Living life as I want without much bothering about expectations of loved ones is

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   imnehaposted 11 years ago

   Living life as I want without much bothering about expectations of loved ones is selfishness?

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   dashingscorpioposted 11 years ago

   No! It's called being yourself. Ultimately everyone is looking for someone who will love and accept them for who they are. Love and affection are given "freely".
   Life is a personal journey and you are responsible for your own happiness.

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   Proud Footposted 11 years ago

   Not at all. You should have the freedom to do as you wish in life no matter what expectations you might have. However, pursuing an ambition knowing it will have an extreme negative impact on loved ones is another matter.
   So you should look out for the effect on the people around you but don't let that alone stop you from achieving your dreams.

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   Lisa HWposted 11 years ago

   Provided "as you want" doesn't involve anything that anyone would agree is absolutely destructive to your health, it's not at all selfish.  It's how things are supposed to be.
   
   BUT....
   
   If "how you want" means you like living it up with something like drugs and alcohol all the time (or else something that is more risky/potentially destructive when someone is younger than a certain again - and you're younger than that age); AND  the "expectations of loved ones" are only their hope/wish that you won't get involved with obviously destructive things, or things that have a high potential of turning destructive....      Then that's a different thing.  If that were the case then you'd be wise to "bother about those 'expectations of loved ones' because they wouldn't really be expectations.  They'd be "sincerest hopes" for you to remain healthy and have a healthy future.
   
   Having said all that, though, if anyone truly "expects" (rather than "hopes") that you live your life his way - that's plain, old, unhealthy and unreasonable.

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   lburmasterposted 11 years ago

   Partially selfish. But I also call it ignorance of those around you. You are not paying attention to them even though they are your loved ones who greatly influence your life. However, it also depends upon their expectations. If they have grand expectations such as being a doctor and going through eight years of medical school, you might want to consider them selfish instead. But there are a few expectations that make you a better person even though you do not see it.

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   imnehaposted 11 years ago

   Thanks a lot guys.. ur answers will be very helpful for me taking my decision..

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