Do you believe in second chances?

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  1. tHErEDpILL profile image84
    tHErEDpILLposted 12 years ago

    Do you believe in second chances?

    Girlfriends, boyfriends, husbands, wife, criminals, life, etc.  You choose the way you want to answer.

  2. jtyler profile image60
    jtylerposted 12 years ago

    It depends on the situation.  Is the person really sorry for what he did?  Has the person learned his lesson?  Was it an accident in the first place?

  3. ii3rittles profile image80
    ii3rittlesposted 12 years ago

    Based on my beliefs, everyone should be given a second chance, no matter what they did. God gave us all a second chance, even though we clearly don't diverse it. I find that the easiest way to solve any problem is to take it to the bible. Even if you don't believe in God, the words written in the bible have stood the test of time on subjects of love and life.

  4. lovelife08 profile image60
    lovelife08posted 12 years ago

    Yes, I believe in second chances.  But I do not believe in third, fourth, and fifth chances, and so on.  Sometimes "I'm sorry" isn't enough.  You have to prove you have made an effort to better yourself.  Then again, God is always giving us chances over and over.  Maybe we should take our example from Him.

  5. HOOWANTSTONO profile image61
    HOOWANTSTONOposted 12 years ago

    Every day of your life is a last chance, and the second chance and the third chance, until you dead, there that was your chance all used up.

  6. kwade tweeling profile image80
    kwade tweelingposted 12 years ago

    That depends on the circumstance.

    Mostly, if you feel like you can handle the consequences if the person lets you down, I say go for it. But it is up to the other person to change. Know that the best you can do is give them hope, and a chance.

  7. DRG Da Real Grinc profile image64
    DRG Da Real Grincposted 12 years ago

    Sure but not a third. It would have to depend on the situation. If it's about cheating then NO. Once a cheater, always...etc. The saying proves itself too many times. With criminals It depends to for me. If it's a thief or bank robber or any non violent crimes, yes. If it's a sex offender or someone who has murdered, probably not. A thief or burglar might just be in a situation as to where he has to feed his family but then he could be stealing to buy crack. Like I said, " It depends on the situation. "

  8. rob_allen profile image70
    rob_allenposted 12 years ago

    For me, everybody deserves a second chance. However, some people take so long before they are bale to take that second chance. I believe in second chances but it depends on the situation. smile

  9. Special Kay profile image60
    Special Kayposted 12 years ago

    I believe in second chances for everyone, no matter the circumstance. It's what you do with your second chance that matters. If you take that second chance and you don't learn from your first mistake then confirms the person is not worthy of any future forgiveness and reconciliation. And you as the person given the second chance has the piece of mind that there will be no question of "what if..........".  Live life with no regrets.

  10. edhan profile image37
    edhanposted 12 years ago

    Yes, I do believe in second chance.

    When I was young, I had an accident that supposed to take my life. My friend had witnessed the entire incident and was frightened of what he had saw.

    I was crossing the road in front of the bus that I had alighted but suddenly my friend called out to me. I stopped and turned back and the next minute, a car had hit me. He told me that I was thrown up in the air about 10 feet while the car had moved forward before I dropped onto the road.

    At that instant, my friend thought I was dead. There were many onlookers crowded around me while my friend rushed to see me. In about 3 minutes, I stood up and checked myself for injuries. I found myself having a few bruises and cuts. My friend called the ambulance and took us to the hospital for X-ray and the doctor did a checkup. I was told that I was lucky that there were no broken bones except for the few cuts and bruises.

    It was indeed a day that I was given a second chance and from that day, I live my life to the fullest and enjoy every minute I have with love ones.

  11. profile image0
    Motown2Chitownposted 12 years ago

    I certainly believe in second chances...and even more after that.  I try with everything I am to be as forgiving as possible under all circumstances, and I hope that others will do the same for me when I do something that needs to be forgiven. 

    I think it's also physically and emotionally healthier to forgive and let go than to harbor grudges, bitterness, and resentment.  I know that when I've been able to let go of those things from my past that result from not having forgiven another who's wronged me, I've felt a peace and serenity that I didn't realize was possible. 

    Lovely question.

  12. jagandelight profile image68
    jagandelightposted 12 years ago

    Yes I believe in second chances. I think people ought to be able to get to redeem themselves, after all God gave us a second chance when he gave his son for a ransom for our sins that we may have the opportunity to have everlasting life with him. The blood of Jesus redeemed me, praise God.

  13. chasemillis profile image74
    chasemillisposted 12 years ago

    It definitely depends. If you do a petty crime then yes, but if you commit a terrible crime like murder then no. If you take away someone else's rights, you forfeit your own

  14. zzron profile image59
    zzronposted 12 years ago

    Yes I do believe in several chances. It depends on what you are talking about. Murder, rape, child molestation and other hideous crimes, NO. Love, peace, relationships, forgiveness, normal human mistakes, YES.

