrey Howitt 

      6 years ago from California

      Such a great hub! Sometimes I am a lonely blogger!


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