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Online Dating: The Warning Signs For Women

Updated on January 28, 2014

The Haunting Emotions Left

The darkness of betrayal...
The darkness of betrayal...

Steps For Safety If You Are Dating Online:

Five Warning signs for a suspicious online relationship.

1. Beware of con artists and players who appear overly zealous in the beginning.

They may act cute & charming one minute, domineering the next. It will leave you bewildered.

They play on your needs and desires by fulfilling you in every way; sexually, emotionally.

.2They want to get close to you fast so they can feed their excitement to the fullest.

3. They always seem to want more: first a sexy picture, then phone/cyber sex, then full nudity or acting out on a web cam.

4. They may berate you for hesitating making you feel guilty for not wanting to "trust" them.

Watch for the empty holes & lies. Don't ignore anything that doesn't sound "quite right". Follow your gut instinct.

Their charm is almost overpowering! Once you fall for them, it's easy to be manipulated.

5. Once they are through with you, they may make themselves suddenly unavailable, not answering emails or phone messages. This will leave you feeling heartbroken, as well as completely betrayed & tossed aside.

Please don't fall victim to an internet predator. Listen to the warning signs, go with your gut feeling!

The Aftermath of a Woman Manipulated & Used

These are words written by a woman who was scammed by an internet predator who stripped her of her dignity. I'm seeing more & more women who have been victimized in one way or another by men looking for a cheap thrill. Please take a moment & ponder the sadness felt by yet another victim. Also, please go to the suggested readings at the end of this article for more help.

I feel very sad tonight. My new hopes dashed.

You’re not in the picture.

Now I’m really alone here.

But does it really matter?

I still wonder if you’ll call,

But know in my heart you won’t.

I just don’t understand

Where the substance went.

That emptiness pulling at me

From inside is almost more than

I can bare!

On one hand I think,

What happened? Where are you?

But I dare not try to reach you

For fear of what I will find

Then I think, you went away because you

Were bored and got everything you wanted.

That is the most logical explanation deep within a secret place.

I wish this emptiness would go away.

I feel totally stripped from inside, like you gutted me.

Damn, why’d you have to do it like this?

I was so stupid, I’m angry at myself.

So there’s the issue of trust.

Somebody works on you, implores you, flatters you, builds you up, makes you feel wonderful

Beats against your walls while you lower them bit by bit.

Then you finally give in, believe it, allow it, welcome it

Then trust. Then it's smeared like excrement in your face.



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    • AmandaJon profile image

      Amanda Jones 

      5 years ago

      Useful hub. There are a lot of scaring info about online dating, I agree there are a lot of weirdos and playesr out there, but agree that everything has 2 sides, I met my husband online 5 years ago.

      I think if people follow safety advice there is nothing dangerous in online dating.

    • RecoverToday profile imageAUTHOR


      5 years ago from United States

      Thank you for your input, Levertis. It's always better to be safe than sorry.

    • Levertis Steele profile image

      Levertis Steele 

      5 years ago from Southern Clime

      I hear happy and sad stories about online dating. It seems to be comparable to putting your hand into a tank of fish and snakes hoping to grab a fish. It is Russian Roulette! That's a big chance to take. Too risky.

      This is a very useful hub, and I hope it saves many. Thanks for sharing.

    • rdsparrowriter profile image


      6 years ago

      Great advice :)

    • RecoverToday profile imageAUTHOR


      6 years ago from United States

      one2: Appreciate your comment. Warning signs are meant to be used, not ignored. You have the right idea.

    • one2recognize2 profile image


      6 years ago from New York

      This is great for one who is just feeling out or contemplating on dating someone from the internet. There are many warning signs you've noted well, and another thing to look out for are the ones that try to scam you for cash due to a sudden emergency, but I also agree with creativeone59; because I've also met a few wonderful guys online who I now call true friends. Great job on this subject...

    • RecoverToday profile imageAUTHOR


      7 years ago from United States

      justme23: I am so sorry you have been hurt. Remember that the pain will alleviate and will not last forever. Do nice things for yourself and remember you are only human. Try very hard not to let guilt consume you. You will come through this.

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      7 years ago

      I have recently been conned by a internet predator and I am a very nroken person inside

      I find you give very good advice and how I wished I had found this site before i started this terrible heartbreaking internet relationship.

      Thank you so much

    • RecoverToday profile imageAUTHOR


      8 years ago from United States

      suny51, much thanks to you for reading.

      Lita Malicdem, I am glad you find my article useful. Feel free to pass it on.

    • Lita C. Malicdem profile image

      Lita C. Malicdem 

      8 years ago from Philippines

      This is a very revealing warning hub! Many will find this useful. It warns me to be more careful even if I know I'm not one who entertains would-be predators online. Thank you for sharing this story.

    • suny51 profile image


      8 years ago

      right from where it comes 'your heart',great.

      God bless you.

    • RecoverToday profile imageAUTHOR


      8 years ago from United States

      Thank you for commenting, creativeone!! Very good advice. I'll take it to heart & pass it along.

    • creativeone59 profile image

      benny Faye Douglass 

      8 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona

      Thank you for a great hub, I enjoyed reading it. Although, I met my husband of 8 years on the internet, there are predators out there, but there are a few real people out there too, we how to pray and look for them. if the person isn't a godly person that love and respect his sister and mothert, you might need to let him or her go. Thank you sharing. creativeone59


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