  15. rwelton profile image60
    rweltonposted 12 years ago

    My shared answer is absolutely Yes!

    At 46 - I had it all, married 15 years, three boys, big house and a growing business.  Over-bet the farm and a couple of fatal business reversibles, back-to-back, and six months later and I was an unemployed, divorced, bankrupt, single Dad with 3 small boys living in a two bdrm 4-plex, sweeping up to cut the rent.

    At almost 50,  I thought I had poorly used my only turn and was resigned to the bad hand I had drawn.

    Turns out that my second chance lived upstairs (this was 4-plex!!!), graduated from the same college, never met anyone before that she felt could be a great Dad.

    We just celebrated our 16th anniversary with a 12 year old girl to add to the fuller family unit. 

    Much better off than ever before...sometimes you have to wade the swamp to get to the rainbow where the second chances live.


  16. nightwork4 profile image59
    nightwork4posted 12 years ago

    it would depend on what it is. i wouldn't give a rapist a second chance but i would give a thief one. i wouldn't give a crooked cop a second chance but i would give a bad doctor one.

  17. michelemacwrites profile image58
    michelemacwritesposted 12 years ago

    I definitely believe in second chances because as imperfect human beings, we all mess up at some point.  Most people learn from their mistakes and therefore deserve that golden second chance.  They can then prove to themselves and others that they have grown from the lesson learnt. I have personally had second chances and yes, I made good on those !!

  18. Wesman Todd Shaw profile image83
    Wesman Todd Shawposted 12 years ago

    Yes I do - but I think the rape of a child and by child rape I DO NOT MEAN some 21 year old man that sleeps with a 17 year old girl, that's not rape, that's life.

    The rape of a child. . . .NO SECOND CHANCES.

  19. Jackie Lynnley profile image82
    Jackie Lynnleyposted 12 years ago

    Yes I do and maybe even a third or fourth when it is a harm someone does to ones self but for anyone who rapes and or kills a child there should not be a second chance, OK so maybe don't kill him for the first offense, instead, give him (or her) life of seeing the damage he has done but still have castration the price for rape of children...always! For ones like boyfriends, girlfriends, husbands, wives, it would depend much on the offense and how often it happens.

  20. KateWest profile image63
    KateWestposted 12 years ago

    I believe in second changes at love. Because people change and you will love many kinds of people, so if one doesn't work out, it doesn't mean another won't.

  21. platinumOwl4 profile image73
    platinumOwl4posted 12 years ago

    Yes, I believe you should get a second chance or how many chances that are necessary for you to get it right. We don't always get it right the first time but we come close. So, why not get another chance to complete the picture the following time.

  22. profile image0
    rorshak sobchakposted 12 years ago

    I believe that in life if we get a second chance it is a blessing. We should take the blessing and use it very carefully.

    rorshak sobchak

  23. russianandeuro profile image59
    russianandeuroposted 12 years ago

    Yes I do!! Although for me, just 2nd chances and nothing after that.  But murder doesn't deserve 2nd chances.

  24. profile image53
    CapitolLightsposted 12 years ago

    Yes, I absoulutely do.

    We are all fallen people.  We all screw up, and make mistakes, and do things we regret, but the promise of a second chance is a hope that many people cling on to. 

    Sometimes, all it takes is a little love, grace and mercy to radically change someones life.

    Take that school bully.  He bullies you because he himself does not fit in, and has been bullied before.  Instead of ratting on him, and getting the authorities involved, or making fun of him or even avoiding him and making his life worse, why not you show him some love?  Talk to him, get to know him, and treat him like he deserves a second chance (because dont we all?) 

    If you want to watch a beautful movie about love, mercy, grace and forgiveness, watch The Chorus

  25. commonevolution profile image60
    commonevolutionposted 12 years ago

    Depends on what the Second chance consists of and what they did to earn a spot in my "Headlights."

  26. jamesroy11143 profile image60
    jamesroy11143posted 12 years ago

    Yes, I do believe in second chances. Why ? Because there are many men/women who are incarcerated, that would not have done the crime had they been sober or not high on drugs. They sit behind bars and grieve so often for what they have done. Not only does it effect them, but they realize had they been in a normal frame of mind, this would not have taken them away from the children/family. If they could guarantee completely staying sober and never take a drink again, they would deserve a second chance. The Laws are strict, that is why we need to remember when ya do the crime, ya do the time.
    If your insinuating about adultery, then that is a big question mark. Usually the person committing the adultery will do it again. I would NOT give my spouse a second chance.

  27. ameliejan profile image77
    ameliejanposted 12 years ago

    I liked rwelton's story.

    I believe in second chances if the person deserves them. In a lot of cases, they don't. If they are genuinely remorseful, then maybe they deserve a second chance.

  28. The Ghostwriter profile image72
    The Ghostwriterposted 12 years ago

    We all have many chances but often don't know that we are spending them

  29. Stella Faleskes profile image60
    Stella Faleskesposted 12 years ago

    Every1 must have a 2nd chance, but not 3rd!

