Ego Kills You and The Beauty of Your Relationships

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   Misbah786posted 3 years ago

   
   ~~Pic by Google images
   
   Kill Ego as it it is your own creation,
   You feed it for your own satisfaction.
   Kill Ego to achieve what's really missing,
   You forget to feel the joy as you are growing.
   
   You love to hear what you love,
   Is it what you call living?
   Learn the importance of saying sorry and being forgiving,
   As ego kills you and the beauty of your relationships...
   
   So just Keep on dreaming as
   the world is just an illusion,
   Fight with yourself first if,
   you really want to be remembered as someone who was achieving,
   
   Your life will end and so will the ego,
   Then who will be that someone
   who will say after you;
   Oh my dear for you I am grieving,
   It's you whom I am missing...
   
                                     ~~Misbah~~
   
   Think about it before ego kills you and your relationships. Don't feed it. Just kill it!!
   Kill it for yourself and for the ones you love...

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      manatita44posted 3 years agoin reply to this

      "Ego is the thief of thieves. Not to speak of ordinary experiences, even realisations are afraid of this intruder. To feel the absence of ego is as difficult as to see God’s constant presence in oneself. Ego helps bondage grow. Bondage, in return, helps ego flourish or run amuck." - Sri Chinmoy
      
      "Ego and emotion are the obverse and the reverse of the same coin. There are two types of ego. One ego is self-binding, self-centred. The other ego is self-transcending and all-embracing. The self-centred ego has to be transformed into the self-transcending, all-embracing and God-fulfilling ego.
      
      This self-transcending ego is the knowledge of oneness, inseparable oneness with the Infinite, the Eternal, the Absolute and the Immortal." - Sri Chinmoy
      
      I do not know that you should 'try so hard', though commendable. The five cardinal sins will also help us and 'ego' is one of them. But yes, I know what you mean.
      
      We do not generally talk of 'killing' it, but defeating or transforming it. Patience is required, as well as a life of intense spiritual Sadhana. We also need to go beyond tolerance and acceptance and enter the field of universal oneness. There everything is seen as coming from the Source, including ego.
      
      It is a bit like celebacy. To suppress is not a good thing, but a slow progression of sublimation towards the goal of self-transcendence, sometimes work better, according to the nature of the individual soul. Try to bear, even while remaining awake ... vigilant.
      
      Be vigilant and devotional by all means, but don't rush! May Allah continue to guide and bless you, now and always. Ameen.

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         Misbah786posted 3 years agoin reply to this

         I understand. I appreciate you sharing that. There is always something new that needs to be learned.
         Blessings as always!!

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   RozlinMohsinposted 3 years ago

   True lines with a strong message, Misbah.

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      Misbah786posted 3 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you so much, Rozlin.
      Blessings and Love to you, dear sister

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   Charles Emerenwaposted 3 years ago

   Another well-expressed poem with a brilliant message, Misbah.
   
   Naturally, every person has 'ego', which is a result of the need to retain one's self-esteem and dignity. It is something that is inborn, and emerge as we respond to certain triggers that we perceive as an attack to our values, belief, and character even.
   
   At times, we fail to realize that it's better to take the high road and see past the hurt or offense, which might not mean a thing a couple years down the road. We react instinctively instead of contemplating the response. Many a times, we assume that the hurt we feel is a result of the action or words that came from the other person instead of looking at how we might have exaggerated the response or taken things out of proportion.
   
   Really, it is a matter of prioritizing the relationship and if it mattered, you will always find a way to clear the air. The issue might not necessarily have to get out of hand before you realize that it is not worth just to prove yourself. Sometimes, we need to employ the approach of "all battles are worth fighting, but some of them just aren't worth winning".
   
   I have to agree with Manatita that letting go of our ego is a transformative process that requires a lot of patience and understanding. We may not rid or 'kill' it per se, and suppressing it may backfire and cause more harm than good either. However, we may first recognize, acknowledge, and gradually relinquish the power it has over us and not allow it to dictate our behavior. It certainly helps to be aware and mindful in order to recognize if our responses are dictated by our ego, so that we may reign it in to regain control over it.
   
   "Dissolve your ego, before it dissolves your self" - Maxime Lagacé

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      manatita44posted 3 years agoin reply to this

      Well put!
      
      You have said it better than me!! Smile. One further thing Misbah, which I didn't say, is that the more Grace enters, the more it shines a light on problems we didn't even know existed. In other words, the mere fact that you're seeing the problem, can be an indication that you are doing well. Just keep up the spiritual practices without expectations.

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         Misbah786posted 3 years agoin reply to this

         Manatita, Thanks a lot. I will try my best to keep practicing it without expectations, Insha'Allah. Have a great day ahead.
         Many Blessings to you, dear brother

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      Misbah786posted 3 years agoin reply to this

      Brian, Thank you so much for taking the time to share your kind thoughts with me here.
      
      Yes, I agree with both you and Manatita. "All battles are worth fighting, but some are just not worth winning," you said and I totally agree with that. When it comes to surviving friendships or relationships. It is better to lose than to win.
      
      At some point in life, you'll be satisfied of yourself for not hurting someone you care about, whether it's a friend, a partner or any relation. I believe that it would be life's greatest achievement.
      
      I really liked the quote you shared in the end. Thank you!!!
      
      Blessings always!

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         manatita44posted 3 years agoin reply to this

         Salaam! I am a hard teacher. Please forgive your Bhaia ji.
         
         You're still seeing loss. Natural in your current situation and also for whatever else you have in mind. Victory and defeat are interwoven, yet both are imposters. It is never really a question of winning or losing, but of harmony and oneness... of Love. Ultimately, all rests in the Self:
         
         "Victory means temporary peace, but Peace, is eternity's victory." - Sri Chinmoy

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            Misbah786posted 3 years agoin reply to this

            Lol! Isn't it true that hard teachers bring out the best in their students? Once again, thank you for your kindness, bro. Much Gratitude!!!
            
            I loved the quote by Sri Chinmoy. Peace is without a doubt the victory of eternity.
            
            Blessings and Peace!!!

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               manatita44posted 3 years agoin reply to this

               https://hubpages.com/literature/Beacon- … -Divine-35 My humble offering for you today. Jazak Allahu Khairan

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                  Misbah786posted 3 years agoin reply to this

                  Aww... Thank you so much, bro. Sorry for the delay. I was away for duhr prayer and lunch. Now back. I'm just going to read now 

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   Brenda Arledgeposted 3 years ago

   What a wonderful write.
   
   "You love to hear what you love,
   Is it what you call living?"
   
   We are guilty of wanting to hear certain things from others...
   As Manatita44 says we should transform this way of thinking.
   
   Let our soul be at peace.
   
   Great thoughts.
   Bredz

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      Misbah786posted 3 years agoin reply to this

      Dear Bredz, thank you very much for your beautiful and sweet response. I'm always delighted to hear that you enjoyed it. Many blessings to you.
      Sending Lots of Love

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