Revenge - pros and cons
What are you thinking about revenge? Is it ethic? Is revenge way of justice and preventing evil facility or revenge is evil itself? What do you think about it?
Revenge is not a emotion that is positive. Just like anger and envy. I personally don't think spending any time thinking of on is good for you...plotting to get back at someone is a waste of energy and time...
I think this depends on what side of an event you are on and what the event is. Is a country's motivation behind revenge attacks on terrorists the same motivation as a father against the murderer of his daughter?
Many would say that revenge is always a bad thing and ultimately causes more harm. Revenge in many cases always has emotion attached to it as well as seeing it as true justice.
On the other hand I wonder if the same people would feel the same way if a member of their family - a child, partner, sister, brother - was brutally murdered and then watched the same murderer go free after spending only a few years in jail? If a member of the victims family took revenge on the murderer would we sympathise? Probably yes. Would we all think this was the best course of action to take? Again it would I think depend where you are placed in the event. The closer you are to the victim, the more justified you would feel revenge is I think. So we might at some time feel revenge is a good thing at other times we may not.
A very interesting question and no simple answer.
I have a strong desire for revenge, but in the end, won't anything you can do as "revenge" make you feel worse then you already do afterwards, the best revenge is living well... or moving on and never speaking to the person who hurt you again. Plus, most things that you can do as revenge are probably illegal, so you will just end up in more trouble and a darker place again, so in all it's not worth it.
Revenge is never the solution to resolve anger.
You will not get your satisfaction after you have made your revenge. Instead learn to forgive and let go. You will find yourself as a better person and happier thereafter. What had happened is already gone so seeking revenge will not change anything except creating more problems or burden.
I do believe in Karma & Merits. So, if you want to be happier in life, learn the lesson of forgiving and letting things go.
Every action we take, there will be a consequence. So taking revenge likely end up paying what you did. It will be a cycle if we are to take revenge in our hands.
I rather give my forgiveness and let bygone by bygone. Releasing this anger of revenge will be much better in life as you will definitely feel release of anger and gain happiness.
Revenge is bad for our soul however; there are stuff I can't tolerate (ex: relative being raped or killed). I won't kill that person (I respect life) but I'm gonna wait for the best opportunity to show them what I feel. [revenge is best served cold].
In the short-term, revenge can be a fantastic solution, as it allows us to take out our anger on the one responsible for the emotion. There's no question that there's a certain level of satisfaction obtained - at least temporarily - but it's not really going to resolve the underlying issue, or make us feel a whole lot better weeks, months or years later.
Is it ethical? I'm not going to get too deep into that, as this would become a hub in itself, but even if we were to agree that 'an eye for an eye' was ethical, the problem is it typically becomes more like two eyes, a leg, and an ear for an eye. We're far too emotional to simply stop when we've got our 'dues.'
i believe strongly in revenge. not for things that were either accidental or trivial but if someone hurts my family or a close friend, prison is just the beginning or what the effects of their actions will bring to them. the thought of forgiveness is absurd and helps no one. i love how people say revenge is not the right thing to do, i call then cowards because they would rather let someone else stand up for them or they will just pretend it's religiously right and turn the other cheek. appaling to say the least.
Revenge is a dish best served cold. I say this to myself whenever I have the urge to spew this on someone. I believe I have saved myself additional headache and heartache by following this advice.
Revenge can ultimately be determined by three key questions:
1. Will it make you happy to plot about it, or carry it out, or will it eat away at you in the same manner as what caused you to think about acting it out?
2. Will revenge rectify the situation, or cause it to spiral out of control?
3. Will it bring the person back? ex. A murderer who killed someone, An ex who cheated etc.
Whatever action a person chooses there will be consequences, and sometimes they are not good. Some times you just have to, "Let go and Let God"......
It really depends on the situation...... Sometimes the best revenge is showing someone you have the strength to move on. I am a big believer in Karma, and what goes around comes back around. There is no use in making yourself sick over negative energy, when you could be the better person, and live your life in peace by moving on. I think that's the best revenge, to show someone that their actions have no control over you, and sadly some people get a kick out of making other people miserable. By showing them that you will not give them the satisfaction, will put the power back in your hands.
I agree with sturner1, showing you have the strength to move on is the best way to get back at those trying to pull you down or go out of their way to make you miserable out of jealousy, malice, etc.
However, it is situational. People being mean to me and messing around with me is one thing. But when violence is involved and especially when directed towards my loved ones and family, that is something else. I am fortunate not to have found myself in such a situation yet, but when I imagine it, I find the emotions and feelings so strong that the need to exact revenge appears to be the only way to find release and closure.
i think there can never be a clear answer for this one.
Revenge is a lower form of existence. If someone has hurt you in some way, it is better to look closely and see why it is, they have done what they have done.
It is always better to learn a lesson from life,and its trials and tribulations, rather than lowering down to a tit for tat mentality.
Nothing improves with revenge.
It is the most harmful quality to possess. It eats the vitals of the man who plan a revenge. Best way is "Forgive and Forget". That way lies the way for everlasting peace and Joy. Hence choose wisely. No need to weigh the pros and cons.
Revenge is an act of retaliation, like murder for murder, causing injury for injury, harshness for harshness, contempt for contempt, insult for an insult and so on. It is natural that when a person is agitated and utters some harsh words to somebody, an instant reaction occurs. However, one is deemed as criminal if he/she commits murder for murder and is punished as per law. A man can forget everything except insult. An insulted guy simmers for a long time and is always anxious to avenge himself. Some persons are in the habit of cursing the persons who have insulted them, some of them even praying God to punish the culprits, but. ultimately, revenge is an emotion which is not good for one's mental health.to nurse grudges for a reasonably long time disrupts our mental equilibrium and we suffer from stress in our lives. However on a bigger level, if a country has been attacked, a full blown retaliation is requisite , otherwise if there is the least of slackening, people do not forgive the people at the helm of the affairs of the country. Similarly, when someone indulges in rough talk without any provocation, it is justified to retort promptly instead of tolerating the brazen behavior of the person concerned. When the moment someone gets insulted, a prompt response should be given to prevent oneself being insulted again and again. In nutshell, insult, contempt,snobbery etc. are to be dealt with immediately ,otherwise these can turn into the causes of revenge in the future.
Revenge is a world that creates many obstacles in your freedom. If one really wants to end the revenge, it is better to forgive the person against whom the feeling of revenge has emerged inside of you. The more you get closure to revenge, the more unhappiness and evil feeling will control your mind. Better to forgive and move on.
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