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   coolfunkychikkaposted 15 years ago

   i and my boyfriend love each other so much that nobody cant separate us but i broke his trust so...
   
   many times that now he is not able to stay with me anymore he gave me so many chances to improve but certainly i ignored all of them my best friend also tried to improve me but lastly she also failed now the situation is that we have done every bit of thing {apart from sex} that a couple enjoys to do and now i cant bear the pain of sepration plese help me what should i do??i want him back..............as we both were before.
   
   and ya one thing more ...................he never said me no for anything but after doing everything he asked me to have sex i replied him in negative,..........my saying

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   northweststarrposted 15 years ago

   I don't know what you mean by breaking his trust.  If you are a virgin, you didn't cheat on him, right?  And way to go for telling him no to sex! You should never let yourself be pressured into sex.  Whatever you do, don't give it up just so you can get him back.  That's a slippery slope and will end in neither one of you having any respect for the other...

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   SoundAdviceposted 15 years ago

   Hi,
   Firstly it is a little unclear how you broke his trust. Secondly a person has to accept the other for who they are and not try to change them altogether. From what you have told it seems your boyfriend and friend have been trying to "change" you. You don't have to be someone else to seek others approval. They have to accept you for who you are.
   
   As for intimacy. it is your right to say yes or no based on your own feelings, comfort and judgement. No one must force you. Never give up your right just to get approval. One must not be good to another just to have a sex!
   
   If you want him back, talk to him face to face. Let him know clearly how you feel, what you want in life and that in whatever way you broke his trust you didn't want to hurt him. Then if both of you share the same feelings, same thoughts and understand clearly the expectations from each other you can be together.
   
   Remember confusions, misunderstandings, and false expectations will only cause problems now and in the future. Weigh the pros and cons and then decide.
   
   Hope its turns out well for you. Best of luck

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   coolfunkychikkaposted 15 years ago

   if you are indian thn u must b undrstanding wat is a kasam
   i broke his kasam twice n many time lied for his sake...........bt things went wrong and the result conlucded tht the fault was mine i m in 12th standard last sesion he startd saying me to study for my xams but i got distractd n got 2 retest ......u all are saying right but ...........the thing is we had face to face talks ..........i  hav apologized to him also....but evry mistake cant be forgetd by an apology,,,,,,,,,i cheatd him by telling lies an all tat ....yup i m a virgin...............i just want him back at anycost ...i m ready for doing sex too bt ...nw he is nt ready to have any relationship wid me..................pllll help me!!!!!!!!

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   faithellsworthposted 15 years ago

   If he is pressuring u to have sex, ask him why he wants to! u didnt really make it clear in ur question why u lost his trust but....... If he says somthin stupid like "idk...........i luv u?" then just try to get him to understand why u dont want to have sex, maybe cause ur not ready, or u just dont want to. u love him right? try to make him understand how u feel!

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   jasper420posted 15 years ago

   accept the fact that he no longer trusts you obvuosily you have broken that trust many times a pearson can only take so much you need to resect yourself and your boundreies so should he my advice dont have sex with him you want forgivness to come from the heart not from good sex. you need to show him you still respect yourself even if he dosent respect you.

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