Is it wrong to tell a friend they've gotten fat?

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  1. sparksdaniel2000 profile image78
    sparksdaniel2000posted 9 years ago

    Is it wrong to tell a friend they've gotten fat?

  2. Lisa HW profile image64
    Lisa HWposted 9 years ago

    I think it is.  Chances are that friend is already well aware that he has gained weight.   Either he is unhappy about it or else he doesn't care.

    If he's unhappy about it he doesn't need a so-called "friend" to make him feel worse.  If he doesn't care then there's no point insulting him by bringing up his weight.

    Sometimes stress causes people to have cravings for high-calorie/high-fat foods.  It's a physiological thing that they can't control, and if they don't give in to the cravings they will feel as if they cannot function.  If, by any chance, the friend has gained weight because of stress; there's really no need to add to his stress by bringing up weight, which is probably already bothering him.

    Besides, whether the friend is disturbed by his weight gain or not, it's insulting to tell him he's gained weight (not just because he may be sensitive about the weight gain, but it's arrogant to assume he's too "clueless" to have noticed the changes in his own body).

  3. Lady_E profile image63
    Lady_Eposted 9 years ago

    It is not wrong but you have to say it in a way that wouldn't hurt them or make them feel insecure.

    If I put myself in that situation, I might start talking to my friend about my weight and see if it would prompt her/him to talk about their weight. 95% of the time, friends would normally ask if they have put on weight and that's my opportunity. I might answer "just a little".  I think its better than just blurting out: "oh my, your looking fat these days".

    Sometimes, being overweight could cause problems for people, so as a good friend you shouldn't have to hold back.

    Ps. I think if a friend has put on some weight it shouldn't matter but if they are becoming double their normal size, then you could tell.

  4. Mr. Happy profile image85
    Mr. Happyposted 9 years ago

    No it is not. Being addicted to food is like any other addiction (not good) ... if it is indeed a friend try dragging him/her to a gym or jogging or something. I am pretty sure nobody likes being "fat" - the person could use help in beating their addiction, do what you can to help I suggest.

  5. profile image0
    reeltaulkposted 9 years ago

    absolutely not, what kind of friend would you be if you didn't!  Then again either way you lose.  Try saying omg you look great!!! when they know they have been pigging out and they will mumble under their breath "yeah right" you liar--------- some people you just can't please...

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