How to tell some one politely not to text you so much?

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   stricktlydatingposted 11 years ago

   How to tell some one politely not to text you so much?
   
   When someone you know is sms'ing you like 6 times every day.  How would you tell them to cool down with them without seeming rude?

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   Dawit Tposted 11 years ago

   Be honest and tell the person why you don't feel like being text 6 times a day. You are not responsible for someones feelings and for them to take everything they hear personal. Just be honest

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   MickSposted 11 years ago

   Say - stop texting me so often.------------------------------------------------------

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      stricktlydatingposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Simple and to the point, thank you!

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   Justsilvieposted 11 years ago

   Don't answer! Works for me, people finally got the clue calling and leaving a message or sending an e-mail works much better for me.

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      Larry Wallposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      I totally agree.

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      Peanutritiousposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      That seems like the best option to me too, they'll soon get the message

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   sangreposted 11 years ago

   Take a long time to answer the text. The longer it takes to reply back, the less texts you will get. Or you could knock of your phone and say that the battery died during the day.

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   Vickiwposted 11 years ago

   I would suggest telling them you will have to read them at the end if the day, because you have decided you are spending too much time texting, and will be happy to reply just once a day.

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      stricktlydatingposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      That sounds reasonable! Thank you!

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   lupineposted 11 years ago

   Just don't answer each text, only if important. Tell them you get too many texts in a day and can't read, or answer when you are doing something. (working, school, driving, cooking, shopping, etc.)

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      stricktlydatingposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Sounds like good advice thanks!
      I enjoy reading everyones answers here too thank you all for your great input!

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   Pamdoraposted 11 years ago

   This one is easy for me.  I let them know that my combination of brain demyelination and arthritis make it literally impossible for me to text them back.
   
   That slows them right down.

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   The Unlearnerposted 11 years ago

   I would call them and say, please don't text me, it costs me too much to reply, and I don't want you to assume I am ignoring you. It's better to talk

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    Silverspeederposted 11 years ago

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    enick159posted 11 years ago

    I think honesty is the best policy. Tell them that you feel that they are texting you too much and that you would appreciate it if they only texted you when it is important. If you aren't upfront with them it might only lead to problems later down the line.

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    apimentel33posted 11 years ago

    I agree; doing less in this situation should solve it. I've had friends that text way too much, and I get that it's easier to text than call, but constant texting is not something I'm down for; I can't stand feeling like all I'm doing is sitting there with my phone texting texting texting. If you ignore them, or "pretend" you were busy for a while (or a few hours), or consistently "forget" to get back to them for the rest of the day, I'm sure they'd eventually get the hint that you aren't reciprocating much and they should take their texty conversations elsewhere.

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    CertifiedHandyposted 11 years ago

    I love you, so stop texting so much or call me sometimes, we haven't talked in a while

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    Tephsposted 11 years ago

    I believe that honest communication is necessary for you to be able to express what you really feel about receiving so many text messages in a day rather than just ignoring them because the sender could  misinterpret you as having not enough credit to send a reply or worse she or he might see if as though you don't like him or her at all that you ignore his or her messages.  That's it.  To avoid miscommunication,  I believe being honest and open solve the issue.

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    snakeslaneposted 11 years ago

    Get a new number? Make it 'unlisted'? This worked for me once. If that's too complicated you could get rid of texting feature and tell contacts you use your phone for work and/or emergency messages only.

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    MJenniferposted 11 years ago

    I'm a fairly direct person, but if I were concerned about injuring someone's feelings, I'd tell them, "I'm not crazy about texting, so please forgive me if I'm not keeping up with yours."  If they continue to text you, just ignore most of them and reply to those you sincerely wish to reply to.  Eventually they'll either understand, or they'll decide to take offense anyhow -- and that's not your issue, it's theirs.
    
    I happen to dislike phones, and am constantly aggravated by needier acquaintances who depend on constant phone contact.  I'm pretty candid with them:  "I'm not a phone person.  That probably won't change."  I look at phones and computers as MY tools; I'm not their tool, and I elect when I do and don't use them.

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    Bailey13posted 11 years ago

    I would say something like "I'm busy doing things around the house and when I have to stop and check my messages all the time it takes me longer to get my stuff done. I'll text you when I get done." Yea it may be a little bit of a lie but hopefully they'll stop.
    ~Bailey13

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    jennshealthstoreposted 11 years ago

    If it is a really close friend I would just say hey stop texting me all the time. I don't like it. But if it is some one who you are not that close with I would agree on not answering every one. If they ask why, just say that you are unable to text so often and sorry that you can't always answer.

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    Kierstin Gunsbergposted 11 years ago

    With something as informal as texting there is NO reason to formally tell someone to text you less. Just ignore the texts and only text the person back as often as you feel like. If they're eating up your "minutes" just plainly text them back that you're running low on minutes. It doesn't have to be a big deal.

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