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How should you react when you meet a "friend" who unfriended and/or blocked you

  1. Astralrose profile image93
    Astralroseposted 2 years ago

    How should you react when you meet a "friend" who unfriended and/or blocked you on Facebook?

    These "friends" are people who you have met and talked personally, even spent quite a good time with you in the past. But lately, they didn't like your posts because they reality and rather than being open-minded, they'd chosen to "not see" everything about you instead.

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    The J Phronesisposted 2 years ago

    Wow! What an awkward scenario that would be. However, I think I might  not mention it if I did not have enough time to listen to their explanation.  If I did,  l'd just  ask them point blank, but in a non-angry, civil way why they unfriended me. Whatever their reasons, I would not push my opinions on them, because everyone should be free to 'friend' or 'follow' another person without feeling pressured to do so. I also think bottled up displeasure or anger is harmful to your mind and the relationship.

    1. Astralrose profile image93
      Astralroseposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      Awkward, yes! That's why I am preparing myself for that day. And you are right, we have the choice. I don't feel that way towards them, though. I even feel they are the ones who are upset because I am no longer the kind of person they "used to know".

    2. Astralrose profile image93
      Astralroseposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      Awkward, indeed! I don't feel that way towards them, though. I even feel that they are the ones who are upset because I am no longer the person they "used to know" if they ever really knew me.

  3. m abdullah javed profile image79
    m abdullah javedposted 2 years ago

    Hi Astralrose, believe in one thing, our attitude shouldn't be dependent, we are good because others are good to us, no... We should always be good because we are good. In any kind of friendship our attitude defines it's magnitude and stature. In your case, they might be wrong, but never allow their wrongs to make your right intention wrong. Move ahead, have a critical and objective look at their attitudes. If there is a need to rectify their weaknesses go ahead and do it with selfless care..... Your approach would definitely change their attitude. There may be some fault of ours, that need to looked realistically and rectify in what soever manner possible.

    1. Astralrose profile image93
      Astralroseposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      True! I still believe great friendship is founded in similar values in life. I cannot possibly be a great friend to someone who tortures animals.

    2. m abdullah javed profile image79
      m abdullah javedposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      That's true. But it all depends on the way one looks and conclude, as you know even plants and germs have life

    3. Astralrose profile image93
      Astralroseposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      They have life, yes. But you are not serious when you say eating carrots and rice is torture, right?

    4. m abdullah javed profile image79
      m abdullah javedposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      Astralrose, A popular way of eating habits have to be looked upon as a Divine Arrangement as it suggest that the world and it's resources are for humans, what a great honor for human indeed. However one should refrain from unnecessary usage.

    5. Astralrose profile image93
      Astralroseposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      Well, I have to disagree with you in that case (the world and its resources are for humans) because obviously, it isn't. The world and its resources are for all life. Just look at the impact if humans disregard the importance of other living beings.

    6. m abdullah javed profile image79
      m abdullah javedposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      Exactly it's the responsibility of humans to ensure a balanced distribution of resources for all the lives.Thus humans are superior & all lives are at their service.They have to utilise properly, it can't be torture same as sitting on chair is no

    7. Astralrose profile image93
      Astralroseposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      I have to disagree, again. Humans have to utilize natural resources properly or choose to perish. Other living beings will still do well without humans. And humans are not superior (it's an old notion) at all. Other beings are not for their benefits.

    8. m abdullah javed profile image79
      m abdullah javedposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      Humans are superior, no other life is objecting to it. Humans have senses, decision and contemplating powers, conquering the depth of ocean and vastness of heavens.... Enjoy your status, the resources are at your disposal, just think.

    9. Astralrose profile image93
      Astralroseposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      Okay, Muhammad. I got you! Thanks for speaking your mind.

    10. m abdullah javed profile image79
      m abdullah javedposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      You are most welcome Astralrose. Take care.

  4. stampinwithfab profile image88
    stampinwithfabposted 2 years ago

    I don't react I just carry on as usual because they probably weren't good friends to start with, especially if they can't respect your beliefs and political stance. I've had, however, a bad experience from a friend visiting at my place who basically patronised me and was quite aggressive with his own opinions, I didn't make a scene but knew from that night on that our friendship had run its course. I haven't unfriended but moved this person into 'restricted' territory on Facebook so that they can only see my public posts. So it goes to show that something can go pear shape even 'off' social media for the strangest of reasons. You'll make new friends, don' worry ! wink

    1. Astralrose profile image93
      Astralroseposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      I also realized that now because if they were, we would still be interested in knowing each other's changes and even get excited about them. Friends come and go, but the ones who share the same values and principles in life with you will stick around

  5. LoisRyan13903 profile image80
    LoisRyan13903posted 2 years ago

    One of my co-workers unfriended me.  I never really approached her about this and do not really care. I think it was her girlfriend who made her to hit the unfriend button, maybe because she might feel threatened even though I had no interest in this type of relationship.  She and I work in different departments and different shifts.

    1. Astralrose profile image93
      Astralroseposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      Oh, but it's a good thing you are in a different department and work schedule, otherwise it would have been quite uncomfortable. But then you would wish you were never friends in the first place.

    2. LoisRyan13903 profile image80
      LoisRyan13903posted 2 years agoin reply to this

      When I see her I am fine.  We're not really friends, just get along good and sometimes I can say something that makes her laugh.

  6. Jackie Lynnley profile image90
    Jackie Lynnleyposted 2 years ago

    I had a really close online friend who suddenly disagreed with my opinions in a very mean way. I really hated it and we are back to speaking but that close friendship may never be again. We just have to be who we are and we can't be who our friends think we should be. I would just ignore it and possibly you will mend your friendship but if not at least you know where you stand and I think that is better than not knowing.

    1. Astralrose profile image93
      Astralroseposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      That still feels awkward. It would be like a line got broke, got connected, but still no longer the straight, strong line as before. I agree with you, we have to be who we are, if friends don't like it, time to let go!

    2. Astralrose profile image93
      Astralroseposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      Right! We can't please everyone, even our supposed to be  the closest people in our lives.

  7. lisavollrath profile image95
    lisavollrathposted 2 years ago

    Perhaps your friends unfriended you on Facebook in order to preserve your relationship. I've unfriended people I know offline (including one of my cousins), because I knew if I kept reading their FB posts, and they kept reading mine, we couldn't avoid getting into a heated political discussion. We don't talk politics when we hang out, because we know we can't agree. That doesn't mean I don't want to be friends with them. It just means that part of our lives is best kept separate from our friendship.

    It's only Facebook. It's not life.

    1. Astralrose profile image93
      Astralroseposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      I really have no idea, only assumptions so I'll see my reaction when I see them personally. But then, it felt like they closed the door on me, on who I really am...who I become!

    2. Astralrose profile image93
      Astralroseposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      Maybe. I don't really have any idea, just assumptions. But I am sure I would want to avoid meeting them if I can.

  8. RTalloni profile image89
    RTalloniposted 2 years ago

    Treat them well.  In hindsight, you may be sorry about many things you do, but you will never be sorry you were kind.  That does not mean you should be unwise, though, so be careful around them.

    1. Astralrose profile image93
      Astralroseposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      I believe that's the best reaction I should do when I meet them.

 
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