Parents buying alcohol for their Underage Children .

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   fonnyposted 14 years ago

   I think we've all seen it . Parents who willingly buy alcohol and cigarettes for their kids.
   Its irresponsible and i think quite stupid.
   The excuse being "I'd rather they do it here then anywhere else"
   I mean, if thats the case why not just let them go out. Its doing the same amount of damage no matter where their drinking.
   Be it with you or their friends. The only difference is, your watching and allowing them to harm their bodies.
   
   I cant understand why a parent would choose to do that.
   
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      jennshealthstoreposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      I understand where you are coming from. Of course you should not do these things for your child. But I think that some parents have lost total control, or feel like they have so they rather their child be in the house where they cannot get into an accident or drive drunk or do something really stupid.
      
      Growing up, I knew of some parents that would allow my friends to do these things in their home. I though it quite weird. My parents would NEVER have that. But I also know that if their parents did not allow them to do this, they would just be outside somewhere getting into a lot more trouble.

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      Cagsilposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      I think you OP has a bunch of holes in it and you might be better writing a hub about the topic. Bringing it out in the open in the forum could bring more than you realize, because of the different views many people have.
      
      However, Welcome to HubPages and I do hope you enjoy your time here.
      
      The only reason I didn't directly answer your question about kids, is because I am not a parent.

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         Rafiniposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         but you can still have an opinion.  I'm not a politician but I still have an opinion about politics....

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            Cagsilposted 14 years agoin reply to this

            Actually, over the course of my entire life, I have been told by those who have children that since I do not have children, then I could not possibly understand.

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               Rafiniposted 14 years agoin reply to this

               huh, yeah, I've heard that argument.  Sometimes their right, sometimes their not.

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                  Cagsilposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                  That's the problem, "when" is that sometime right or wrong?

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                     Rafiniposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                     You'll find out after you give your opinion.

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                        Cagsilposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                        Exactly, so why bother.

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                           Rafiniposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                           there have been times when I've heard something worthwhile come out of the mouth of a non-parent.   As long as it wasn't about my parenting....but something about issues I could deal with.
                           
                           (besides, how do I know what they learned through life experience unless I give them time to express themselves?)

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         fonnyposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         Lol oh ok thanks Im still not entirely sure what exactly to do Lol
         But im learning.
         
         

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   fonnyposted 14 years ago

   Yes i suppose your right, my parent (i never knew my dad) would never let me drink ! I was quite angry at the time but now im proud to be me and so very happy my mum didnt let me out with my friends when they were drinking. Two of my friends recently passed away in a car accident. The driver of their car was drunk, and underage, it shouldnt have happened but their parents brought their beers, and gave them their car ?
   
   Maybe it is better letting them drink at home, but i think standing up to your kids and not letting them run wild helps, im currently expecting and woulkd NEVER EVER do anything that would harm my baby.

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      Rafiniposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      then again, of course, you have to look at different cultures where drinking ages aren't the same as in the US.

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         fonnyposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         Yes of course, well our legal drinking age is in the proccess of going up, its currently 18, but may be going up to 21. Which i think will not stop young people from drinking, but maybe it will have a good outcome. Just have to wait and see i guess.
         
         Im from New Zealand by the way.

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            Rafiniposted 14 years agoin reply to this

            or where drinking ages aren't the same as in New Zealand.   
            
            
            (I was thinking of US vs Germany lol)

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               fonnyposted 14 years agoin reply to this

               Hmm lol apparently a big deal huh . Dont catch much ov cbc or watevs . Lol

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                  Rafiniposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                  apparently in Germany beer is sold everywhere, even at McDonalds, and the legal drinking age is quite lower than US and is lower than the legal age for a drivers license.  Just seems strange and backwards....but it's just a different culture.

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      psycheskinnerposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      I drank wine over dinner with my family from an early age.  I don;t think it did me any harm.

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   lxxyposted 14 years ago

   Personally, I have been consuming alcohol (very very very small amounts, mind you, until I was eighteen) in the presence of a parent since I was twelve.
   
   I think it allowed me to feel safe in my home and when I grew older my parents were just fine with my drinking, as long as I did it at our house.

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   Rafiniposted 14 years ago

   I think some parents who buy these things for their underage children do it under the guise of 'allowing' freedom when in fact it's another measure of control.

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      lxxyposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Freedom:Control. You're right, they're two opposing ideas. Cultures treat drinking responsibly.
      
      And to me, the best culture is the one that teaches young adults how to behave and drink responsibly.
      
      -there's less red asphalt.

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         Rafiniposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         I'm not sure if you're agreeing with me or being...sarcastic? 
         
         I'm referring to a family I know who are control freaks yet allow their teenagers to smoke, drink, do drugs, have sex (with boyfriends/girlfriends sleeping over or moving in) and all kinds of things along these lines....

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            lxxyposted 14 years agoin reply to this

            Sorry. I'm agreeing with you, but also believe a family who teaches responsible drinking is a good thing. That's how I was raised, anyway.
            
            However, those people who you speak of are not the ones I would like to associate with. I don't judge...well, okay, I do. I'm always willing to help anyone in need, but keep a distance when warranted.
            
            No drama for me, I'd rather write it.

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               Rafiniposted 14 years agoin reply to this

               yeah, I try to keep my distance but it doesn't work too well....One poor decision really can affect the rest of your life...

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                  lxxyposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                  Depends..if you're in jail, yes. If not--it's never too late to start anew. ;D

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                     Rafiniposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                     that's my point.  I feel like I'm in jail...I'm trapped even though I try to start anew each and every day - all because of One poor decision made many years ago...lol

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   lawrencejposted 14 years ago

   allowing your child to drink is a measure of control for sure, the delema to buy your kid alcohol when they ask is actualy a hard one, because you are stuck thinking if i don't they will get it somewhere else or would i rather keep them in a controled environment while letting them have some. I find tht today a lot of parents are either to overwhelmed with stress or other matters that they are just being lazy and avouding a conflict with there child. IT is so much easyer to just give in and harder to raise your child properly. I find keeping it in my environment of my control and limiting how much seems to work the best. I've had the best result with that anyway. but buying another minor alchol is wrong.

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      Rafiniposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      I can see your point.  I believe if your communication with your child is good you will be able to trust them not to drink when they're out and about with friends and you wouldn't have to buy them alcohol either.  But, I understand not all parents are the same and neither are the teens.

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   Jane@CMposted 14 years ago

   Responsibility is what its all about IMO.  When I was a teen, I was allowed 1/4 glass of wine at Thanksgiving & Christmas. I really don't even like wine.
   
   We don't usually have alcohol in our house so its not an issue of my kids getting into the liquor cabinet.  I would never purchase liquor for them, it goes against my thinking.  BUT, if they were to say travel to another country where young adults do drink at meals, I would not say that they cannot do it.  Know what I mean??
   
   My daughter doesn't drink and doesn't like the taste of liquor.  My son has tasted it via his older cousins and not liked it either.  So I'm safe for now

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