Look for a person who is very happy to be with you as you really are.
Make sure you like that person for who he or she really is.
Both of you should enjoy giving each other what each of you love to give to the other. Both of you are at home in receiving these from each other.
In this case no work is needed to have the relationship. Both of you will simply gravitate to each other effortlessly. There is nothing to lose and there are no false expectations