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Do most women look for a spouse who is most like their father?

  1. Tranita profile image60
    Tranitaposted 7 years ago

    Do most women look for a spouse who is most like their father?

    What if your father wasn't in your life?

  2. profile image53
    tryoneposted 7 years ago

    Depends on the quality and impression that your father left upon you as a child. Sure, if he's older by certain years it has been spoke of, but that's just an opinion.

  3. MickS profile image72
    MickSposted 7 years ago

    some do, some don't, everyone is different.

  4. Zenith of Emotion profile image56
    Zenith of Emotionposted 7 years ago

    I think this question can't be completely answered with either a "yes" or a "no". Going from personal experience, I find that while the people I tend to be interested in are usually more scientific and logical than I, much like my father, their personalities are completely different. I'd personally have to agree that it will partially have to do with how much of an impression the father made on their daughter, and whether or not it was a good one. Either way, if the impression is severe enough it can result in the child choosing a mate like her father, but in my relationships I find that rather than pick a male like my father (domineering, dictator, abusive, etc) I pick males that will allow me to have an equal amount of power in the relationship.

    Really, there's no set decision about it, but it makes sense in some ways. Your father is the first male to look after you, it makes sense that a female would desire a male partner to be the same way, to offer that same protection and love.

  5. wychic profile image91
    wychicposted 7 years ago

    I think some do, but I would hesitate to say "most." If I had to choose, I'd say my own husband is probably the most like my uncle, who has one of the only stable marriages I've known since childhood, has been an excellent father to his children, and has always been firm and instructive but never abusive. In my own case, my father taught me what NOT to look for in a man because, frankly, he came across to me as juvenile and spineless (yes, even as a young child I saw this), and his own relationships -- both with my mother, my stepmother, and numerous girlfriends since -- have all been disastrous. In other words, it definitely depends on the quality of father, the quality of the relationship with the daughter, and also the daughter's own independence, confidence, and knowledge of what a relationship would be like. If a daughter is extremely insecure and has a low self-esteem, I can see where she might end up with someone who is just like her abusive, neglectful, or otherwise very undesirable father. This might also happen if the daughter has, despite any shortcomings on the father's side, admired him and ends up with someone like him before learning better, as I did with my first husband.