When it poses a physical threat to your life as it did with me.
I would die for someone I love, but not if they feel justified in killing me. Stepping into traffic is romantic, but fatal attraction is oh so incredibly passe'.
My departure had nothing to do with not loving her, in fact, I really wanted to work it out. Never the less, some of us need space and time to heal from earlier life incidences. I had to learn to accept that.
She is and was so beautiful!!! So very amazing in her capacity, but had things she needed to see, learn, experience etc. In the end, I was not enough. I forgive her, but enough was enough when and only when I felt threatened. She had some things that needed to be worked out. Me too, but not to that extent.
Now, if she came back, if I were single I would say to her -- fantastic!!!! Let's try again.
So, it may be a matter of instinct, intuition and common sense depending, but to this day, I still love her and would like very much to hear her say -- "I understand now." A fairy tale ending, but people come with parts, chapters and vices that we just don't discover up front. I am so proud of her to this day!!! We are not together for the aforementioned reasons... REASONS... but time and space could prove to be the fruit of design that brings us to a consensus, compromise and a convivial togetherness that beforehand, was not possible.
She is the only female Genius I have ever dated. I have known others however, and to be honest, I think that has something to do with our battling egos. Having said that, I think that she still loves me. Never the less, it would require shared apologies to determine whether the last chance was something either of us wants.
WIthout shared values, no relationship can stand, no matter how forgiving any of us are. We always have to work together with the understanding that our perspectives can align. Ours did to a point... to make matters worse -- she was a visual artist, and so was I. Nothing could be more volatile that differences of opinion over aesthetics. And my, how aesthetically pleasing she was, is and always will be.
Love -- the drug I would take over and over and over again if only I could afford it. Did I mention that it all took place abroad?
MMMMMMM... such a good substance!!!