  30. Tracie Morris profile image59
    Tracie Morrisposted 12 years ago

    I believe we all have the right to a second chance to prove ourselves in whatever we want to do. As far as relationships (friendships, marriage, etc.) I think it is up to the person who is being asked to give a second chance. I heard someone say people don't change, I don't agree. I know I have changed through the years , so why wouldn't someone else change?

  31. myinjuryattorney profile image57
    myinjuryattorneyposted 12 years ago

    base on the situation. but most of the time, i don't believe in second chances. It is still mend to be broken.

  32. cubesz profile image59
    cubeszposted 12 years ago

    Depends on how serious it is, if someone commits murder I don't think they should be forgive, unless they can bring that person back to life.
    But if it's something regarding family, friends, or co-workers then yea probably

  33. tsmog profile image84
    tsmogposted 12 years ago

    Its' kinda like saying can I play a mulligan in golf. Yeah, but not really. If we equate a second chance to a 'new' opportunity at a big picture, say 'life,' then OK, yes. Maybe I am to introspective, but time flows, it is dynamic. Chances are static they have a finality. Another maybe. Second I have doubts unless a second chance is subsequent and not a do-over. Oh, I don't know what I am saying. Can I have a second chance?

  34. sanura2011 profile image53
    sanura2011posted 12 years ago

    Depends on why they screwed their first chance up. Cheating? No. Putting their foot so deep in their mouth you cant shake away the tears? Yes, it just takes time.

  35. whiplashinfo profile image59
    whiplashinfoposted 12 years ago

    Yes, everybody deserves a second chance.

  36. Dave Mathews profile image62
    Dave Mathewsposted 12 years ago

    Why not!? where is it written if you mess up that's it?

  37. nabeelplus profile image61
    nabeelplusposted 12 years ago

    yes i do agree with second chance....if you keep on trying for somthing you will get second chance.

  38. Cloverleaf profile image95
    Cloverleafposted 12 years ago

    Second chances seem to come around when we least expect them, such as the time I met my husband, when I was not really looking for another relationship but everything "just felt right". 

    By recognizing & grasping at any opportunity and then making it a success, we allow ourselves to have the second chances we deserve.

  39. Apostle Jack profile image62
    Apostle Jackposted 12 years ago

    Sure,everyone needs one of those.What goes around will surely come around.

  40. Allen Williams profile image70
    Allen Williamsposted 12 years ago

    If someone did something intentionally, then no, I don't give second chances.  Something accidental that clearly the person did not want to happen, yes, I would not hesitate to give a second chance.

    I don't fall for bullshit either so if a lover cheated and said it just happened, that is bullshit.  You make a conscious decision to spread your legs.  There is no second chance one you betray me.  Once a cheater, always a cheater, no exceptions.

    Some people think I might be hard but I look at things a little differently.  I think people in general like to push other people's buttons to see how far they can go.  When they get caught then the apologies start coming.  That is to see if you will bend.  They are not sincere or they wouldn't have blown the first chance.

  41. knowledgeispowerr profile image60
    knowledgeispowerrposted 12 years ago

    yes i believe because everyone should believe in second chance. If you apply for such thing and not selected, so it is a stepping stone for you then to work a bit more and to reach the destination next time...

  42. stemcellenhancer profile image60
    stemcellenhancerposted 12 years ago

    We should give others the latitude to grow and expect them to be able to change their behavior.

    Instead we see people labelled for life for some of the actions they have done - which can be quite unfair.

    So yes, I believe we should give others a second chance.

    But if people don't change then their goes their chance with me !!

  43. JenJen0703 profile image82
    JenJen0703posted 12 years ago

    I do believe in second chances.  I believe that God decides our destiny, that He knows what will happen in our lives before we do.  Personally, I think the rape and molestation of children should not deserve forgiveness, but that is my human side talking.

  44. smcopywrite profile image59
    smcopywriteposted 12 years ago

    always. remember you can forgive, but never forget. second chances are possible. however, you cannot get the past back.

  45. profile image0
    sealord00231posted 12 years ago

    yes i do to all of d above because one can still change if the chance is given

  46. DexisView profile image76
    DexisViewposted 12 years ago

    Thank God for second chances.  Without second chances we would all be I can't think of a single human being that is perfect....not one.

  47. LaniK profile image59
    LaniKposted 12 years ago

    YES!!!  With an exception - One absolutely, without apology, needs to prove themself worthy of the second chance.

  48. style-of-life profile image61
    style-of-lifeposted 12 years ago

    yes! and third and fourth chances as well. If you really want something, you should always get another chance!

  49. plinka profile image55
    plinkaposted 12 years ago

    Yes, definitely. You always have a second, third... chance. Everybody has his ups and downs. You always have to stand up, cannot give up you just cannot do so.

  50. savingfaceserum profile image61
    savingfaceserumposted 12 years ago

    Of course . There is second chance. There is no end of thoughts.


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