Why woman says NO when she want to say YES?

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  1. jainismus profile image55
    jainismusposted 3 years ago

    Why, many times woman says NO when she wants  to say YES?

    1. psycheskinner profile image83
      psycheskinnerposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      So you think you know what the women wants better than she does?  Dangerous assumption.

    2. JMcFarland profile image85
      JMcFarlandposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      I'm not sure why you're positive she wants to say Yes when she's clearly saying no. No means no,  which makes it time to move on whether you want to or not.

    3. dashingscorpio profile image87
      dashingscorpioposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      It usually means they do not completely trust you yet!
      Everyone wants to avoid heartache. It's unwise to allow "impulsive connections" and "happenstance" to dictate one's relationship choices.
      "Never separate the mind from the heart when making relationship decisions. The purpose of the mind is to protect the heart" smile

      1. Sed-me profile image82
        Sed-meposted 3 years agoin reply to this

        You are assuming he is correct about knowing what she is feeling?

        1. dashingscorpio profile image87
          dashingscorpioposted 3 years agoin reply to this

          Not necessarily. It may be an instance where (she told him she wants to) do whatever BUT doesn't feel it would be the right thing or in the heat of the moment she realized it's just their first date. Timing could be a factor.
          I know for a fact it's possible to say "no" to a variety of things but really want to say yes! I do it with deserts and buying products all the time. The wise me says it's not the time or is not in line with my goals.

          I believe it's possible for someone to be "tempted" to go out with someone or want to have sex with them and say "no" for a variety of reasons and then they go home to masturbate and fantasize.
          No means no but it can also mean I want to but just not today. That's displaying self-discipline. Sometimes people will tell you they're tempted!

          1. Sed-me profile image82
            Sed-meposted 3 years agoin reply to this

            Of course ppl may be have conflicting emotions, but once that "no" has been launched... it's his responsibility to let those words stand until she says otherwise.

            1. dashingscorpio profile image87
              dashingscorpioposted 3 years agoin reply to this

              Very true! However it's normal for any human being to speculate on what they may have said or done differently after being rejected for anything whether it's a job, an audition, a date, closing a sale, or even sex.

  2. Sed-me profile image82
    Sed-meposted 3 years ago

    Don't worry about what motivates her, just respect her words and move on, problem solved.

    1. dashingscorpio profile image87
      dashingscorpioposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      Everyone whether they know it or not makes an attempt to "sell themselves"/impress others they desire to associate with whether it's romantic or in business. I don't think there is anything devious about someone speculating what motivates a person to say yes or no.

      Not long ago I spoke with an 80 year old woman who told me she turned down (10) date offers from her now deceased husband before finally agreeing to go out with him. They were married for 50 years!  Imagine how different their lives would have been if he had simply "moved on".

      Today he most likely would be considered a "stalker" or charged with "sexual harassment". Courtship expectations have changed dramatically over the years. For a man's own sake it's best to give up and move on as soon as a woman says no (to anything) he suggests!

      1. Sed-me profile image82
        Sed-meposted 3 years agoin reply to this

        I think you mistook my "move on" for never return instead of it's intended, "change the subject."

  3. Aime F profile image85
    Aime Fposted 3 years ago

    I'll wait for you to give an example before making any judgments.

  4. Kathryn L Hill profile image78
    Kathryn L Hillposted 3 years ago

    Because women have an inner mother, sometimes this is referred to as conscience. This inner mother is very strict...
    for a good reason
                            and BTW…Step away from the eggs!

  5. psycheskinner profile image83
    psycheskinnerposted 3 years ago

    The purpose of the mind is to decide what to do, the purpose of the mouth is to tell other people about the decision, the responsibility of the other person is to respect that decision. That conveyed decision is in fact what the woman *really* wants.

    1. Sed-me profile image82
      Sed-meposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      The purpose of law enforcement is to make sure ppl understand that.
      That threat frees men up from having to worry about any inner struggle a woman might be having.

  6. mireland19 profile image93
    mireland19posted 3 years ago

    This question could go in so many different directions and I am unsure how you mean it so I cannot give a good solid answer. I mean what are we talking about here? Are you asking why women say no when offered chocolate ice cream even though we really want to eat the entire box, with hot fudge, and sprinkles please!

    I can sum it up quickly like this: we say no when we know it is an unhealthy decision. You might want to leave the movie theater after watching Fast and the Furious and get into a car chase with the guy next to you at the light, but you don't because that would be an unhealthy decision.

    If a woman is saying no and you know for a FACT that she really would like to say Yes, that is probably why. However, be aware that just because you might think she wants to say yes doesn't make it true. No means no regardless of what you think she secretly means so if her answer is no in ANY situation, be respectful of that answer and decision and don't push the issue smile!

  7. profile image0
    ahorsebackposted 3 years ago

    I tell women No,  that I have a headache ..........:-}

    1. Sed-me profile image82
      Sed-meposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      Sure you do, Ed. smile

  8. Kathryn L Hill profile image78
    Kathryn L Hillposted 3 years ago

    It really depends on what the heck the woman is saying No to!
    Maybe, just maybe, she says Yes to being your friend, and No to being used just for sex.

    Friendship is very valuable to some… and needs to come first.
    If she is saying Yes to friendship,
    don't discount that!

    If she is saying No to friendship...
    Forget about it!

  9. Kathryn L Hill profile image78
    Kathryn L Hillposted 3 years ago

    Maybe she wants that extra piece of pizza you are offering her, but she is trying to whittle down parts of her…
    Maybe she would like to read the book you have given her, but she just doesn't have time to read ANY books!
    Maybe she would like to wear that perfume you bought her, but she really can't stand the scent!
    Maybe she would love to keep the puppy you brought her, but she…
    and she would love to go to dinner with you, but she just can't afford to pay the bill….even if you pay the tip.
    Maybe she would love to say yes to your marriage proposal, but you are just too short, or too old, or too young, or too tall.
    Whatever the reason...
    Don't take it personally.

  10. profile image0
    ahorsebackposted 3 years ago

    I have the problem of hanging onto a womans Every word !

  11. Cardisa profile image92
    Cardisaposted 3 years ago

    It's time men stop trying to figure out what a woman really mean and just listen to what she says. If she means "yes" you can't really tell can you? So if she says "no" take her word for it until she tells you otherwise. If not, you may get yourself in deep trouble. Men have gone to prison because they think women mean "yes" when they said no. Stop trying to decipher her.

  12. scinvestor profile image61
    scinvestorposted 3 years ago

    I have a wife and female child. They seem to speak a different language than me. I love them

 
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