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Would you lie to your spouse?

  1. jpcmc profile image89
    jpcmcposted 5 years ago

    Would you lie to your spouse?

  2. neeta chauhan profile image62
    neeta chauhanposted 5 years ago

    I would never lie to my spouse the reason being that if you lie once
    there is no end to it and it starts to become pretty fun for you to make
    fool of your spouse but when your spouse gets to know about all
    your lies to him/her will put him/her off you for good leaving you
    in an uncomfortable situation where all justifications will prove as
    making matters worse and ruin your relationship of trust in pieces
    in no time . So why not be brave and face the music so much so that
    because of your honesty he /she falls in love with you even more then
    before, God for bid if not then he/she was never meant for you and
    your communication is lacking something .......

  3. content4life profile image61
    content4lifeposted 5 years ago

    It depends on what the situation is.. I know we aren't suppose to lie to anyone but sometimes in different cases you may have to with hold the truth to save someone's feelings.  This is the only time I would fib a little..

  4. CriticalMessage profile image80
    CriticalMessageposted 5 years ago

    If I had a spouse and she asked me the dreaded question of 'Do I look fat in these pants?'... And knowing the truth would devastate her. Which would result in more anguish that I wish to put upon myself... Yes, I would likely lie...
    Sometimes it is a good thing not to have a spouse... *grins*

  5. mackyi profile image63
    mackyiposted 5 years ago

    It has been said that "honesty is the best of policy". I rather to be honest, because lying only makes matters worst, if she comes to find out that I have told her a lie. She wont be able to trust me again, and might even begin to question my loyalty and everything that I had told her in the past. Ultimately, this will only lead to an irretrievable breakdown in relationship.

  6. michememe profile image78
    michememeposted 5 years ago

    I agree with content4life, it depends on the situation. I actually prefer to omitt answering certain kinds of questions.

  7. avorodisa profile image84
    avorodisaposted 5 years ago

    Fool me, but skillfully fool me... You know, the question is not as easy as it seems. On the face of it, lying is no good. But if the truth that I tell hurts my spouse? There are ways to tell the truth, also. And what do you call lying? Some people lie just for fun of lying. This is definitely very sinful. Keeping in secret things that, revealed, could cause unwanted and destructive circumstances for the realtionship is probably even more ethical than telling the truth. There are so many situations in life... and in relationships. It's a jeweler's art to keep good family relationships, especially when your spouse is a person of strong temper.

  8. Brittanie2216 profile image84
    Brittanie2216posted 5 years ago

    No I would not I have in past relationships and will never again.  I want a real relationship with a real person not sugar coated at all.  Since that is what I want I do the same for my spouse.  If you really love someone you accept them for who they are and if someone really loves you they should do the same.  You can lie or alter the truth so you don't hurt their feelings but that is not giving the other person a chance to really understand you and who you are.

  9. libby1970 profile image71
    libby1970posted 5 years ago

    No. I don't think lying is ever healthy. I think once you break over into lying it becomes too easy to lie. You forget what honesty is all about and it becomes habit-forming.

    So NO lying is never a good policy! I always try to be truthful.

  10. yssubramanyam profile image60
    yssubramanyamposted 5 years ago

    no, one lie needs 1000 lies to cover up, and needs lot of memory, be honest and discuss. be open minded with life partner.

  11. JideAlexander profile image61
    JideAlexanderposted 5 years ago

    Honesty is always going to be the best policy as mackyi pointed out and I rather keep it that way. Although there may be certain circumstances where you want to be mindful of ones feelings so not to hurt them, but I think that telling them a lie will hurt worse than the truth because in the end when the truth is revealed, he'll/she'll be looking at you asking "why? Why didn't you just tell me?"

  12. joanake profile image68
    joanakeposted 5 years ago

    This seems more toward the grey areas of life. There isn't a clear cut black/white situation here as to whether you should never lie, or you'll be lying to your spouse all the time. Sometimes there are certain things that you should not be too truthful because you are trying to be tactful. Most people would want to be a good partner and tell their wives that they look beautiful everyday. But perhaps there are just some of those bad hair days that they happen to look less than dapper. Would you be truthful and tell them they look not too great?

    Surely that does nothing good on their self-esteem and it will either invoke a negative response or leave an awkward silence hanging in the air. I live by being truthful in major and most situations, but sometimes a little white lie is good for any relationship.

  13. markberch profile image62
    markberchposted 5 years ago

    honesty is the best of policy

    if you lie him/her what else matters?

  14. BraidedZero profile image91
    BraidedZeroposted 5 years ago

    I would never intentionally lie to my spouse but I would definitely keep something from her. Some things just aren't good things to bring up and are better kept a secret to avoid confrontation.

  15. adjkp25 profile image92
    adjkp25posted 5 years ago

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