been with a guy for 8 weeks and got 3 kids from previous relationship

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   deedee78posted 14 years ago

   been with a guy for 8 weeks and got 3 kids from previous relationship
   
   met a brilliant guy and we hit of straight away as soon as we met we make eachother so happy love being together never argued make eachother laugh so much but cant understand all of a sudden he tells me he cant be with me anymore because of my children i feel devastasted because i know we had a connection there it felt like we knew eachother for years?

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   a1wordposted 14 years ago

   Did he know about the kids from the start or did you just spring that one on him?
   
   If he knew all along about the kids, it sounds like he was just having a bit of fun with you. Now, he's either bored, scared or found someone else. Or all three. 
   
   If it's any consolation, you have managed to escape a doomed relationship with a spineless coward who can't even muster enough guts to take responsibility for his decision. Blaming the kids! That's not a proper man.
   
   Anyway, I hope you manage to find happiness for you and the kids.

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   deedee78posted 14 years ago

   he knew straight from the beginning about the kids thats what so weird he has been hurt really bad in the past and we agreed that we dont want a relationship straight away just enjoy eachother and whatever happens will just happen i really miss him we use to be with eachother all the time and loved being together he doesnt even want to answer my texts he got on so well with my kids he use to talk to them and laugh with them too

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   stricktlydatingposted 14 years ago

   He's not such a 'brilliant guy' because as you said he's left you 'devistated' - Try to look at the situation with your head instead of your heart.  You met someone who left you after only eight weeks, even though you felt like you've known eachother for 'years' you were only dating for two months -  and this is what happens when you're dating - things don't always work out the way you wish they would.  You might have had a 'connection' but he doesn't want to take the relationship to the next level and this might have happened whether you had children or not.  Try not to take it personally, it's just part of the dating game.

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   dracaslairposted 14 years ago

   does he accpect the kids.i got 3 girls from a past marraige.i would want a person im with to accept them

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   MPChrisposted 13 years ago

   It depends upon whether he knew about the children beforehand. I, myself, don't like children, and that issue would be a game-changer if sprung on me.
   
   However, if he knew in advance, he should be honest and give another reason, and not stick that burden on you or the children.
   
   So in both instances its either your fault (for not telling him), or his fault (for making it about the kids). But it was never really about the kids.

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