Why is it, when 'truths' are revealed in writing about events and others, so many become angry.
i don't include names in my writing and could be talking about anyone, yet many have read into my writing and saw themselves- thus the anger and heave- ho I get...
People don't like to have their fears about themselves validated. Ironically, their strong reaction offers its own sort of validation to the observer.
I guess that's their problem, hmmm? People have to realize that writers use personal experiences and collective memories in order to do their writing...it's just a part of who we are. If they get offended, then perhaps they shouldn't read it...at least that's what I've told people who get offended by my writing.
I agree with what both of the other comments stated. It seems that a lot of the time, someone either writes and likes to do it or dreads it and only do it when required - such as a job or for school assignments. When someone is one of 'the others' they don't really understand how we write the things we write, they haven't practiced what we like to do and, I get it, I do understand. Having said that, it's also not their right to get angry though. I think that if a friend were to get angry with me it would not be his/her right to do so. One thing about America is freedom of speech. Our writing, is exactly that - our writing. It was created and formed by our minds. It consists of our emotions and perceptions about the events, ideas, people, etc. that we've encountered through our lives. To ease them even more, you should suggest the very eminent possibility that they are the only one who would even notice. Or, you could just tell them, "Well hey, why don't you give it a shot then?" I had an idea for a couple book ideas in the future involving people I know and I thought about keeping some of their original names in the book (as they gave me permission), but because of situations like the one you've addressed - I will not.
First off i do not understand the picture with the question but i love the iguana i have one myself. Very extremely nice though hardly ever angry. But regardless people that get angry just have not given the other side of things a chance. They assume they are right and there is no changing that. Most people need to understand why your way could be right. I have wrote a decent amount of behavioral styles if you want to come on by and check it it. Maybe you can get your way after reading into it.
Simple: People don't like the truth even though we say we want to know. People may want to know and demand the truth, but (at the risk of using a corny cliche), they literally can't handle the truth. And, that's the truth. ;-)
It says somewhere in 'The Good Book' "and the truth will set you free." - something along those lines.
Problem is most of us are hooked up within that part of ourselves which is not the truth: our own psychological conditioning, which is chock-a-block full of all sorts of beliefs which are, in fact, not true.
For example, the bulimia sufferer who feels he or she (it's usually a she) is overweight, does not see herself as she is. She sees herself as overweight and no amount of pointing out - even with photographic evidence - that she is as skinny as a rake will convince her she needs to fatten up. She will get very angry if told to do so. "Butt out!" she is likely to scream.
You see, it becomes a battle between the 'self image,' i.e how the ego sees itself. and the truth. Egos cannot abide the truth. That is why they keep us forever in memories of the past (whether those memories are accurate or not) and in an imaginary future. Egos - and their corolary, the self-image - cannot abide the present moment, or silence, or real introspection. And when this is brought to their attention, egos grow angry.
Because anger is always based in fear. And egos fear that they will be found out for what they are. Nothing more than a conglommerate of ideas which have developed an identity of their own. Problem is, so many of us believe that we are our egos. That's why there's so much anger around.
If people can't handle the truth, I would think that you're chipping away at their ego.
Keep going! lol
People are often self-centered so automatically assume you are talking about and criticizing them. They don't like the truth to be told because they don't want to face the truth and have to make changes in their lives.
Because No one means all he says, and yet very few say all they mean, for words are slippery and thought is viscous.
Because "in a sanctimonious society of hustlers, like ours in the US, people who tell the truth are doomed to be hated".
Amigo, folks are wired kinda strange in my view, you could use my name and twist toward possible insult and I'd just smile with a goofy retort but others seem self centered to the point they are sure that it was/is all about them. They need to lighten up and learn that there are a whole lot of folks on this planet that match their description. As it has been said "ain't nothing new under this sun" Peace dust
by Yves 4 years ago
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by Drew nite 5 years ago
Why do people ask questions, and when they are told the truth which is not what they want to...hear, they vote down on your response? They do this especially when it comes to relationship questions.
by Ellana317 6 years ago
Do you write out of your passions or as a response to what's in demand?
by Donaisabella 5 years ago
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by Matthew I Crawford 7 years ago
If you had to speak exactly what was on your mind for one day. How many friends would you have left?
by Russ Moran - The Write Stuff 5 years ago
Do you have a niche or are you a generalist, and which is better in your view?
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