Do you know how to spot a user or a gold-digger?

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  1. realtalk247 profile image72
    realtalk247posted 4 years ago

    What are the signs that you are interacting with someone who is only attempting to benefit from your interaction or relationship?

    1. Expectations and Requirements that do not match their income, skills, education, or current situation.  Making $10 an hour but expecting LOUIS VUITTON. For men it may be $300 jeans and somehow they can never reveal where they live.  If we were on Jeopardy with Alex Trebec, I would ask for the category: Things that just don't add up for $1,000. LOL
    2. Falling in love with you overnight and they really don't know anything about you.
    3. Sexual intimacy too soon in an attempt to lock you in and/or accelerate the "relationship."
    4. Introducing you to family too soon, inappropriate.  It's your second month knowing him/her and now family interaction occurs. 
    5. Too much interest shown every time you mention a purchase or activities that requires a certain dollar amount.  You can almost hear the calculator adding in their head, over the phone.
    6. So convinced that you are the one that they want to move in "with you" immediately.
    7. Within the first month of "dating" this person starts mentioning financial struggles, etc.

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    What are your thoughts on warning signs for gold-diggers, men or women?   
    Have you ever been used by a gold-digger or upgrade interaction benefactor? 
    Where you ever asked, inappropriately, for money?  How did you handle the request?

    1. dashingscorpio profile image87
      dashingscorpioposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      From this list I would say #1 and #7 are more likely to be signs of dealing with a gold-digger.

      Numbers 2-6 could easily happen when a woman thinks a guy is really "Hot" looking and a cut above all or most of the guys she's ever dated. Lots of women will sleep with a guy on the first date under those circumstances. They'll want to show him off to their girlfriends and family and from time to time they'll profess their love to him within weeks especially if the sex is off the charts!
      In fact in my "hey day" while I was in college and during my 20s and early 30s this was not uncommon.

      To tell you the truth men have been "programmed" to believe if they have to have a certain amount of "material" things for them in order to attract a beautiful high quality female. It's instilled in us if we become really successful (we can have any woman) we want! (Regardless of how {we} look).

      Essentially we accept the "gold digger" mentality on many levels. When women say a guy is a "great catch" they're not just talking about his looks and personality. :-)

      In fact any man who has a daughter doesn't want her dating men who have "nothing" going for themselves. Most fathers want their daughters to marry "successful" businessmen, doctors, lawyers, engineers....etc  They may not want them to overtly chase after men with $$$$ but they want them to have that on their list of requirements. No father wants a son-in-law who is content being a janitor.

      Super rich (multi-millionaires/billionaires) and famous men (assume) {most women} they meet want to be involved with them because of who they are and what they have accumulated. So called "Sugar Daddies" love them some "Sugar Babies"! In their eyes getting "young hot looking women" is just one of the perks to being super rich! Should they decide to marry they'll have a tight pre-nuptial agreement.

      Most men that complain about the "gold digger" mentality are NOT super rich guys! They're (average working guys) who don't have private jets, multiple homes, and cars. If they meet a woman who asks for money to pay bills or whines about wanting clothes, jewelry, and other things they feel like she is out to {use} them. (It's really a case where both people are dating the "wrong" people!)

      Each of us is entitled to have our list of criteria for mate-selection material. For some people it's about physical attributes, for others it's wealth and status, some prefer a sensitive romantic while others want a brawny macho guy, introverts, extroverts, certain skin, hair, or eye color, height, weight, income...etc

      Life is a personal journey. Who is to judge what another person needs to feel happy or good about life?
      If someone wants what you don't have or want to give then it just means they are not "the one" for you! Name calling or being judgmental about (their) "mate shopping list" isn't going to make you happy.
      The sooner you realize you're not on the same page the quicker you both can move on!

    2. AshtonFirefly profile image75
      AshtonFireflyposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      I'm not sure these indicate a user or gold-digger.

      Someone who's extremely desperate, maybe.

  2. realtalk247 profile image72
    realtalk247posted 4 years ago

    Desperate with a mission


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