Losing a Friend to Suicide

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  1. Shelleelyn profile image61
    Shelleelynposted 8 years ago

    "We Don't Notice"

    We don't notice until they are gone
    Do we all feel invisible after so long?
    Suddenly there are questions,
    Which we have no answers to
    Where do we end up....
    All I can see is you
    I can understand
    The anger, resentment, & pain
    I know not even your worries were in vain
    Please help me figure out
    What you were trying to prove,
    It must have been nothing
    Nobody wins,
    we all lose.


    1. sofs profile image81
      sofsposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Sorry for the loss. I know it hurts, the pain that you couldn't stop it... Don't blame yourself or anyone . Time heals .. My prayers are with you Shelleelyn

      1. Shelleelyn profile image61
        Shelleelynposted 8 years agoin reply to this

        Thanks for the reply, it was back in May...this was a poem written for him around that time of pain.

  2. Lisa HW profile image63
    Lisa HWposted 8 years ago

    It's very sad, of course.  I hope his family and friends know he probably wasn't trying to prove anything.  Maybe he just couldn't bear whatever was going on in his head another moment.  Maybe if he'd gotten through that moment (or stretch of similar moments) to the next, he wouldn't have done what he did at all.  The word, "unbearable" (impossible to bear) can be at the root of suicide.

  3. profile image0
    ahorsebackposted 8 years ago

    Shelleelyn, there are always those who suffer in silence and sadly they always will, listening  beyond our comfort zone to go beyond te wall of silence is hard . Sorry for you losing your friend though.

  4. pisean282311 profile image60
    pisean282311posted 8 years ago

    I am sorry for your loss...

  5. triosol profile image57
    triosolposted 8 years ago

    Sorry for the loss. Hope his family & friends know he probably wasn't trying to prove anything.

  6. ROMANCER OF LIFE profile image68
    ROMANCER OF LIFEposted 8 years ago

    I know the feeling of losing someone to suicide. I've lost 5 friends and a close relative all to suicide. Last year two of my friends committed suicide. It was a pretty rough year for me, but I survived the pain. I myself committed suicide when I was 17 years old. I was lucky to have a second chance. I've been through a lot. The amazing thing is I found solace through it all. I find my strength in God. I am so sorry for your loss and I loved your poem. I wish you the best.


    1. Shelleelyn profile image61
      Shelleelynposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      This was actually the second friend I'd lost from suicide...it never stops hurting, just gets a little easier over time.  I'm so happy to hear that your attempted suicide was unsuccessful!! I am glad you liked the poem, check out my hub: 2nd wind for more! smile

  7. RFox profile image70
    RFoxposted 8 years ago

    Beautiful poem and condolences on going through such a difficult time.

    A friend of mine right after high school committed suicide. It stays with you for a long time but the pain I felt from that experience and having gone through it allowed me to recognize the signs of depression in another close friend years later. I was able to help him make it through in one piece because of my earlier experience.

    Take care of yourself and your friends and remember it can take a long time to process all the feelings involved with suicide so don't rush yourself and keep writing those beautiful poems!

    1. Shelleelyn profile image61
      Shelleelynposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      thanks for the feedback! smile

  8. WryLilt profile image89
    WryLiltposted 8 years ago

    Beautiful poem.

    I have been there.

  9. habee profile image95
    habeeposted 8 years ago

    I lost a best friend and my father to suicide. I understood Dad's motives, but I'll never understand my friend's. She was young, in a great relationship, had a beautiful home, and a great job. She left behind 3 children. I talked to her all the time and never saw it coming.

    1. Shelleelyn profile image61
      Shelleelynposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Wow, I'm sorry to hear that.  It's always going to be one of those mysteries that we'll never fully understand.  You have to be pretty lost to resort to those temptations.  Life is full of wonder, even on my worst day.  I hope you are doing well, thanks for the response!

  10. aisha2u profile image54
    aisha2uposted 8 years ago

    Just want to say my condolences goes out to you. I have not experience a lost this way. But losing a love one to any form of death we still share equal pain. All i can say is walk by faith not by sight and the man above will walk with you.


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