Which type of love relationship lasts the longest?

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   MellyMooposted 12 years ago

   Which type of love relationship lasts the longest?
   
   I have recently had to make a very tough decision and am wondering what your opinions are .... Do you think a relationship based on a long and strong friendship would be more successful?  or a relationship based on strong chemistry?

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   Jason R. Manningposted 12 years ago

   My money is on the couple that is both deaf, dumb and blind...its much harder to argue...just kidding folks.
   
   Chemistry is only as strong as the drive behind it, which we know wanes with time and our own changing bio-chemistry.  Strong mutal respect, equal goals and an understanding of assisting one another to be the best they can be, this would be ideal.  When any two mates start off in different directions, chemistry and friendship will not help.  You have to be on the same path.  just my 2 pennies.  Cheers.

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   ThunderKeysposted 12 years ago

   The love relationships that last the longest are ones in which both partners have become experts at:
   
   1) Hearing, expressing and meeting each others core-relationship needs reciprocally;
   2) Setting protective Boundaries i.e. affair, flirt-proofing the relationship; and
   3) Sustaining realistic expectations about the true nature of a long term relationship as per steps 1 and 2.
   
   - Duddy.

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   reeltaulkposted 12 years ago

   The honest one.....it never fails!  Chemistry is only built on what you give each other, what you want each other to see to keep the "relationship" going.  Anything involving true friendship brings longevity as is forever written in stone.....Hands Down!

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   KateWestposted 12 years ago

   It really depends on the two of you. I had a stronger friendship than chemistry thing and that failed. But you can't rely on chemistry alone. Somewhere is the perfect balance. Here's hoping!

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   akuiglaposted 12 years ago

   Nobody knows that.
   Marrying somebody is a lottery.

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   MellyMooposted 12 years ago

   Jason R. Manning .. Do we really 'know' that chemistry wanes with time? and what contributes to this waning?  I think you are exactly right in saying that you both have to be on the same path.
   
   reeltaulk .. I agree that the honest one is for sure
   
   KateWest ... Exactly ... it is a balance of both isn't it.
   
   Thunderkeys ... I like it!
   
   and akuigla ... I used to think that it was a lottery too but now I tend to disagree.  Thank you for your opinion.
   
   I think that we need to understand that love is not just a wonderful feeling.  It is so much more than that. I think it is important to look to the past to see how the person has responded in stressful times and how they have treated us in those times.  Do they respond to stress appropriately?  Do they admit when they have made a mistake?  Do they truly listen to you?  Are they completely honest with you?  Can you trust them 100% without having to think about it?  Do you want the same things in life at the same time?  Do you have similar morals and values?  How does the person respond in everyday situations?  How do they relate to your family and friends?  Do they have manners and use them?  Are they naturally kind?  Are they responsible?  Are they capable of giving you what you want in life?  Do you feel that you can talk about anything or are there things you must keep from them?  and they from you?

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   Sesshoumaru2stposted 12 years ago

   If you can put up with cheating,disagreements,betrayals,jealously,kids ad all the other problems that exists in relationships for ten years,then you're home made. Good luck,you will need it.

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   nabeelplusposted 12 years ago

   well i think strong friendship is required to make a relationship stronger & even if your chemistry does not match much, being in a long & strong friendship will change the things over.

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    puddingicecreamposted 12 years ago

    There need to be a balance of both. If your relationship is based mostly on friendship, you wouldn't be in a relationship with that person.

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