For me, always forgive. Always try and give chance for others.
Without a doubt I believe that forgiving is the better option. When you forgive someone they no longer have power over you to affect your emotions. Anger is a toxic emotion so the faster you can diffuse it the better for you and your health.
Great question. One we all need to look at because we often think we have forgiven but continue to act out in passive aggressive ways. However, I think the there is a broader question which is what do I do when I have been hurt, wounded, insulted, violated? I think this question is both fitting for myself as an individual as well as for us collectively as a community or a nation.
I have never known of an example where "good" or life came from revenge. The old cowboy movies and current terrorism are good examples. Revenge brings about another round of revenge. It never stops.
Yet, it is true that we have a need inside of us to have others honor our integrity and when they violate us, we are going to have an almost innate reaction to retaliate. BUT we, as humans, have a prefrontal lobe, so we have choices when it comes to responding to violation. We can move beyond getting even to a bigger issue of what is going to bring about healing for myself as well as healing for the one who violated me. People who are healthy and filled with life do not violate other people. They violate because of some violation to themselves.
It doesn't take rocket science to figure that out. There's an old saying, I can be part of the solution or part of the problem. IT IS A CHOICE.
I think the best is to forgive someone, but it also depends on what happened. I don't think I could get past wanting and seeking revenge if someone murdered or raped a loved one of mine. Forgiveness in that case would be a long time in coming....but, I would try....eventually.
I prefer to forgive because karma will come back to you. Forgiveness brings great karma. We all know the saying "Keep your friends close and your enemies closer".
Forgive someone. The Bible says we are to forgive others. The Lord says, "Vengeance is mine, saith the Lord. I will repay." We should never seek to get revenge, or to "get even" with someone. That is a vicious cycle. As hard as it is, and believe me, I know, we must seek to forgive.
People can be cruel. Revenge can seem so sweet an option at first glance. Consider all things before taking revenge on someone that has hurt you. Here are some tips I have learned along my own life's journey and things I have observed in others lives. read more
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