Do you think that it's ok to date your friend's ex?

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   Tranitaposted 14 years ago

   Do you think that it's ok to date your friend's ex?
   
   Why or why not. Don't assume the length of the relationship they were in. The question is a period point blank kind of question lol If your answer is no then its no if it's yes then it's yes. No inbetweens.

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   mikicagleposted 14 years ago

   Yes-but it will be more difficult for you to keep the frienship going if her relationship with your new guy was a long one.  If you make the choice to date the ex, chances are you are going to have to choose the friendship or the man.

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   Zenith of Emotionposted 14 years ago

   Yes, it is. No friend has the right to dictate whether or not their friend and their past romantic interest should be able to date or not. If anything, a friend should want both to find the happiness they want, and the happiness they deserve.

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   Tranitaposted 14 years ago

   That's what I was trying to get at Mikicagle. How can you sit in a room with your ex and your friend and be forced to wonder if they've done the things you two had done together? How can you not wonder if he or she a loyal friend. Did he/she think about being with your ex while you were with them? Was he/she waiting for your downfall? Is friendship that relationship worth losing a friend.

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   wychicposted 14 years ago

   I suppose a lot of it would depend on what kind of terms they parted on, and how long they've been apart. If they were together "way back when" then there is little or no question that this interest cropped up after they split up, but if it's right afterward then there's more likely to be trust issues between you and your friend. If it's RIGHT after they split up, your friend is almost certain to think you were part of the cause of the breakup. You know your friend, and will know whether the reaction is likely to be good or bad about the relationship...and in that case it depends on how important your relationship with your friend is. Even the best of friends may be hurt for a while, but if this person might be "the one" and you can't live without him (?) then that's of a secondary concern. If this friend has been with you through thick and through thin and the ex might be of passing interest to you, then is it worth jeopardizing that friendship?

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   stricktlydatingposted 14 years ago

   No, it's not cool to start a dating someone your friend was in a relationship with.  There are plenty of singles out there, you should put friendships first, and not get romantically involved with your friends ex.  It should be a no-gone zone, it leads to too many complications - even when your friend is well over them - and ask yourself how you would feel if your 'friend' was intimate with someone you once loved (and/or were intimate with)...

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   outdoorsguyposted 14 years ago

   chapter one paragraph one of the guys book of rules..
   
   " 1. thou shalt never date thy buddys ex.
   2. thou shalt think carefully before asking thy buddys sister out on a date."
   
   somewhere in paragraph two is never date thy buddies mom too. 
   I hear theres a special edition in the back woods and mountains of American  but I dont have that one.

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