I am not a husband, although have intimate relationships. I saw a relationship video presentation sharing men's minds are full of boxes. Each box has a purpose. The humor of the presentation was there is a 'nothing box' while saying men like that box and go their often. Further it shared women's minds are like a bundle of wires and full of countless connections full of energy like electrical currents jumping from one connection to another as fast as lightning while they know all of those connections easily.
From that I can only wonder if husbands being usually a man has a box for feelings. Being a man I am trying to look into my 'box of feelings' now regarding this post. For me while I am sure for each individual it may be different my feeling box looks like a big blob sorta' inside it.
All my feelings are floating around in that blob separately, yet each amazingly touches another and all at once too. When I reach into that box with my mind it squishes this way and that way and all will not stay in one place. One feeling rapidly becomes another sometimes faster than I experience it or can comprehend.
I cannot focus on that one thought for too long as it soon is many and I simply am amazed producing a smile or aghast and plum outright scared. I like it most when they are very, very comfortable. So I reach in with my heart instead of my mind. Then those feelings like a blob melt becoming an ocean of currents swaying with the moon's tides. Undulating waves tossed about at times while others are soft gentle curling waves easing upon a warm sandy shore.
So, in a way if I was asked "Are you feeling happy?" I could focus and say 'yes' or 'no'. I could see that feeling like a schooner sailing on a quiet sea. If asked am I feeling angry I would see a ship being tossed and thrust about like in a raging storm. But, to ask me my "feelings" (plural) I would not be able to answer. That would for me be like asking to explain an ocean or a sea.
Of, course as the opening paragraph points out I may share my feelings easily by doing nothing and fishing on a row boat in a sea of Love.
Q2: Originating in childhood means a learned behavior to me. Maybe depending on environment and questioning family.
Q3: I don't feel it is reactive at all. Maybe much closer to honesty
Q4: If not a reaction then it is an action. It is initiated.
Q5: Confusion. Fear. Communicating clearly.
Q6: Not really. The blob is just simply squishy.