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Single Mothers & the Deterioration of the Black Community in America

  1. gmwilliams profile image86
    gmwilliamsposted 9 months ago

    Many political commentators, sociologists, psychologists, educators, & other social scientists staunchly maintain that the proliferate increase in single motherhood in the Black community has resulted in poverty, crime, & other dysfunctionally pathological behaviors  There are those who decry that this increase in single motherhood has caused the decline of the Black family. Many affirm that Black communities will become better when there are fathers in the home.

    1. Live to Learn profile image79
      Live to Learnposted 9 months agoin reply to this

      I think any child would benefit from more than one parent working to raise them. A single mother can raise a child to be a productive member of society. But, it takes commitment, maturity and work to do so.

      But, let's be honest. Starting a family young, and on your own, is one of the key ingredients in stacking the deck against yourself to such an extent that you will relegate yourself into poverty; and if the community you live in accepts this as the norm the problem will only grow. Once entrenched in this system, forces from within will work harder to keep you down than will forces from without. Those forces from within will actively work to ensnare your children into that system; more than forces from without will work to break the chain.

      There are enough people within the black community who are actively working to find a way to change this culture to believe that it is not racist to believe it is negative and detrimental to the collective community.

      1. Credence2 profile image81
        Credence2posted 9 months agoin reply to this

        Well said, thank you...

      2. gmwilliams profile image86
        gmwilliamsposted 9 months agoin reply to this


  2. Will Apse profile image92
    Will Apseposted 9 months ago

    I helped out at a refugee centre in London for a while. The African families were almost universally decent, open, friendly people when they arrived. Sadly, after a few months living in the viciousness of inner city London with its racism and random nastiness, they became a lot more guarded, distrustful and hostile, themselves.

    Not all of them, of course. Some could rise above it. And they all tried to protect their children as best they could.

    You need to be tough to get by in inner city environments and it is twice as hard when you are essentially a decent person and just get racist BS as your reward.

    As to your original question: racism is the core of all racial problems and the single parent thing is a red herring. Racists use any excuse to deflect the problem away from themselves and onto their victims. Don't get sucked into their nonsense. Plenty of poor white communities have social problems.

    1. Credence2 profile image81
      Credence2posted 9 months agoin reply to this

      a common sense assessment, why can't I hear more of this on this side of the pond?

      1. Will Apse profile image92
        Will Apseposted 9 months agoin reply to this

        It is not that much better in the UK, in certain areas, at least.

        In the US, sadly, even mainstream parties are willing to seek political capital through reinforcing people's fears and prejudices. It is depressing.

        Until whites in the US are willing to look at themselves honestly, racism is going to flourish.

        1. Credence2 profile image81
          Credence2posted 9 months agoin reply to this

          sometime when you have a moment, and from your position on the other side of the Atlantic, I sure would like to know how are these issues seen and handled differently in Britain when compared with here in the States. You say that much of 'it' is the same, is there a perceptional difference in regards to these issues there?

          1. Will Apse profile image92
            Will Apseposted 9 months agoin reply to this

            Sorry Credence, I've had a tough week in my garden. I find laying concrete paths pretty satisfying (don't know why) but it leaves me a bit brain dead, lol. So I will contribute here another time. Thanks for your kind words earlier.

  3. Kathryn L Hill profile image80
    Kathryn L Hillposted 9 months ago

    ... why would you want to have a baby without a loving husband and father around?  W H Y?   
    Come on, grow a brain!!!!!!

    … perhaps every mother needs to talk to her daughter realistically.
    R E A L I T Y  check !!!