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If You Had A Chance To Do Your Life Over What Would You Do Differently?

  1. PhoenixV profile image67
    PhoenixVposted 23 months ago

    If You Had A Chance To Do Your Life Over What Would You Do Differently?

  2. Billie Kelpin profile image88
    Billie Kelpinposted 23 months ago

    Do you have an hour?  I would need at least that much time to explain all the things I would have done in my first marriage to have prevented my husband from leaving our little family.  The damage caused, the sadness and emotional trauma for my daughter, my own heart-break, the hours of sleepless nights, the struggle to regain my self-worth, the lost potential, the excruciating "soul pain," the humiliation, the sense of failure,  and on and on - are incalculable.  Did I find peace and joy eventually? - Yes, as much as possible.  Am I survivor? Yes. Have I gained strength from surviving? Of course.  Am I grateful for everyday of my life?  Certainly.  But if I had a chance would I have done that part of my life over again? Most Definitely!  Would I have been less self-absorbed in my marriage?  YES!  Would I have tried to understand my husband's emotional needs better?  YES!  Would I have whined less and found more joy in everything we did together?  YES! Would I have realized what I had and let my husband know often that I realized it.  YES!
    I answer this question not for sympathy - only to hope it is a message to those in good marriages (the kind without abuse, but with basic respect for each other - the good kind of marriages that life just gets in the way of) - for those in those type of marriages I would hope the message is to work harder, to not take one moment for granted - to look at life more positively and more hopefully, to openly cherish your partner even in times when you don't feel cherish, to laugh at little things and realize it's all "little things", to joke with each other, to never speak negatively of your spouse to another,  and to just metaphorically hold each other's hands as your walk through every phase realizing that you most likely are very blessed.

  3. Chris Tyler profile image88
    Chris Tylerposted 23 months ago

    Absolutely nothing. If Hollywood has taught us anything, it's that changing the past never ends well. I don't want to go back and find out that, because I had pancakes for breakfast one morning instead of cereal, I never met my wife. No thanks. My life may not be perfect (no one's is) but it could be a lot worse.

  4. Ericdierker profile image53
    Ericdierkerposted 23 months ago

    This type of question always leaves me grateful. I have made horrendous errors in my life. I have not done things the way I "should" have. Sometimes I relive them. I look back and see, if this then that.
    And the problem I always have is that if I would change these things then I would not have my four children and wonderful wife. Mistakes got me into the positions where lasting beauty and love were found.
    Sometimes I wish I just did not get stage four lymphoma. But then I would not have left one job for another and eventually meet my wife.
    So my direct answer to your question is; not a darn thing.

  5. ptosis profile image74
    ptosisposted 23 months ago


    would do B.O.C.E.S  on my last year of high school. I finished HS in three year by doubling up on 11 & 12th grades(my mom convinced me it was only for dummies)

    Would go directly to college and NOT take commercial art first and then Electrical technology but straight to Electrical Technology.

    Continue ET for a BS

    Taking Cisco schooling (costs more) that stupid Microsoft certification.

    Never moved to Nevada! 
    That just the top ones I can think of.

    Oh yeah! get married 2x  - that's was dumb

    1. Billie Kelpin profile image88
      Billie Kelpinposted 23 months agoin reply to this

      love the cartoon, but I would bet it's not true in your case.  Electrical Engineering, from what I understand, involves more creativity than many careers, so the art probably served you well.  Your super power is probably your intelligence.