How do you avoid boredom in a long term relationship?

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  1. stricktlydating profile image84
    stricktlydatingposted 14 years ago

    How do you avoid boredom in a long term relationship?

    Even though we go out for dinner, play sport and have holidays regularly, sometimes I feel bored.  I don't want to feel like this, i love him, what can I do?

  2. profile image0
    reeltaulkposted 14 years ago

    break up the monotony and do something that excites you.  sounds like he makes the decisions regarding what is considered "fun".  Get that balance going gyrl and maybe you can have fun and continue to love him

  3. dcrisan profile image60
    dcrisanposted 14 years ago

    I know exactly what your going through. It happens! Its Normal! Thats what people tell me. But maybe talking about it together will bring it to the surface of how you are feeling, then the two of you can work things out together.
    Go somewhere different or do something different you both havent done together. Have a party, get drunk, try a new sex position. There are a lot of things to do together to make it a little less boring. Then you can laugh about it later.

  4. JenniferRae profile image61
    JenniferRaeposted 14 years ago

    Well since you're in a "long term" relationship im sure you know eachother through and through. So you should know what surprises him, what thrills him etc and same goes for him. Talk to him about, dont let it build up to the point where you feel the only way to make it better is to get out, or you start with the spicing things up or so to speak and see if he mimicks your moves. If he doesnt then talk to him about it. But dont attack him with it or he will feel like its battling time. Tell him you wanna make the relationship work cause you love him and tell him what you think you need then he should feel ready to try anything.

  5. dmitchell88 profile image61
    dmitchell88posted 14 years ago

    There's all sorts of things to cure boredom in relationships. Try doing new things, including finding hobbies you both enjoy and share them together. Go to new places, explore new things. It can be anything. If it's getting boring in the "intimate department" try doing more things, spicing it up a notch. Talk about what the other wants, and explore those fantasies. There's so much you can do to get back to the honeymoon stages.

  6. G.L.A. profile image82
    G.L.A.posted 14 years ago

    Be careful that you are not misreading your own feelings. You say you love him, and assuming he loves you back ..could it be that your relationship has become comfortable?  Because the 'fast lane'  and 'over stimulation' has become a way of life today.. I believe that comfort is often mistaken for boredom. Think about it. If you determine that it is a 'comfort ' thing, rather than a 'boredom'  thing.. please, give comfort a chance. You may be pleasantly surprised to find that comfort isn't as boring as you thought it was!

  7. 4Me2you profile image55
    4Me2youposted 14 years ago

    Keep it fresh and new.  I have been married for many years and I treat my spouse like we are dating and he loves it.  Remember why you fell in love in the first place.  Keep trying to impress him the way you did when you were dating and he will follow suit.  Keep that line of communication open and don't get boring and comfortable.

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    jeremiah altheaposted 13 years ago

    by mesmerizing your memories together through creating your own film. And most especially by making each day a special through new facial expression most of the times having your original facial expression makes our day happy!!! Forgot and do not create a things that makes u both angry..

  9. donotfear profile image86
    donotfearposted 13 years ago

    I'm still trying to figure it out. When I get the answer, I'll post it here.

  10. RachelLynn profile image60
    RachelLynnposted 13 years ago

    Pick up the January 2010 issue of Cosmopolitan magazine, honey!  Inside, there's an article with 50 different, out of the ordinary, fun things to do with your man.  I picked it up because that article was listed on the cover, and I was starting to feel like you do in my relationship.  It's helped immensely, and made us realize how great it is to be with each other.  From going "commando" together for a day to competing to see who can make the best food dish out of ingredients found in your kitchen at that moment, the ideas are great.  My boy and I haven't been happier, and I think it could help you and yours, too.

  11. Justine T profile image59
    Justine Tposted 13 years ago

    If you realy love him its ok to be bord.....because if you think about it wouldent you rather be bord with him than not at all... he might even need to heer that once in a wile

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    Wendi Mposted 13 years ago

    I've been with the same guy for just over 5 years now...that is a RECORD for me.

    I like to spice things up by sending him suggestive pictures (not x-rated) via email.

    We also make things more fun by going out to different places, like just last night we went out to a Japanese Hibachi for dinner.

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    Fashionista Fannyposted 13 years ago

    I know many people who have the same issue, as did I. Please look at my hub for good advice.  You guys can fix things together!

  14. antonrosa profile image67
    antonrosaposted 13 years ago

    If you love him, then why are you so bored with him? Does he not give you what you need with him just being there?  Or is is that you need something more exciting and adventurous in your life?

    The more memories you make in a relationship, the more love and emotions you will be able to see. Try doing different things. It's true that the same things get boring, so try alternate things that you haven't done before.

  15. Anamika S profile image68
    Anamika Sposted 13 years ago

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  16. FduToit profile image69
    FduToitposted 13 years ago

    We all grow and evolve over time. Your happiness comes from within and not from other people, including your partner. If you are feeling bored it may mean that you are not feeling fulfilled by not being true to yourself.

    Think about the things that make you happy and make it happen. I am sure your partner wants you to be happy as well and you will find that as you start feeling more fulfilled that your relationship will normally also start to improve.

    Wishing you all of the very best!


  17. Nelson09 profile image61
    Nelson09posted 13 years ago

    Give space, come up with kinky ideas, indulge in common hobbies. Let him have his boy’s night out, while you go crazy with your girl’s night in...

  18. Maria Cecilia profile image84
    Maria Ceciliaposted 13 years ago

    sometime you just need to make your social life balance, like spend time with your friends once in a while and let him do the same. Always schedule a special date, or sometime just stay   together while resting....

  19. krillco profile image86
    krillcoposted 12 years ago

    By adding novelty, both outside of the bedroom and inside the bedroom. Most folks don't do this because: they do only enough to just get by and not be bored, and they become very anxious about their partner's reaction to their desire for new things and the novel behaviors themselves. Learning to control your own anxiety about this, and plunging ahead and introducing that new something takes hard work and courage on your part.

  20. johnnymission profile image61
    johnnymissionposted 12 years ago

    Try having an open relationship! Or at least think about it in an educated manner. There are a ton of books on the subject, its healthy with the correct communication and with the divorce rate going though the roof on account of infidelity, you're kind of just beating yourself to the punch.
    Good luck!

  21. Shay L profile image59
    Shay Lposted 8 years ago

    Ask yourself, "Am I seeking satisfaction from him or from myself?" Once you answer this honestly, then you will be able to move forward. Since you have been with him for a while, there will be times where you will feel as if the relationship has run its course. You will feel you have given and taken everything you were able to from this relationship and that will eventually cause your boredom. But make sure you aren't seeking all of your satisfaction from him, but from yourself.


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