Why no one seems to be able to keep a secret?
Can someone please give me a good psychological reason why people in general can't keep a secret? I say people because it's across the board, men as well as women are guilty. My mother says it's like an old refrigerator, "can't keep anything."
It's natural for anyone to want to tell something that they know. It is like a human instinct. Especially, if it something that will affect someone else. It is a natural feeling to tell at least one person. Yes, sometimes that person is the wrong person to tell. However, it is still human nature.
Sometimes, it comes down to morals, and doing what is right. No matter how mad the person gets for their secrets being told. It may be better in the long run, if someone else knew what was going on.
Gossip is a big fad. People like to know things about other people. Maybe it makes them feel better. Maybe its because they judge everyone. Maybe it is so that they will actually feel better about themselves.
Habit. Sometimes, people just have a habit of telling everything they shouldn't. It is just the person they are. Not that they necessarily want to tell things. It's just they don't know how to control themselves from stopping it.
The news is just too much for them to handle. Yes, this can happen. Sometimes, knowing something can eat away at a person. Even if it is good. They just can't keep it inside, knowing that nobody else knows. It's like knowing someone is having a baby, its hard not to be excited, and not tell anyone. At the same time, its like knowing someone stabbed someone else.
For most people it's no fun having the "scoop" or "411" unless someone knows you have it.
Being able to say; "I know something that you don't know" means they're in (the loop) and oftentimes instead of them being seen as someone who can't keep a secret they're seen as the "go to person" if you want to find out what is "really going on". Everyone values info.
Some secrets are so BIG that people simply cannot contain themselves! They can't believe what they just saw or heard and have to tell "at least one other person" so they can experience the same shock. Before you know it that friend tells another friend and eventually it's out in the open.
by rikabothra 14 months ago
Hi everyone,Here's a thought...We have been taught to speak the truth, but it is right to do so in the cost of hurting/harming someone? Especially if that someone is a person we care for? It is one of the biggest dilemmas, what do you think?
by hawaiiangirl 2 years ago
Is having a secret relationship a good thing or a bad thing?As for me I am having a secret relationship and it is very hard to come by to see each other
by jaydawg808 2 years ago
Is it better to lie than to hurt someone's feelings for being honest?
by Sed-me 4 years ago
What do you do when you feel like you just can't keep going?
by Erin LeFey 6 years ago
I'm doing a research paper on the benefits and hazards of revealing secrets - I have a social theory I'd like to test, would you all mind telling me how you react to this question and why?Thanks so much!Erin
by deanjc1970 7 years ago
I dont think so!!I really couldnt do what my wife and mother of 5 does!We need to thanks our mums and wives, or better halves regularlywhat do you think?
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