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Traits Of A Healthy Relationship

Updated on November 30, 2010

Ever see a couple that look like they fit so well together. She looks at him and smiles. Every once and a while he’ll grab her hand just because. They look at one another and laugh at their own private thoughts. They want to spend time together and look for opportunities to be together. They would rather be together than apart. 


Those are traits of a healthy relationship. However, know that it didn’t happen over night. This relationship took many years and lots of continual hard work. Hard work is defined by perseverance, personal risk taking and constantly stretching outside your comfort level. So that would imply regarding a healthy relationship you may have to go beyond the norm sometimes going along with something different from what you are used to.


Most people want to remain in their own comfort zone but relationships are built on sacrifices by both. A healthy relationship is both giving and taking. Never walking away or quitting, keep working hard even when you think you are at your ends wit. At that moment and not in anger talk to one another trying to understand without being bias by your own feelings. Put yourself in the other person shoes. If your mate is down, be there to support them. Sometimes we have to put our problems or issues to the side to help our partners. They will always appreciate that you thought of them first.


Be thoughtful and considerate, it’s not always about you. Remember each person knows how they feel about a situation respect that and don’t try and impose your personal feeling or make their feelings seem insignificant. Your mate is an individual person take their thoughts and feelings seriously.


Husbands you are the head of your family, don’t be a bully. Wives you are the co-pilot, don’t nag over every little thing. Husbands its ok to let your wife have her way and agree to her way of doing something. That’s showing you value and love her. Wives it doesn’t make you weak to ask your husband if he minds this or that it shows you do love him and respect him as the head of your family. Again it may be hard work, going outside of your comfort level. If both respect and truly honor one another it will pay off in the long run.


There’s lots of work you may not like, but, you would do it if it meant the survival of your family. Even more so, why not regardless of how hard or out of your comfort level it may take you, do it for the survival and healthy outcome of your relationship. In a healthy relationship the most important trait you should maintain is humility and compromising. Yes it may feel uncomfortable at times however this will pay off and people will look at your relationship see the love you two posses and wish to be just like you.


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    • Erin LeFey profile image

      Erin LeFey 7 years ago from Maryland

      Great hub and wonderful thoughts. I especially like your opening paragraph, it is a great way to spot a really good relationship! Namaste'

    • TINA V profile image

      TINA V 7 years ago

      I agree with you that a healthy relationship is not just an overnight thing. Indeed, it is a give and take process. Each has a role to play and responsibilities to do.

      Just continue to share your valuable insights about relationships.

    • acaetnna profile image

      acaetnna 7 years ago from Guildford

      So very well said. Great hub.