Is love the most important thing when considering marriage?

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  1. wandererh profile image71
    wandererhposted 13 years ago

    Is love the most important thing when considering marriage?

  2. profile image57
    tinkerbell09posted 13 years ago

    Yes, I think so.  Why get married if you don't love the other person.  That's why I've never understood arranged marriages.  I don't want to be stuck with a person that I don't even like to be around.  Then I have to make babies... Sorry, started rambling.  But yes, I think love is important in considering marriage.

  3. rvsource profile image60
    rvsourceposted 13 years ago

    Yes I believe it ranks at the top. Love is the backbone of a relationship. True love allows you to become forgiving and respectful of others. Relationships fail when one spouse loses that trait.

  4. sunime09 profile image60
    sunime09posted 13 years ago

    I feel that it is. Marriage is all about love and spending the rest of your life with one another.
    I only know of a few people that have married for other reasons than love. Most were for personal reasons such as health insurance and life insurance policies.

  5. Miss D profile image60
    Miss Dposted 13 years ago

    I actually don't believe that love is necessarily that important. So many people get married when they're madly in love and then, when the first flush of romance is gone, reality kicks in and love just isn't enough to save a relationship. On the other hand, many arranged marriages work out just fine. They start out of a sense of duty, or loyalty, and eventually grow to love each other. All cases are different, but I certainly don't think that love is the be-all and end-all. It certainly isn't going to save a relationship that is faltering on other levels, such as lack of trust, or jealousy, or crippling money worries.

  6. profile image56
    shygirl1200posted 13 years ago

    Yes it is you have to love each other to be happily married thats what mariage is about marrying someone you love and make a family with them.

  7. bayareagreatthing profile image60
    bayareagreatthingposted 13 years ago

    My initial response is simply "yes"- love is the most important thing in any relationship. The difficulty comes with our definition, and understanding of the kind of love needed to make the relationship successful and how to achieve that success(for it takes effort - as any worthwhile endeavor does). This kind of love is give and receive (not give and give...not give and take) is my answer- … n-marriage


  8. Webber224 profile image56
    Webber224posted 13 years ago

    Yes, love is the most essential thing for a marriage.  Today, most people have the freedom to marry their true love.  For those people who consider arranged marriage, I thing they would still take times to get to know each other first.  If the chemistry is there, they will fall in love and get marry.  In my opinion, a good marriage is the main source of happiness.  You can't be too logical and treat your spouse as a business partner.   Of course, we should not rush into any relationship.   It takes time to build trust and everything will follow through.

  9. kimberleee profile image58
    kimberleeeposted 13 years ago


    But it's a little more complicated than that...  so often lust and selfishness is mistaken for love.  Genuine love is honest, giving, and selfless.

    Be honest and true to yourself first.  Is your love for this other person genuine?  and do they return your love?

    ---I disagree with lindagoffigan...  No one is perfect.  For this reason, two people in love should be humble enough to say "I'm sorry" when they've hurt one another (and unless you're Jesus Christ, you WILL hurt one another.)  Marriage is a commitment to grow and change with the person you love... it's not a promise to NEVER have a disagreement.  Love DOES hurt (the worst kind of hurt.)  and you DO HAVE TO WORK AT IT.  The point is... it's WORTH THE EFFORT.

  10. kimbanu profile image56
    kimbanuposted 13 years ago

    Love definitely is not the most important thing when considering marriage. Why? Because only when you stay all night long then you know how long is the night ...

    What do I mean by this?

    After few years love will change. Compatiblity is one of the most important thing when considering marriage.

    Most people loves the initial love and it's true love makes us feel so huge, so blessed, so everything. Love motivates us. But love without compatibility will die.

    To know if you are compatible, you have to live together and/or date each other long enough to know.

    Even then, you still don't know.

    So although you want love to start, it can't be the most important thing when considering marriage.

  11. dtmjk profile image60
    dtmjkposted 13 years ago

    Love is important when considering marriage. But, it is not everything.
    There will be days when you will feel madly, crazy, head over heels in love. Then, there will be days when you are tired of the other person and just want  a minute by yourself.
    You have to remember that marriage is about commitment, through everything!
    The way I see it, marriage is 100/100. There can't be 50/50. Each person needs to give their all.
    On days when your spouse can't give 100%, you make up the rest. If your wife has a 80% day, give 120%.
    Make sure that you are ready and willing to go the extra mile and that the other perons will do the same for you before considering marriage.

  12. SHERICIA profile image60
    SHERICIAposted 12 years ago



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