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Give a Valentine card to my ex?

  1. Yumberry profile image54
    Yumberryposted 8 years ago

    Give a Valentine card to my ex?

    We only been with each other for 2mths. During those 2mths, we spent almost everyday with each other and had many good times. He treated me with great respect. Unfortunatly, we broke it off a week before Valentine's, well it was him who felt different about us and doesn't know what to do. I agreed and it turned out good. But I told him I don't want to lose him. Anyways, even though it's fresh, you think I should give him a Valentine's card? I want to do it but having doubts.

  2. Lisa HW profile image72
    Lisa HWposted 8 years ago

    It's hard for strangers who read your question to know exactly what kind of terms/feelings are involved in whatever happened and whatever relationship you do/don't have now.  So, I guess I can imagine that under certain circumstances, depending on what the other person said/thinks, giving him a Valentine may seem OK.

    Generally, though, I don't think it's appropriate to give him a Valentine if he broke up with you, especially since you were only together for two months. 

    I think if he broke up for some reason like his job will be taking him far away, and he thinks it's wisest to break up; then - maybe - sending a non-Valentine, "thinking-about-you" card might be appropriate.  If he out-and-out told you he feels differently about you than you do about him, I don't think a Valentine is appropriate.

  3. stricktlydating profile image81
    stricktlydatingposted 8 years ago

    Hi Yumberry, I probably wouldn't give him a Valentines Day Card when as you said he doesn't know what to do.  If he is confused about you and it was him who felt different to you then he doesn't deserve your romantic affections on Valentines Day.  Sometimes doing nothing works more in your favour too. For example what if you send the card and he doesn't reply - will you then feel heartbroken.  Your breakup is fresh and this romantic day may have him thinking about you so I would wait to see if he makes any contact with you, afterall you know how you feel and it's only him who needs to make up his mind.

  4. bloominglily profile image60
    bloominglilyposted 7 years ago

    Are you back together? If you are, then yes. If you're not, then take it as a sign that there are better, bigger fish in the sea. I wouldn't put up with a man who wasn't sure about me.

  5. duffsmom profile image60
    duffsmomposted 7 years ago

    No, no Valentine's Day card.  If he is confused and trying to create a place for you in his life, a card will only appear needy.  If it is meant to be, he will come back.  In the meantime, allow him time to miss you.

  6. profile image0
    AMBASSADOR BUTLERposted 7 years ago

    No. It takes great energy and effort to establish an boyfriend / girlfriend relationship. Both persons have to search their soul to see if this is really what they want in their life now and into the future.

  7. JayDee Sterling profile image59
    JayDee Sterlingposted 7 years ago

    No. Absolutely not.  For what reason?  You've agreed to go your separate ways, the most you should do is perhaps speak if you see him in the mall. 

    You still have time to have a new Valentine.  Start looking for one.