How do YOU keep things exciting in your relationship?

  1. MissJamieD profile image71
    MissJamieDposted 5 years ago

    Whether you've been together 2 months, 2 years, or 2 decades, there always comes a point in relationships where things get "routine" and maybe even boring in the bedroom. Of course we're all busy and have lives to live but we all know how important intimacy and/or sex is for us to keep our romance candles burning, so to speak:)

    How do you and your SO keep things spicy in the bedroom? Doesn't necessarily have to be intercourse but just the physical intimacy two people share in a relationship.

    First, I'll answer by saying that me and my SO, from day one, have had amazing sexual chemistry and have fun in the bedroom like neither of us have ever had before. I don't know what it is but I was very prudish and quiet about my sexual needs and wants my entire life before I met him. And after 10 months (6 mo living together), I've learned that I've actually done things for him that he's never had/experienced before either, at least not to the level that he and I are at. We were together/talked every day for almost two months before we had sex and we got to know alot about each other first, maybe that had something to do with me being so comfortable with him like I'd never even been with my ex husband of 15 years. Whatever it is, I'm extremely blessed and I know he feels the same about me.

    So besides the fact that we are extremely connected to each other spiritually/sexually/emotionally, one thing I like to do to keep things exciting is [sexting]. It's so much fun because I'm able to talk about things I was way too uncomfortable to talk about in person in the past. And eventually we're able to talk about them in person too which still baffles me. But sexting allows me to share my sexual fantasies with him without the initial embarrassment, and he absolutely LOVES it!! Some days I'll come up with everything and some days he'll start out by asking me specific questions about what I want to do that night when he gets's so much fun you must try it:) Other than that like I said we talk about our fantasies and dreams about life in general, we support each other in every aspect of life and even on the crabby, argumentative days, we try to end the day with hugs, kisses, and usually some lovin too:)

    Happy day everyone and good luck!!

  2. jabelufiroz profile image67
    jabelufirozposted 5 years ago

    There is a big difference between having sex in a relationship and having great sex in a relationship. A wise man once told me that if sex is an issue with your partner, it can be 80% of the discussion; if it is great, it will only be 20% of the dialogue. The latter sounds like a much healthier situation to us. Here are a few videos that take you through some of the ways to take things up a notch. We can lead you to the water, but it's up to you to drink it. 

    5 Places To Have A Quickie
    Sometimes, spontaneous can be your greatest salvation. Why wait until you get home to act on impulses that may fade after an awkward cab ride home? Occasionally, you need to take immediate action -- no matter where you are.

    Introduce Biting Into The Relationship
    We aren't talking about drawing blood, but maybe try to get things going with a little playful aggression. Take it from us -- make sure both of you know what's up before taking a nibble. You don't want to freak her out.

    Having A Threesome
    Ah, yes. The dream of all dreams for men. Or is it? This is trickier than a drunken backflip, but there are ways to bring it up. More importantly, there are rules to follow. Heed all of this.


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