I broke up with my ex but now I'm confuse if I did the right thing.
We were high school sweethearts and dated for 8years and 6-7 months ago, I ended it. He wasnt happy and wanted to work it out but I said it was helpless and theres no hope. We still stay in touch and have our rendevouz, in the past month I've been wondering if I lost the real thing. I've gone out and met people and so has he. But the feelings seems to still be there, we still have our old habits together and wants to remain friends. But it hurts when I see him because I cant tell him how I'm feeling. Is it selfish of me to try to get him back or just suck it up and move on?
You should take him back. You still love him i can tell.
If you have that spark for him then do let him go.
Go back to him.
So what if it is selfish, that does not change how you feel, how he feels, ext. If your love is true then petty things like that shouldn't matter.
Go, win him back. Who knows he still loves you, too. You wont know unless you try..and you ca'nt move on either.
Usually you don't end a long term relationship unless it's really not working, and usually hasn't been working for a while. However you can later miss the closeness of having someone who knew you so well and was always there for you and can second guess your decision for ending the relationship. It's also not unusual to decide to go back and give it another try. But more often than not you'll find nothing has changed - the same problems surface as before and you begin to realise why you ended the relationship in the first place. It takes more than six months to get over an 8 year relationship, and you don't need to go back because in the months you've been apart you haven't met someone new yet. It's not selfish to wish you were still in the relationship though, it just takes time to move on. Sometimes remaining friends can stir at your heart strings. You probably did the right thing by ending the relationship, and probably best to move on.
If i were you i would get him back, he obviously means a lot to you.
I wish you the best oof luck!
oh my gosh;
hunny no lie i went thru' this same situation..
and i triedx to suck it up and move on and i regret it evryday!
ihave now lost contact with my ex and have been looking for him for almost a year now. tell him how you feel! its obvious you love him and he lves you! its hard to find someone to be there thru thick and thin..and honey; you found it. relationships arent always crystal clear but thats the beauty of it! get ur man bak girl! let me knw what happens!
I just want to thank you all for the responding. I've observing my relationship with my ex and I think stricklydating makes afew good points. Clearly I'm not ready for the dating scene and will definitely need more than 6 months to get over an 8years realationship. I know now that getting back with him is out of the question and it is best if we move on, but will remain friends.
So thank you everyone for your advice!
Usually you don't end a long term relationship unless it's really not working, and usually hasn't been working for a while. However you can later miss the closeness of having someone who knew you so well and was always there for you and can second gu
Hi! I think that when people are together for a long time they are connected physically, mentally and etc..Believe me, when you leave you leave...if you are not sure if it's a true love or not..When you are in love you know that! when you are not, you have hesitations:((
Just let it go for a while...and then you will see if you need your sweetheart..
confusion is always there when we never give our life to Jesus. If we will try to put Jesus in our heart and will surrender it all. He will guide ask in making good decisions. Jesus will never leave us nor forsake us in the very time of trouble. If we will give Him a chance to be consulted in all our activities we can be assured of good outcome. I suggest you move on and pray for him too if you really meant for each other God will make a way. Attend church activities, get your self busy with spiritual things. One day you will be amazed of the Good things will come into your life.
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