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Do you believe men get the short end of the stick on Valentine's Day?

  1. dashingscorpio profile image87
    dashingscorpioposted 4 years ago

    Do you believe men get the short end of the stick on Valentine's Day?

    Officially Valentine’s Day is not a "gender specific" holiday. Unlike Mother’s Day or Father’s Day where women and men are honored and given the royal treatment based upon their parental and gender status, Valentine’s Day is supposed to be a holiday for (both genders) to celebrate and express their love for one another. However many people view Valentine’s Day as a holiday primarily for (women). Do you believe men give more than they receive on Valentine's Day? Is Valentine's Day a holiday mainly for women?


  2. mike102771 profile image82
    mike102771posted 4 years ago

    My short answer is “I would have to say that in the end everyone gets the shaft over valentine’s day.”

    The day has become a measuring stick for how committed a man is to his relationship. Do little or nothing and you are an evil jerk who does not deserve to live. Over do it and you are overcompensated for something that you are doing wrong you insensitive jerk.
    Now this is just my opinion but romance should be an everyday event in action and words not some commercially mass-produced card loaded with artificial sentiment.  Now when I say this I don’t mean the valentine’s day flowers (dead things) and chocolates (lumps of sugar and fat) type of romance. We hold more significance to hype than reality. I said it in the past I blame the media (books, magazines, TV, and movies) for promoting an unrealistic over the top image of romance as well as this adversarial notion to relationships. For some reason the word relationship has become more of a contest than a partnership. To return to what I wrote earlier it is a measuring tool for commitment rather than a celebration of that commitment. This is also true with anniversaries (first date, marriage, etc).

    In the end men do the “romantic thing” (a grand gesture) one, two or three days a year instead of a little everyday. And can one day makeup for a year of nothing? If that person in your life loves you shouldn’t need a special day to know it, just a day to celebrate that commitment (or in the case of a new relationship try and get lucky). This probably didn’t answer anything.

  3. duffsmom profile image59
    duffsmomposted 4 years ago

    Yes, and frankly I think men get the short end of the stick in a lot of areas. Weddings, Valentine's Day are only a couple of areas:  One of my pet peeves is the way men are portrayed in commercials as brainless, clueless idiots.  There is a lot of gender bias out there and it isn't just against women.

    1. dashingscorpio profile image87
      dashingscorpioposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      You're so right! Especially about weddings. Most of the time the groom is little more than a "prop"! When the groom appears some people whisper, "That's the groom." When the bride walks into the room (everyone) stands! It's (her) day! :-)

  4. M. T. Dremer profile image95
    M. T. Dremerposted 4 years ago

    Yes, Valentine's day is geared more towards women. While it's true that a man could like flowers, chocolate and an overwhelming amount of pink, it isn't statistically as common as women who like those things. I do think that there is a more recent movement to equalize the holiday, but there is still a stigma. Men who forget the day are inconsiderate, but women who forget, are given a free pass.

  5. DDE profile image28
    DDEposted 4 years ago

    I know valentine's day is for both a genders i was married on Valentines' day and that is our special day because of marriage. I believe most men don't bother about Valentines day women find this day more special than men do. Our marriage makes this a romantic one if it was not for the marriage my husband would have no interest for this day. I on the other hand have always been interested.

  6. Deborah Minter profile image93
    Deborah Minterposted 5 months ago

    I don't know if it is or isn't. I know of two couples, where the women made there husbands miserable on valentines day, claiming that "he" didn't give them enough. I remember thinking that valentines day should have been about both of them.