Strength. When you hold ono it the only person you really hurt is yourself anyway. That's dumb and pointless, and not very fair considering you yourself need grace -forgiveness from others for not being perfect, so you may as well forgive and move on. It's the only sensible thing to do.
Doesn't mean we have to forget, however.
Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me!
I forgive - though how quickly depends on what it is I feel needs forgiving. And I don't button up the back so I'd say it's a strength, not a flaw.
A lack of forgiveness would (I imagine) lead to a sense of something undone, unresolved, something to hold a grudge over. Unhealthy and unrealistic - our past is only alive in our memory.
from my own life's experience I will say that forgiveness is the way. living with the burden of unresolved issues, is first of all not good for the health. no matter how tough it is somehow one has to let go
Forgivness is key. However there are two types of forgivness. The first is what most think of. It's a restorative type of forgivness. This is where the offender has asked for forgivness. The offender proves they have changed though overt displays of repentance. The offender provides tangible proof of contrition.
The second type of forgivness is a non restorative forgiveness. It is for the sake of healing on the part of the victim, not the offender. Think "Father forgive them for they know not what they do"
by underhiswings 8 years ago
Reasons for or against?How many times do you forgive for the same thing?How many times have you been forgiven for the same thing?What kind of proof do you need in order to believe the offender really seeks forgiveness? What kind of forgiveness do you offer?Do you go to the offender or wait until...
by steve-bc-ca 3 years ago
I met my share of rapist and child sex offenders in jail. Even though many of them committed these crimes before I was born and they now seem very remorseful, it is almost impossible to look at them any other way. I have a hard time believing that someone who can commit violent sex crimes can truly...
by JP Carlos 5 years ago
Where do you draw strength to forgive someone who did something wrong to you?
by Debra Allen 20 months ago
The Bible says that all one has to do is ask for forgiveness. Now being that, do you think that Satan might have already asked God for forgiveness? Now before you rattle off scripture.....I don't believe...but I could be wrong....that the Bible has nothing to say on that.
by R9139 2 years ago
Could you forgive a friend if they stole from you?
by Nikki Khan 9 months ago
Sometimes you want to take revenge but you just ignore it or sometimes you just go for revenge.Which is the best option?
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